Just interested to hear other views on this - i have always paid for things in the past but always seem to get taken for granted.

In the relationships that i have had where there is give and take they always seem to work out better.

I know it is the gentlemanly thing to do to pay for things/everthing - but it never seems to work out well from experience.

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id never pay for everything..id treat her sometimes but it has to be half and half if you are both working full time imo

A middle ground should be established at the earliest opportunity.

depends what stage your relationship is at .Earlly days go dutch or atleast make them pay for some things or they will take the p iss .Make the most of it now i have a littln i pay for everything....

I'm married but we have seperate accounts. We each have our own allocated bills to pay but TBH neither of us took the time to establish if we pay equal amounts. At the end of the day both our incomes are 'ours'. If my wife is short and needs money (as she earns less) then assuming I have spare funds she'll usually get it...... at a favourable rate

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As per DV,we spread the weight but its a mutal kitty,its easier when you live together as you have no choice but to divv in ,when dating its normally downhill for the man and kerrhcing for the women

My OH owns a fair bit more than me so we do try to go 50/50 now i'm on a better wage... But a few mnths back it was more like 60/40... Didn't like it really but you have to accept it sometimes... A good friend of mine his misses pulls in over 60k a year without bonus's and he hate's it, it has nearly cost them thier marriage a couple of times..

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All you can do is keep your wits about you and play it by ear IMO

Some people have more spare cash than others , it doesn't necassarily make them a gold digger or anything - of course , if someone is taking advantage of your good nature , you need to be able to identify that and put it right , but I think it would be wrong to start 'making rules' - no one likes a penny pincher [:D

I think being able to judge individual situations like this on their own merit , rather than working to a fixed set of rules is going to be very important life skill

Maybe I'm soft but, before we were married, I paid the mortgage, gas, water, electricity, council tax, insurance, food bill, nights out and still gave the fiancee £500 a month.

Not sure if the division of payment really matters unless you're skint.

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IF i had the money id pay the lot 100%,as would she if i was skint and she had money,we all like to look after those we love

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depends what stage your relationship is at .Earlly days go dutch or atleast make them pay for some things or they will take the p iss .Make the most of it now i have a littln i pay for everything....

WTF - some of us earn more than their men and some of us, believe it or not don't take the piss.

I pay one day she will pay the next...

we'll go to the cinema and she will say "you paid last time for the tickets, i'll get them, you buy the drinks n snacks"

etc etc works this way for eating out too

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Everything is in my name, but the cost is 50/50

But now she can stake a 50/50 claim

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Hmmm.

At the mo seeing this chick ( Superwomen ) Lovely Girl Skint, SO i been Paying for drinks etc all though i pay for 2 rounds and she wont have any more so she dont take the piss, And i dont mind at the mo as im waiting for my mortgage to go through.

IMO if i was living with some one it would be 50/50 and the odd treats to each other.

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early on in the relationship i told my girlfriend im not paying for everything. 50/50 i said that way when i do treat you its a nice suprise rather than the usual!

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we have a joint account
both of wages go into it
we both take money out when we want to
big purchases are consulted but mainly we both use it like normal

plus she gets paid in the middle of month, me at end

so we live on my wages for the first half of month, and hers for last half!

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We split most things, but I earn more so sometimes treat her (like to a holiday in Paris and the odd meal), and always pay for petrol.

The idea of splitting is so she desn't go stupid or take me for granted

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ORIGINAL: wiffers

We split most things, but I earn more so sometimes treat her (like to a holiday in Paris and the odd meal), and always pay for petrol.

The idea of splitting is so she desn't go stupid or take me for granted

Im along the same lines as this.
dont mind paying for more as I earn more however I couldnt have a
joint account as my gf has no concept of careful spending!!