is there a name for this fear I have

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (jango)

Sun, 15 Nov 2009 00:31:35 GMT

No, and I don't want to.

I want to be able to sleep tonight.

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (jacked_fibres)

Sun, 15 Nov 2009 00:30:51 GMT

have you read about 'munting' jango, that's also lovely.

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (jango)

Sat, 14 Nov 2009 23:38:08 GMT

Reborn

jango

Blue_Lagoon3000

Jango do you mind if i ask why you are scared of kissing? Its not bad for you.
Not trying to dig you, just interested.

Don't mind you asking at all. I have no problem talking about it either, but I don't want to hijack Tucs' thread.

I have a great many mouth and throat related OCD disorders. Kissing however is just plain nasty mate. How anyone can get pleasure from letting someone spit in their mouths is beyond me.

You must love rimming then?

Kissing is simply a sign of relaxed oral hygiene in my opinion. People just get caught up in the moment and don't think about all that saliva and food that they're consuming from someone elses' mouth. However, I cannot help but think that rimming indicates some form of mental illness.

I'm not a mental health professional so I may be wrong on that one. It's just my own opinion.

I have recently heard about something called velching. I sincerely hope it's an urban myth. If human beings actually get pleasure from such activities then I am truly lost for words. To even consider engaging in this repugnant pursuit, one must not only be mentally ill, but also under the influence of veterinary strength medication.

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (badladmark)

Sat, 14 Nov 2009 21:28:47 GMT

PMSL@ Reborn

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (Reborn)

Sat, 14 Nov 2009 19:39:01 GMT

jango

Blue_Lagoon3000

Jango do you mind if i ask why you are scared of kissing? Its not bad for you.
Not trying to dig you, just interested.

Don't mind you asking at all. I have no problem talking about it either, but I don't want to hijack Tucs' thread.

I have a great many mouth and throat related OCD disorders. Kissing however is just plain nasty mate. How anyone can get pleasure from letting someone spit in their mouths is beyond me.

You must love rimming then?

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (essex_chris)

Sat, 14 Nov 2009 16:10:04 GMT

I totally understand you being one way with anyone other than yourself and yet completely different at other times.

This is absolutely how i am. Pushing myself outside of my comfot zone is almost impossibly hard. Not impossible, as i've recently done some things that were more than a little outside my comfort zone but worth the while Possibly more on those later!

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (paulmcnally)

Sat, 14 Nov 2009 15:05:25 GMT

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (badladmark)

Sat, 14 Nov 2009 07:03:05 GMT

OCD *is* an anxiety disorder, so it would stand to reason if you have OCD you'll experience high levels of anxiety

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (tuc biscuit)

Sat, 14 Nov 2009 06:22:23 GMT

cheers for the replies everyone, I will do that test and have a look at that book tac

I was doing some reading about it on the net last night and it seems I have a classic checking compulsion, I have all the testbook things like checking oven is off, door and windows are shut etc.

One place, and I really agreed, said that it is down to not wanting anything bad to happen to other people or your property that is your fault and it is an exaggerated sense of responsibility, and that if you are staying at someone else's house you don't have to check anything as it is not your responsibilty. I really agreed with that and found it true.

Last night I did pretty well, normally at night my little routine of checking probably takes about 10-15 minutes, I cut it down to about 2-3 minutes last night, ie. checking the taps were off once and not 8, 16, 32, 64 times etc.

it's funny when you know something is unreasonable behaviour, but you still do it

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (tac)

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 23:49:01 GMT

The standard diagnostic test for OCD is the YBOCS, you can self-administer it, theres an online version here:

YBOCS

Try reading Brain Lock by Jeffrey Schawrtz (not sure of the spelling of the name).

Excellent book (by a Dr that is also an OCD sufferer), explains what goes on with OCD and gives a very straightforward 4 step programme (using cognitive-behavioural, relaxation and meditiation/awareness techniques) for dealing with it that can be used on a self-help basis

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (Wasp)

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:49:25 GMT

You get it when you're stressed mate.

