***Members' Interview with badladmark***

Son of Frank:
Mark have just updated myself on this thread and want to clarify that when I said I did not care for your sexual antics it was in no founded upon your sexuality; if you were a woman that slept with 38 blokes in a week I would feel exactly the same way. Just wanted to clear that up as with hindsight it might have been read that way by some?  Don't worry about it mate, no offence taken, and I can see where you are coming from.
 
As I said earlier I applaud your honesty and hope you stick around MT for a long time as you clearly have a lot to offer this board. Thank you for saying so. I appreciate that.
 
Oh and a question now if I may -  My girlfriend has a few lesbian friends who rave about what a great time is to be had at Canal Street in Manchester. If we were to go there for a night out do you think we would enjoy it, if so why and if not why not? I think you would love it. The atmosphere is so very different to most other places. For a start, its quite clear everyone is out just to have a good night. It is generally safe and you don't really see any trouble. Sure, you might get hit on by someone who fancies you, but if you laugh it off and take it in your stride, you'll actually enoy yourself. I have seen straight guys absolutely love the attention they got and feel very comfortable with it. If you're out wiht a big bunch of straight girls however, you might get a slightly different reaction. I know if I see a big bunch of straight women out there I tend to keep an eye on them and steer well clear, just because if there is any trouble, it tends to involve such a group of shrieking harpies. I think a lot of people are now a bit cautious of them for that reason. I think you should definitely go. Start off with dinner in Taurus or Velvet, and go in lots of different bars afterwards and see where you like best.

This has been probably the best members interview so far.I applaud you Mark for being so open and honest about your lifestyle.I am sure alot of members would not agree with your hedonistic lifestyle,but who are they to judge anyone.

All the best for the future mate.

I've found this a very interesting interview - especially for the challenging questions from Papa and peagreen and Mark's honest answers.

Some questions if I may:

You said you and your boyfriend have been together for 5 years - how did you celebrate your anniversary?

Do you have any siblings?

How many pairs of shoes do you have?

Do you dress, in what could be seen as a 'provocative' manner when you go out looking for some action?  For example, in the way women might wear a low cut top and / or a mini skirt and high heels.

Just wondering what sort of clothes a gay man wears when out on the pull!

I believe it's open arse chaps, comedy wig and makeup, ill fitting high heels and an first print Lady Gaga Vinyl single under the right arm.

NEVER under the left arm.

That's the uniform guidelines as per my handbook

Mark - a long shot, do you know Christian Fildes?

Verypc: You said you and your boyfriend have been together for 5 years - how did you celebrate your anniversary? We didn't. It was noted, commented on, but not celebrated. I don't feel the need for cards or meals out or stuff like that. We ar every loving and affectionate with each other all the time, and often do things which express our appreciation for each other, which for me is enough, and means far more to me than a once or twice a year grand gesture.

Do you have any siblings? Yes, I have one sister. There's only the two of us, but I have a massive extended family.

How many pairs of shoes do you have? 12 pairs of assorted footwear. I wear boots, quite a lot, rather than shoes.

RedHotF:
Do you dress, in what could be seen as a 'provocative' manner when you go out looking for some action?  For example, in the way women might wear a low cut top and / or a mini skirt and high heels. Of course I dresss provocatively!

Just wondering what sort of clothes a gay man wears when out on the pull! I can only speak for myself, as many wouldn't wear half the stuff I would. The answer varies, depending on where I am going, too. If just going down the pub then a pair of jeans and some top that looks like its been sprayed on, probably. If out to a dance venue, then I'll only be in a pair of jeans. Any top gets taken off and put in my jacket and stays there til its hometime. I've got two pairs of jeans which are very slutty and always work in the desired effect so they are firm favourites for going out in. When I was in London the other week I was clubbing wearing just a leather jockstrap and a pair of boots (and yes, got my photo taken and ended up in a magazine- if there is a photographer in the club, its guaranteed I'll end up being 'papped' and end up in some magazine or website... happens all the time), but essex_chris, it is not unheard of to find me in a club in a pair of bare-arsed leather chaps. Obviously that's only in certain places, but would be something I'd probably be out in maybe once a month. I'll pass on the wig and slap though. Not my thing. Another thing, essex_chris, the side you wear things on, and the colour of them, like wrist bands actually IS important, as they are all ways of communicating your, ah, lets say, 'interests'.

spencerslide: Not that I know of, but I might know him if I saw him.

