30+ and still living at home with the folks?

Anyone else in the same boat? Im 32 now and still living at home due to financial commitments, but i have to say its pretty hard. Has an impact on my relationship, having my own space, feelings of lack of achievement/progression etc. Ive heard that its not too uncommon these days to be in this sort of situation. Just wondering what the general concensus was on here?

I was living at my Dads until a year ago, which was when I was 36 lol.  I know what you mean about feeling like not having any personal space and a lack of progression etc...however for me the advantages were financial and also a feeling of safety/security.

oh that's my idea of hell. I am 32, left home when I was 17 to go to college, then moved in with my (now) husband when I was 21. Have you never lived away from your parents? It cannot be good for your mind. Do you have to let them know when you will be home and stuff?

BLADE_79


Anyone else in the same boat? Im 32 now and still living at home due to financial commitments, but i have to say its pretty hard. Has an impact on my relationship, having my own space, feelings of lack of achievement/progression etc. Ive heard that its not too uncommon these days to be in this sort of situation. Just wondering what the general concensus was on here?

I would think someone living at home at your age lacked ambition and motivation to better themself, and would never employ such a person... You obviously have it too easy at home and for whatever reason do not want to try to make it on your own...

It differs across cultures, in a lot of countries it's considered normal for three or four generations to be living under the same roof, in others it's "out as soon as legally possible"
 

lol. even the girls have moved out!!!
 
RedHotF - yes the whole letting them know when im getting home thing is a bit of an issue.
 
I did live out for a year around university, but not apart from that.
 
RobW, its a little complicated in terms of my current situation, it should come to an end soon as I am planning on moving out. Im just stuck for the moment, due to financial commitments. I just wanted to know how others felt about it. I do agree it is easy living at home, however it does impact other parts of my life which are currently bit of a struggle.

drab4


It differs across cultures, in a lot of countries it's considered normal for three or four generations to be living under the same roof, in others it's "out as soon as legally possible"

yes this is true, i guess i do fall under some of these but due to my age i think there not so relevant now.

I left home at 18 and only moved back to my parents for a couple of months when I got back from travelling (aged 22) and was looking for a job. As soon as I secured a job I was out again. I'm nearly 27 now and wouldn't feel comfortable living back with my parents for any prolonged period of time.
 
That said, I can certainly see some monetary advantages to it and my perspective may change slightly when I decide to start saving to buy my own property next year. I could probably save up enough for a deposit if I lived with my parents for a year.
 
Blade_79 - have you ever lived away from home or always been in the fmaily home??

BLADE_79


lol. even the girls have moved out!!!

RedHotF - yes the whole letting them know when im getting home thing is a bit of an issue.

I did live out for a year around university, but not apart from that.

RobW, its a little complicated in terms of my current situation, it should come to an end soon as I am planning on moving out. Im just stuck for the moment, due to financial commitments. I just wanted to know how others felt about it. I do agree it is easy living at home, however it does impact other parts of my life which are currently bit of a struggle.

Hey Blade,
 
Not trying to have a go at you... But the truth be told it will I think help you to develop as a person if you move out and sometimes you need to struggle a bit to really find who you are... Hopefully you come out better from the experience.. I know I did

RobW

BLADE_79


Anyone else in the same boat? Im 32 now and still living at home due to financial commitments, but i have to say its pretty hard. Has an impact on my relationship, having my own space, feelings of lack of achievement/progression etc. Ive heard that its not too uncommon these days to be in this sort of situation. Just wondering what the general concensus was on here?

I would think someone living at home at your age lacked ambition and motivation to better themself, and would never employ such a person... You obviously have it too easy at home and for whatever reason do not want to try to make it on your own...

 
WOW what a sh!tty comment!!! I've had my own business in the past two houses and a wife and I've lost it all. I've had to move back house a few times. So I have lacked ambition or motivation?
 
OP - Just think and be positive about things. We are living in very bad times at the moment. At least you are not homeless or living in a third world country. The biggest problem for me was the cost of living by myself and not with someone else. Can you not live with a friend so you can go halves on all costs? Chin up matey you'll get sorted soon ;)

I wouldn't worry mate, its the sensible thing to do, back in the day it was a no no, stereo types were someone who was 39, called Nigel, worked security at tesco and had nunchuks, who lived with their elderly mother , I personally was on my own from 15, probably why I'm skint now ffs........

RobW

Hey Blade,

Not trying to have a go at you... But the truth be told it will I think help you to develop as a person if you move out and sometimes you need to struggle a bit to really find who you are... Hopefully you come out better from the experience.. I know I did

Hey its cool. I do see what you mean. I do feel that i need to be put under pressure to get the best out of me. I am pretty grown up etc, i do have a mortgage, pay bills etc. so pretty much do do the same as i would living out, but just without the space etc. So yep your right in order for me to develop and grow as a person, its important that I do this now, rather then just sitting back.
 
Thanks for the motivation.

If financial constraints are a problem you could always live in a van!? CHeap and parent free?

Hi TooBig,
 
Your situation and the OP's (if i read his post correctly) are quite different... You went out into the world and tried, he says he is "still" at home which I read as meaning he has never moved out (I may be wrong)...
 
I did not start a thread saying "All people that are 32 and living at home are sad", he started the thread, asked for our opinions, and I gave mine...
 
You may think my opinion is "****ty" I feel it is hard but fair... People think they are struggling in the UK/EU but as you say have it much better than most people around the world..

Left home at 18 then moved back in from 25.27 off an on then thankfully not been back. 
 
However I understand the financial constraints of living at home. Most of my mates who got their first grad jobs in London stayed home till 28 not through lack of ambition or motivation but just to save money until they could move somewhere without the stress. 
 
Its definately better living away from home but sometimes you have to do whats best for you. 

TooBiG


WOW what a sh!tty comment!!! I've had my own business in the past two houses and a wife and I've lost it all. I've had to move back house a few times. So I have lacked ambition or motivation?

sorry mate, I didnt mean it in anyway like that. What i meant is as i havent really ventured out on my own, and gotten anything that is actually mine, i do feel like i lack progression, achievement ( its all probably relative to what you personally believe that is i guess). Thats not the same as you. At least you have gone out and tried, whether you succeeded or failed you tried and got stuck in. Im probably a little lazy i must admit, but i think when you look in the mirror sometimes and see time doesnt stop still, so you evaluate your life and then come to a conclusion. It probably based on what you see around you too. Agree times are a little hard at the moment. So shouldnt take it for granted.

Red Bull


If financial constraints are a problem you could always live in a van!? CHeap and parent free?

Tried that before......made some good money too, but now im getting sued for wrongful entrapment and abuse..... it was called the bang bus.....

lol dont really want to end up like this bloke.... no matter how tempting his lifestyle is...
 

BLADE_79

Red Bull


If financial constraints are a problem you could always live in a van!? CHeap and parent free?

Tried that before......made some good money too, but now im getting sued for wrongful entrapment and abuse..... it was called the bang bus.....

Maybe move filming to your parents bedroom..

If you had been saving your cash all this time I'd say well done mate. I know countless people who are up to their eyes in debt by jumping into an unsustainable housing market. If you haven't been saving then you obviously couldn't afford to move out.