help for my other half thread (no joke!)

For those ladies who live with non-bodybuilders, I wanted to ask, what's the score with you and sweet stuff in the house?
I'm due to start dieting in March and my partner has a severe sweet tooth and sits down almost every night and demolishes a big packet of M&M's. 
This is all well and good now when I can tuck in but not sure how I feel about that prospect come dieting time. What do you think is acceptable and not acceptable to ask of your partner?
I've never been in this position before and have no clue where to go with it. We don't live together and I don't want to say "I won't spend time with you in the evenings cos I don't want to be around chocolate" - we'd never see each other! 

your choice to diet and deprive yourself- cant expect others around you to do the same!
 
You would hope they'd be considerate and not wave them in your face laughing but thats about it

As above

That's a fair stance - I shall take advice to mind...
After all, if I want it bad enough, no amount of chocolate will stand in my way right?

everything is acceptable really :D all dieting thing is MY thing and frankly I believe nobody else has to suffer because of my madness lol :D my sis eats what she wants to eat and doesnt feel bad/guilty only because im dieting. the same with my boyfriend - I cook them home made burgers or Thai fried chicken while i boil chicken breasts with brocolli for myself :D its all about sticking to the rules and knowing WHY you doing this :D and you doing that for yourself (well I do that because I want that :D )

If your fella knows anything at all about what you are putting yourself through, he wouldnt want to make it harder for you by ostentatious sweetie scoffing.  On the other hand you cant expect him to live off bb diet too.    Its a balance of consideration on both sides  - he will have to appreciate & support your efforts.
 
My boyf has a got a bad sweeth tooth too.  He doesnt live with me, but he does keep trying to stock my cupboards with biscuits and chocoloate so he's got stuff when he's here.....its not good really, hence my chocolate biscuit disaster during the SUC.  I make him take it back with him now.   If we lived together, I think I would get a biscuit tin for him with a combination lock on it...... 
 
good luck with diet
 
 
 
 

I'm thinking lock on the cupboard might help :-D
 
I can handle it being eaten next to me, I'm just not sure how I feel if it gets left in my house alone with me... lol 

flick161


For those ladies who live with non-bodybuilders, I wanted to ask, what's the score with you and sweet stuff in the house?
I'm due to start dieting in March and my partner has a severe sweet tooth and sits down almost every night and demolishes a big packet of M&M's. 
This is all well and good now when I can tuck in but not sure how I feel about that prospect come dieting time. What do you think is acceptable and not acceptable to ask of your partner?
I've never been in this position before and have no clue where to go with it. We don't live together and I don't want to say "I won't spend time with you in the evenings cos I don't want to be around chocolate" - we'd never see each other! 

Now add three kids into the mix.....and that's my situation. I still have to cook for four others that love everything and anything I am not allowed to have....so I just get on with it. Competitive bodybuilding, dieting and general prep is my thing not theirs and therefore don't inflict it on them.
 
Lou XX

flick161

 I'm thinking lock on the cupboard might help :-D

I can handle it being eaten next to me, I'm just not sure how I feel if it gets left in my house alone with me... lol 

Seriously not a bad idea, Mark got good at hiding things, didn't even realise he was, I was soOo wrapped up, bless him! 

flick161

After all, if I want it bad enough, no amount of chocolate will stand in my way right?

This from the ladee who eats protein powder direct from the tub to get her fix when desperate enuf! 
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Hey Flick,
 
My husband is a) an endurance athlete b) about double my size and c) has a headful of the sweetest teeth of anyone I've ever known! Add to that the fact that (like has already been said above) I am of the mind that "to diet" is my decision and shouldn't affect anyone else... this results in a lot of sweets and biscuits in the house.
 
I don't know how or why  but honestly, during prep, the stuff wasn't even on my radar. I knew it was in the house (I buy it, and I make husband his packed lunch every day) but it just didn't occur to me to eat it.
 
We do keep all "his" stuff in a particular tin in the kitchen, perhaps this might help - symbolically it's "his" stuff, not in amongst all "ours" or "mine"?
 
Dunno! I bet you find it easier than you think - when the blinkers are on, nothing will stop you!
 
Having said that I did find it hard when he'd eat goodies during particularly tough weeks for me - I remember we went to the cinema once, about 3 or 4 weeks out, and he scoffed his typical huge bag of pic & mix and I sat there silently fuming, thinking "really? REALLY? Do you really NEED those sweets? Would it kill you to not have them just this one time?" But of course he didn't really know what my deepest feelings were on that particular day of that particular week... and also, of course, why on earth should he  not eat his revolting sweets? He's not dieting for a show, and we're just out at the cinema having a nice evening...
 
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flick161

After all, if I want it bad enough, no amount of chocolate will stand in my way right?

This from the ladee who eats protein powder direct from the tub to get her fix when desperate enuf! 
xx

Is that your way of saying you think I can't handle not eating chocolate?
 
The protein powder thing, I did once, mannnn that was the worst idea EVER! I ate so much, I had the worst stomach ache EVER!  
 
It funny, I realise, the only time the whole sweets thing gets to me is around my time of the month - now I'm done, it doesn't even cross my mind - I barely touched choc or sweets all weekend! (Did eat a fair amount of stinky cheese though) 

NicChip


Hey Flick,

My husband is a) an endurance athlete b) about double my size and c) has a headful of the sweetest teeth of anyone I've ever known! Add to that the fact that (like has already been said above) I am of the mind that "to diet" is my decision and shouldn't affect anyone else... this results in a lot of sweets and biscuits in the house.

I don't know how or why  but honestly, during prep, the stuff wasn't even on my radar. I knew it was in the house (I buy it, and I make husband his packed lunch every day) but it just didn't occur to me to eat it.

