Desperate to leave my dads house, advice please thanks.

Hello guys hope everyone's abit better than me at the minute. Desperate for some help..
Currently living with my dad and you can probably imagine after the last post regarding living off a microwave, he's a bit strange. It's like living in a prison, he doesn't let me live at all, even basic needs.. Anyway.
Today i got home from work and filled a little tub up with warm water from the bath so i could soak my tortoise as you have to do this once a day to keep them hydrated.. Just after i had finished bathing him my dad walks in. First thing he does it comes up the stairs and says "You had a bath?" i was like "No, used some warm water to soak Miles (Tortoise)" That triggered off a full blown argument with him saying "Thats obviously why i keep having cold baths"
Literally all i do is run the tap and as soon as its warm fill a little tub up with around 2cm of water, barely anything honestly..
Then he went onto saying "What else are you doing behind my back, always sneaking around.." I couldn't believe he was saying these things to me, i was just thinking in my head, " God, you've literally cracked up" and i was just looking at him..
Then he says "I've had it, i want you out the house you've got until the end of the week.."
I was shocked and upset to be fair, every chance he gets he's like "Get your stuff and F off.."
So basically i'm desperate to get out of this mess and find a place to live, im just unsure of where to start or the best way to go about it to be honest.
Not got much money at all maybe £200 to my name if that.. I was wondering, would it be possible to pay for a flat using what money i have and the rest using my overdraft just to get out of desperation, and do you guys think it would be possible to catch up and pay it back over the oncoming months without getting in major debt and problems?
Thanks a lot for listening, really appreciate it.
Adam.
 
 

Mate I don't have much advice I'm afraid but I do sympathise with your situation. Is there anywhere else you can go?

I'm sure you've weighed up the options and finances but ultimately it all comes down to what you earn and outgoings (including rent) so if you earn enough to be self sufficient and rent and pay all the associated bills/living costs then go for it and find a flat or bedsit or whatever you can afford in your area, otherwise you'll be looking for options such as sharing or living with other relatives.
 
I'm presuming from the manner of your post that your dad isn't open to discussion around how you feel, are there issues around you, you are not stating such as not paying your way etc.. or is it just a clash of personalities.

I don't know about your financial situation but you need to get out of there, it sounds awful. Is there anyone else you can stay with? Friends or relatives a week here and there? Just to give you time to really save as much as you can with your next couple of wages and organise somewhere more permanent? This situation sounds really stressful. £200 and your overdraft is probably not the ideal way to start to be honest.

Hmmm that's a difficult one, the only thing I can suggest is to go down the council offices in person and explain the situation and your finances. They have a duty of care to house you. As you haven't made your self homeless as no one could be expected to deal with that.

I take it confronting your dad is not an option? I know a lot of people wouldn't confront him in their situation for me he'd be going down the stairs father or not.

Whenever I offer to pay him money he refuses. It's like hes scared if I start paying I'm going to have to be able to buy and use a George Forman or run the hot tap when I wish, and that's not what he wants...

Its honestly not worth trying to talk to him, ive tried so many times.. All you get is "THIS IS MY HOUSE! RESPECT ME AND MY WISHES" really hard to understand how to deal with him.. It's kind of like you know the way he thinks and how he thinks negatively over things, which puts you on egg shells even though I'm not usually that kind of timid person to be honest. Ermm money wise I get payed around 230 a week working for a printing firm.. Thanks guys helps me a lot

Have you searched for house shares and the like in your area?
I was in a similar situation about 8 years ago, I was lucky enough to find a room in a "student house" which was very cheap, (I use the term student house loosely though as only 3 of the other 6 occupants were actually students)
I had to share a kitchen area with the other people and there were only 2 bathrooms which were shared and quite frankly were absolutely rank, also had to put up with music and other BS when I was trying to get my head down for work, but its better than a park bench....

What Bertstare said. Just go somewhere, a house share or a small bedsit is a start...you can get used to the outgoings and finances, the day to day of living on your own, then begin to put money aside for moving into the place you really want.
 
Good luck in whatever you do, sounds like a really difficult situation you're in.

The fastest way will be to get a job thats comes with accomodation hotel work,holiday camp.
Or as i did when in a bad spot worked 2 j

Bloody iphone sorry guys
Work 2 jobs 1 day 1night,grab sleep where you can ,this kept me busy ,occupied got income fast and i was able to grab food here and there
Plus your never out to spend it ,youll be out his way and getting money twice as fast

How old are you mate?  Sounds to me that your old man feels you've been living at home long enough and want to enjoy the rst of his years in his house how he wants.  Fair enough I think.  Get a cheap bedsit.  You earn enough to afford this.

Would you want to live in a bedsit bob?
 
I'm in a similar situation but my dad only flips every month or so. I'm 23 in a week and moved in nearly a year ago after my mum asked me to leave. I feel terrible staying here knowing my dad and step mum don't want me here, I earn £200/week, I could afford a ****ty bed sit and live of rice and porridge each day but that's not the life I want...
 
Adum, I would just try and speak to your dad, explain that you're saving up and that you'll move out as soon as you can afford to and that you're really sorry for the inconvenience that you cause for being there... I'm sure you're entitled to housing benefit if you go to citizens advice n find out, I got a form from the council house for when I do eventually move out... Good luck whatever happens anyway

you could have used a washing up bowl to soak the tortoise, but yeah if you dont like it move out but it will cost you every penny and you might end up moaning at yourself when youve used all the hot water .

CASS


Hmmm that's a difficult one, the only thing I can suggest is to go down the council offices in person and explain the situation and your finances. They have a duty of care to house you. As you haven't made your self homeless as no one could be expected to deal with that.

I take it confronting your dad is not an option? I know a lot of people wouldn't confront him in their situation for me he'd be going down the stairs father or not.

 
Not if you're childless and not 'vulnerable' (disabled, mental health problems etc). Havent since Mrs Thatch did away with that in the 80's...

A cheap flat share, perhaps a student one if your in the right area, would be the way to go.  Does not sound like a healthy situation at home mate, your dad sounds a little on the mental side and seems to enjoy the control over you perhaps?  Assuming your not in London, it's going to cost you £300/month or there abouts.
 
 

Alright mate. This might sound odd but you're best off starting by typing "homeless uk" into google
 
Read the first few links and you'll quickly see that there are options available to you and you'll probably be able to find somewhere near where you want to live. Probably by the end of the week in fact. Not saying that you're going to get a mansion or have nice neighbours, but you'll find a roof to go over your head
 
Good luck and feel free to post back for advice if you need any
 

When you have some money saved up you can go for a flat share or something
 

As has been suggested a house share will be the cheapest option. In the past I've used easyroommate.com. I've made some good friends doing it to

you've had better advice than i could give so i'll just wish you the best of luck mate. i really hope you manage to get it all sorted