Hi Mark

You mention your infection date to be around Easter.

How did your partner react to the news you were infected? Was he angry, frustrated, scared etc?

Was it difficult breaking the news to him and how did you feel about breaking the news to him?

How did you manage to not infect your partner during the interim period of becoming infected and finding out?

Thanks once again.

Kinglean:
How did your partner react to the news you were infected? Was he angry, frustrated, scared etc? It might sound bizzarre, but he was actually relieved. This was because I'd been so very ill, and the uncertainty and not knowing scared the sh*t out of him. Added to which, a friend of ours got mysteriously ill a couple of years ago and it turned out to be cancer, so when I got my diagnosis, it was something he knew, understood, and realised was entirely manageable and also understood the implictions of. It was a 'known quantity' rather than an 'unknown quantity' if that makes sense. Sure, we had some long conversations about it afterwards, but it really was not as dreadful adjusting as you might expect. We had actually had a conversation about two years ago which went along the lines of 'what if one or both of us got HIV?', following two friends of ours finding out their status. We came to the conclusion that we'd just get on with it, and actually, that is exactly what has happened. I guess ultimately you're left with two choices- cope, or don't cope. The latter was not an option for me, so it was a case of cope, and just get on with life.

Was it difficult breaking the news to him and how did you feel about breaking the news to him? Well, it wasn't easy, but then again, it wasn't totally difficult. I'd said, days before when I first got ill that I thought I was seroconverting, so we'd had a few days to think about that and talk it through. It wasn't any surprise at all when they told me the results were positive. He was waiting for me, and knew what the result was because I was in for a long time (you're normally in and out when they give you  negative test results), so when they called him down the corridor, in a way, they'd already done half the work for me. I felt sad, and afterwards was afraid he'd be really angry with me, but he was absolutely incredible and has been a total rock ever since.

How did you manage to not infect your partner during the interim period of becoming infected and finding out? I told him what had happened, and so we just went to using condoms again for penetrative sex. It wasn't a big deal. Despite what some folk on here have said, there is an awful lot left on the sexual menu that isn't risky, or carries minimal risk, and he made his choices accordingly. I'll also add to that, when you get your diagnosis, there is an army of health advisors and consultants, all armed with the very up-to-the-minute information who discuss what you can and can't do and discuss level of risk from various things with you, so I'm not talking out of my arse when I say I know what is OK and what isn't. The interim period was probably more problematic, only in that I was very infectious. Now my viral load is undetectable, that also helps. It doesn't mean that its impossible to be passed on, it just means I'm a lot less infectious, and that passing it on would be quite difficult. Useful to know in case of 'accidents'

Mark can you tell us a random story of what has happened at one of your partys, i had a gooden on friday that you'll find funny: After being in out in town me and some good mates went back to a house party a gooden lots of alcohol and a long list of narcotics available etc.

At one point i kinda came to my senses for a minute and realised that me and all of my mates had been rumaging through the fancy dress box, I was dressed like Captain Jack Sparrow (i believed i was actually him) and we were was dancing to S Club 7 singing "there aint no party like an s club party"  wtf? Good times! lol

Can you share a similar story with us?

Blue:
Mark can you tell us a random story of what has happened at one of your partys,

Er, I think we perhaps go to very different kinds of parties... I cannot think that S club 7 would be on the playlist at any of the ones I go to, that's for sure. I feel ill at the thought of it.