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (CalderaVII)

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:42:15 GMT

tuc biscuit

going out of the house of to bed can turn into a right palava (sp?) for me, checking everything is off and secure, if I am feeling generally anxious for any reason it is much worse, sometimes it is ok, sometimes I have made improvments by exposing myself to my fears (ie. only allowing myself to check the back door once etc.) but then if something happens I go back to square one quickly

my gf is so casual as well, leving lights on overnight, candles burning, gas cooker dials barely turned off etc. and that makes me worse

I use to have the same problem Tuc and understand what you're experiencing. I have always considered it just a bit of anxiety and OCD. The things I needed to check was making sure all main electric items were off, all appliances that will not be used often turned off at the socket, turning all lights off, checking the cooker and gas is off and also making sure all doors are locked. If I didn't do this I would feel incomplete and needed to do it to have peace of mind.

Eventually, over the past couple of years I have looked at what I did from a wider picture and tried to rationalise with myself what I was doing and why. To cut a long story short, nowadays before I go to bed I still check the lights, doors and gas/cooker once but it's alot more relaxed and normal instead obsessively checking everything.

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (Blue_Lagoon3000)

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:37:23 GMT

jango

Blue_Lagoon3000

Jango do you mind if i ask why you are scared of kissing? Its not bad for you.
Not trying to dig you, just interested.

Don't mind you asking at all. I have no problem talking about it either, but I don't want to hijack Tucs' thread.

I have a great many mouth and throat related OCD disorders. Kissing however is just plain nasty mate. How anyone can get pleasure from letting someone spit in their mouths is beyond me.

Thats what its all about, exchanging bodily fluids so what if Jenna Jameson came at you with her lips?

Surely you wouldn't turn her down?

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (RedHotF)

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:33:56 GMT

Same here really, I think it's a sort of ocd?
I check everything before I leave my room...then check again...then down the stairs and sometimes I have to check again. I have a problem with clocks as well as in timing everything. It's stressful.

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (jango)

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:33:18 GMT

tuc biscuit

going to bed now and really, really going to try and expose myself to my fears tonight of not excessively checking everything many times

wish me good luck

Good luck. Face them down. It's the only way.

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (tuc biscuit)

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:27:03 GMT

going to bed now and really, really going to try and expose myself to my fears tonight of not excessively checking everything many times

wish me good luck

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (tuc biscuit)

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:09:45 GMT

JimRat

Obsessions = recurrent, intrusive thoughts (in yourself, eg fear you've left the door unlocked)

Compulsions = behaviours which aims to reduce anxiety from above but paradoxically increases it (eg, re-checking the door is locked a hundred times).

Jimbo

hah, it's like you've been spying on me

going out of the house of to bed can turn into a right palava (sp?) for me, checking everything is off and secure, if I am feeling generally anxious for any reason it is much worse, sometimes it is ok, sometimes I have made improvments by exposing myself to my fears (ie. only allowing myself to check the back door once etc.) but then if something happens I go back to square one quickly

my gf is so casual as well, leving lights on overnight, candles burning, gas cooker dials barely turned off etc. and that makes me worse

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (badladmark)

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:05:23 GMT

Generalised Anxiety Disorder

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (jango)

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:02:58 GMT

Blue_Lagoon3000

Jango do you mind if i ask why you are scared of kissing? Its not bad for you.
Not trying to dig you, just interested.

Don't mind you asking at all. I have no problem talking about it either, but I don't want to hijack Tucs' thread.

I have a great many mouth and throat related OCD disorders. Kissing however is just plain nasty mate. How anyone can get pleasure from letting someone spit in their mouths is beyond me.

Re:is there a name for this fear I have (JimRat)

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 21:58:20 GMT

Obsessions = recurrent, intrusive thoughts (in yourself, eg fear you've left the door unlocked)

Compulsions = behaviours which aims to reduce anxiety from above but paradoxically increases it (eg, re-checking the door is locked a hundred times).

Jimbo