We do keep all "his" stuff in a particular tin in the kitchen, perhaps this might help - symbolically it's "his" stuff, not in amongst all "ours" or "mine"?

Dunno! I bet you find it easier than you think - when the blinkers are on, nothing will stop you!

Having said that I did find it hard when he'd eat goodies during particularly tough weeks for me - I remember we went to the cinema once, about 3 or 4 weeks out, and he scoffed his typical huge bag of pic & mix and I sat there silently fuming, thinking "really? REALLY? Do you really NEED those sweets? Would it kill you to not have them just this one time?" But of course he didn't really know what my deepest feelings were on that particular day of that particular week... and also, of course, why on earth should he  not eat his revolting sweets? He's not dieting for a show, and we're just out at the cinema having a nice evening...

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Thanks Nic - can totally sympathise with you on the cinema thing  And laughing out loud at you silently fuming - I've done that before - and realised I wasn't even concentrating on the film I was so engrossed in my own thoughts! I used to take rice cakes to the cinema with me and sprinkle them with a little Splenda... Does this make me sad? 
 
I guess I've NEVER lived in a house of treats - not when I was a kid, not as an adult, not even now where I live. I think that's why I've had to actually think about this - it's potentially a big change for me - but one I'm looking forward to 

I can remember it so well. I was nearly crying LOL! What a dick! So self-indulgent... "wahhh... poor little meeeee..." Ha ha!
 
To be fair I'm sure my husband would actually not eat the sweets if I asked him - I remember he once ordered a pizza during prep and offered to eat it in the other room (!) but I said no because I'd rather have his pizza-eating company than sit there by myself like a saddo!
 
As you say it will be a change and a challenge but, like every challenge during prep, when you overcome it/resist it, all the more cause for celebration!
 
And PS no it doesn't make you sad at all. Resourceful! I've made my own "icecream" (protein powder, quark etc) and frozen it in advance, in one of those thermal coffee mugs, and smuggled it into the cinema. With a teaspoon. PMSL!

NicChip


I can remember it so well. I was nearly crying LOL! What a dick! So self-indulgent... "wahhh... poor little meeeee..." Ha ha!

To be fair I'm sure my husband would actually not eat the sweets if I asked him - I remember he once ordered a pizza during prep and offered to eat it in the other room (!) but I said no because I'd rather have his pizza-eating company than sit there by myself like a saddo!

As you say it will be a change and a challenge but, like every challenge during prep, when you overcome it/resist it, all the more cause for celebration!

And PS no it doesn't make you sad at all. Resourceful! I've made my own "icecream" (protein powder, quark etc) and frozen it in advance, in one of those thermal coffee mugs, and smuggled it into the cinema. With a teaspoon. PMSL!

 
Haha I know all about the ice-cream into the cinema, I used to mix up protein powder into a mousse and have that with my rice cakes! Bliss 
 
Some days I really like 'watching' people eat yummy things - especially pizza - but then other days like you I just think "Stop eating it!!!! Immediately! No more until I've gotten onstage!"  Now I'm reading this and chuckling at my self-indulgent "waaaah poor me" act too 
 
I know people who don't go out, or do nothing, during prep, I just hate being one of those, but it makes it all the more challenging to be 'fun'.
 
Maybe I'll move to the country for 6 months 

It does make it much more challenging but I really like the challenge and feel great when I find a way round it or a way to take part in whatever it is without wrecking my prep and without wrecking the mood of the event. Like when I went on (and organised!) my best friend's hen do -didn't touch a drop of alcohol, have any of the cakes, and went to the restaurant but asked them to do me something prep-worthy. It all worked fine and most importantly didn't affect my friend's do or anyone's enjoyment of it. I'd far rather do that than just not go out. It's a bit more effort and forethought but that makes it all the more worth it to me  I suppose we should just be grateful that we have partners/friends/family who are understanding and supportive. It must be hugely difficult for BBers who don't have such a support network. 

NicChip

 I suppose we should just be grateful that we have partners/friends/family who are understanding and supportive. It must be hugely difficult for BBers who don't have such a support network. 

 
I know a few of them and it make me want to cry, they're so brave - I couldn't imagine doing it without support! 

slightly agains the grain here, and say that they should go some way to kerbing their eating of sweet stuff.
 
Bodybuilding and dieting may not be their thing, but it is yours, and its a huge part of who you are, if they love you they have to love all of you, and bodybuilding makes you the person they love.
 
I woudlnt have anything kept in the house, its just not fair.
 
If they bring something home, and eat it without making a fuss, ie just sit down and eat it then thats ok.  I wouldnt be all that happy if it was smelly tasty stuff like chinese or pizza though.  bag of chocs is alright, because its fairly easy to ignore.
 
all good saying if you want it bad enough it wont matter, but stuff being in the house etc increases the mental torture you have to go through IME!

my boyfriend is the same the worst is tat the cinema he gets a massive popcorn cos its only 35p more then eats it and i end up eating some of it. i even asked him to not get popcorn but then i felt mean cos if your not dieting its part of the cinema experience lol

We made quite a few plans over New Year.
 
I can handle people eating stuff around me (I realised), I just don't like being left alone in the house with it.
 
So, chocolate bar wise, we bought a lockable box where all the sweet stuff is kept  Seems to work quite well.
 
Already done the cinema thing, and felt smugly superior when friend was noshing popcorn and drinking huge coffee and I was drinking my water  Am off to see Iron Lady next weekend with my mum too. GO ME!

wow go you!!! i know how many calories are in cinema popcorn too and its horrifying!!!