 Most post-club parties that I go to are basically group sex sessions. So lots of sex and chems, really. I have seen some very wild things happen, and people in some pretty bad states at such parties. I've even seen (and done) things which I am sure most people would not think possible. I'll spare you the details, but if anyone really wants to know, just PM me.

I did go to one the other week which was a  'clothes on and chill out party'. I couldn't believe it- no shagging! What a novelty. Well, unless you count the shower incident. Or that one in the kitchen.  Anyway, at one point some guys disappeared and came back in various fancy dress outfits, which was all rather strange. I then also have a recollection the party continuing beyond lunchtime, and of a load of us dancing in the front garden, in our pants and sunglasses, to 'catch the sun'. Most of the neighbours were outside too, and they seemed to find it all quite amusing. Probably just as well.

Haha sounds fun, and S Club 7... come on they're legends, only joking lol but i did find it highly amusing dancing to them after a load of CK1 and MDMA. One of the guys was that wasted that he decided to go on a mission he got in a cab and drove around town and came back empty handed and didnt know why he did it and came in and shouted "Ive found treasure" but did'nt know what lol.

Hi Mark,
Don't think this has been asked but I am interested in your diet.

1. What was your initial reason for becoming vegetarian.
2. How strict have you been? Is it all meat/fish?
3. Do you find it difficult to get enough protein from a vegetarian diet?
4. Do you think you could have made bigger/faster gains if you ate meat?

Thanks!

haha that's so funny - "slutty jeans" !  

Well blue, like I say, we obviously go to different kinds of parties.... (although the chems cocktail wouldn't be unusual at one of the ones I go to)

Varg:
1. What was your initial reason for becoming vegetarian. My initial reasons are very different to my reasons now. Back then, they were about animal cruelty in farming procedures, probably something to do with 'sorting out my karma', and that kind of thing. These days my reasons are more ecological/ political and its down to eating meat being basically biologically inefficient. I realise that eating non-meat sources isn't exactly problem-free (for example the problems with deforestation in the Amazon basin to grow soya), but to me, eating meat seems far worse. Like I've said in previous posts, its such a part of who I am now, I never even think of meat as food.

2. How strict have you been? Is it all meat/fish? For a good ten years I was very strict. I'm not really able to call myself a vegetarian anymore, because for the past ten years I have been eating fish. The trouble is, when you tell people you are a piscitarian they often give you a completely blank look, so its far easier to say 'vegetarian'. Although I eat fish, I don't eat shellfish (filter feeders- no thanks! yuk!)

3. Do you find it difficult to get enough protein from a vegetarian diet? It requires some thinking about, that's for sure. when I was on my bulk a few months ago I was eating about 250-300 grams of protein a day, and have dropped that down a bit now to nearer 200 grams per day. I manage alright, but it like I say, it requires a bit of planning and thought. Switching from things like couscous to quinoa for example makes a difference, and adds in a few extra vital grams. I perhaps drink more whey shakes than I should, but that's also about sheer volume of food which I would struggle to get through otherwise.

4. Do you think you could have made bigger/faster gains if you ate meat? Its hard to say. I don't know any different, so I'm really uncertain. I've made gains anyway, and clearly can manage to get enough protein in my diet, so I'm not sure it makes a vast amount of difference.

RedHotF: Yep, slutty jeans... I'll show you a pic of them, if you like ;0)

Mark, are you suprised your interview is upto 9 pages already?
 
 

Mark : Come on pictures , as the avatar is not you.

Hazel: Mark, are you suprised your interview is upto 9 pages already? I am a bit taken aback by it all, but its nice. And here was me thinking that not many people would probably want to ask me anything, and that folk would be a bit disappointed...  hope not!

Ballbag: What exactly would you like pictures of? Be more specific, please.

badladmark



Ballbag: What exactly would you like pictures of? Be more specific, please.

Your physique of course , this is a muscle site not a porn site

ballbag; unfortunately all the photos I have which are revealing are 'promotional photos' and so are, actually, pornographic.