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2008/05/13 20:28:00 (permalink)

Anger management

I have had anger issues all my life.

In the last few years I have really had it under control, but last week I had a minor 'relapse' when my boss asked me to do something that I thought was an absolute liberty.

To say I may have overreacted might be putting it lightly, but he asked at the wrong time and I just started to throw furniture about.

Anyway, I still have my job but the people I work with have never seen this side of me before and they now think I'm a psychopath.

Really gutted this has happened, anyone else got anger issues?
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    muscleman2008
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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 20:33:25 (permalink)
    yeh, when i lose my temper i lose it completley and go in to a blind rage, had anger management and tbh it didnt work for me at all. People also think im a physchopath and the weightlifting doesnt help the situation lol.
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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 20:47:06 (permalink)
    I dont get angry enough and let people walk over me a bit id say.
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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 20:48:08 (permalink)
    Play please have my anger! its better to let people walk over you than getting yourself into trouble over some stupid thing.
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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 20:54:54 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: muscleman2008

    Play please have my anger! its better to let people walk over you than getting yourself into trouble over some stupid thing.


    i know what you mean but say if i lend someone some money sometimes they take advatage and dont pay it back as urgently as they would others and things like that.

    Im so layed back i could be asleep hahaaha
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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 21:11:12 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: jango

    I have had anger issues all my life.



    How have you dealt with these?

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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 21:19:55 (permalink)

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    ORIGINAL: jango

    I have had anger issues all my life.



    How have you dealt with these?


    Tried the group therapy thing, but it wasn't for me. I just kept getting angry.

    The Doc wanted to prescrbe some meds, but I didn't want to go down that road.

    I have to say that training has been the most positive thing I have utilised in keeping my temper under control.
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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 21:22:44 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: jango


    ORIGINAL: JohnKerr2


    ORIGINAL: jango

    I have had anger issues all my life.



    How have you dealt with these?


    Tried the group therapy thing, but it wasn't for me. I just kept getting angry.

    The Doc wanted to prescrbe some meds, but I didn't want to go down that road.

    I have to say that training has been the most positive thing I have utilised in keeping my temper under control.


    Any idea where it comes from?

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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 21:29:18 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: JohnKerr2

    Any idea where it comes from?



    I had pretty bad Tourettes as a kid, which often led me to become very frustrated very quickly. I can only surmise that this is a major factor. As the Tourettes has gotten better, my anger issues have also become less of a problem so take from that what you will.

    I also had an Irish granny, and she had a temper like you wouldn't believe.
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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 21:31:30 (permalink)

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    ORIGINAL: JohnKerr2

    Any idea where it comes from?



    I had pretty bad Tourettes as a kid, which often led me to become very frustrated very quickly. I can only surmise that this is a major factor. As the Tourettes has gotten better, my anger issues have also become less of a problem so take from that what you will.

    I also had an Irish granny, and she had a temper like you wouldn't believe.


    What would help avoid this sort of situation in the future?

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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 21:38:37 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: JohnKerr2


    ORIGINAL: jango


    ORIGINAL: JohnKerr2

    Any idea where it comes from?



    I had pretty bad Tourettes as a kid, which often led me to become very frustrated very quickly. I can only surmise that this is a major factor. As the Tourettes has gotten better, my anger issues have also become less of a problem so take from that what you will.

    I also had an Irish granny, and she had a temper like you wouldn't believe.


    What would help avoid this sort of situation in the future?


    That's an excellent question, but it's a question to which I appear to have no answer.

    There will always be people who will try to take the piss. This is the thing that rouses my anger the most, when I feel that someone is trying to take advantage.

    These people are sadly unavoidable in life.
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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 21:51:59 (permalink)

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    What would help avoid this sort of situation in the future?


    That's an excellent question, but it's a question to which I appear to have no answer.

    There will always be people who will try to take the piss. This is the thing that rouses my anger the most, when I feel that someone is trying to take advantage.

    These people are sadly unavoidable in life.


    Well put it this way, what would you be prepared to do to help avoid this situation in future?

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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 21:56:49 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: JohnKerr2

    Well put it this way, what would you be prepared to do to help avoid this situation in future?



    Quite a bit, although I wouldn't go for hypnotherapy as I don't want some strange man wandering around my head.
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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 21:59:41 (permalink)

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    ORIGINAL: JohnKerr2

    Well put it this way, what would you be prepared to do to help avoid this situation in future?



    Quite a bit, although I wouldn't go for hypnotherapy as I don't want some strange man wandering around my head.



    I sounds like it's something that causes you anxiety.

    I wonder if you'd consider some sort of psychological counselling. Something like cognitive-behavioural therapy might help you examine the situations that trigger your anger and rehearse different ways of coping with them and the feelings they provoke.

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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 22:05:36 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: JohnKerr2
    I wonder if you'd consider some sort of psychological counselling. Something like cognitive-behavioural therapy might help you examine the situations that trigger your anger and rehearse different ways of coping with them and the feelings they provoke.


    Funny you should say that. I am familiar with CBT as my sister had it for panic attacks (we're all nutters in my family)and it worked well for her. Although she found that the quality of therapists varied greatly.

    I never really thought of my anger as being anxiety related, but I suppose it is. CBT never occured to me as a possible solution but now that you mention it, you could be right.
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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 22:11:55 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: jango


    ORIGINAL: JohnKerr2
    I wonder if you'd consider some sort of psychological counselling. Something like cognitive-behavioural therapy might help you examine the situations that trigger your anger and rehearse different ways of coping with them and the feelings they provoke.


    Funny you should say that. I am familiar with CBT as my sister had it for panic attacks (we're all nutters in my family)and it worked well for her. Although she found that the quality of therapists varied greatly.

    I never really thought of my anger as being anxiety related, but I suppose it is. CBT never occured to me as a possible solution but now that you mention it, you could be right.


    It's a potential avenue at any rate.

    A good CBT therapist will work towards a tangible end-point; in your case perhaps an end to impulsive acts of anger.

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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 22:18:49 (permalink)

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    A good CBT therapist will work towards a tangible end-point; in your case perhaps an end to impulsive acts of anger.


    My anger is not the problem it used to be, but it's still there. So yes you're right, it is certainly something to consider. Right now I need to convince my work colleagues that I'm not Jeffrey Dahmer.
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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 22:21:39 (permalink)

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    A good CBT therapist will work towards a tangible end-point; in your case perhaps an end to impulsive acts of anger.


    My anger is not the problem it used to be, but it's still there. So yes you're right, it is certainly something to consider. Right now I need to convince my work colleagues that I'm not Jeffrey Dahmer.


    You tried to eat one of them?

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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 22:26:35 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: JohnKerr2

    You tried to eat one of them?



    No but a psycho is a psycho to most people.
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    RE: Anger management 2008/05/13 22:31:16 (permalink)
    Not really, I need pushing to get angry.
    I don't get gradually wound up. I am either very angry or not at all.
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