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2014/11/13 15:48:45 (permalink)
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Anxiety over dying

Is it normal to suffer anxiety over the thought of dying?  
I've been really struggling over the past 6 months with the anxiety that I'm going to die.  At first I ignored it but it's starting to keep me up at night.  I know it sounds ridiculous but it's really starting to affect me.
 
Do we all go through a stage like this or am I just weird?

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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 15:55:11 (permalink)
I get this. I had it really bad when I turned 30, cancelled holidays etc and really felt like I was losing the plot. Became quite obsessed, couldn't go out without looking around thinking what's the point of it all, like you say, sleepless nights and so on. Sounds daft but for me I just try and not think about it and distract myself, I have still have moments but I try and snap myself out of it

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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 16:30:22 (permalink)
My grandad suffered from it, didn't go out much, never went abroad but lived happily at home until he was 90.
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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 16:34:28 (permalink)
its not in our hearts to die, we all want to live forever 
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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 16:34:32 (permalink)
I think most are scared of dying, just dont admit it.  Im not that comfy over it myself

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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 17:00:45 (permalink)
 
The thought of dying myself hasn't yet bothered me at all....
 
...but the thought of family and friends passing away scares the sh*t out of me.
 
 
Why should I be scared to die?  I won't be here to know about it!
 
 

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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 17:04:38 (permalink)
Every 10 years or so I spent two weeks in a pit of depression over the thought of dying. Comes on completely randomly with seemingly no trigger. Pretty miserable couple of weeks but it finally goes, through no actual effort on my behalf. Very strange.
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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 17:13:48 (permalink)
I think we all go through a phase where our mortality dawns on us, Maybe it's part of a natural mechanism for coming to terms with it?  Inevitably we WILL die, and the older we get the more probable it becomes. but we can't live our lives in anticipation of it. Last year I was convinced I had cancer (I didn't), and the thing that surprised  me was, that I felt I had actually come to terms with the idea of dying somewhat. Before that point the though of dying horrified me.
       Of course, with the panic over I am pleased to be alive and dying is the last thing I want to do. but I think the episode taught me that I didn't have to live my later years in constant fear, when the time comes I WILL be able to deal with it. 
      I realise this is a bit different from what you are saying, but I think your mind is simply going through a process of realise your mortality. 
         

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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 17:23:08 (permalink)
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Every 10 years or so I spent two weeks in a pit of depression over the thought of dying. Comes on completely randomly with seemingly no trigger. Pretty miserable couple of weeks but it finally goes, through no actual effort on my behalf. Very strange.


Stephen Fry suffers with that exact same thing.
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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 17:33:15 (permalink)☄ Helpfulby Shae 2014/11/13 22:44:53
Yes its natural to be aware of your own mortality but then again knowing you have a finite amount of time on the earth inspires me to do cool stuff and make the most of it.
 
At the end of the day your going to die so don't worry about the inevitable. Just worry about not dying in a slow painful way. 

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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 19:08:57 (permalink)
Something that's never really bothered me (tbh at times in my past I probably would have welcomed it) until I had my daughter, obviously I want to see as much of her growing up as possible though and the thought of leaving my wife and daughter to cope on their own is quite harrowing.

Not something I think about much though. I find the thought of getting old (as in proper old - weak, frail, reliant on others etc) far worse!
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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 19:46:06 (permalink)
Yea it crops up in my mind here and there but its more of a reality check to crack on and enjoy it.
 
Losing loved ones on the other hand does bother me, especially when both parents are getting older and you hear of people dropping dead at 50-60 etc.  
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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 21:06:58 (permalink)
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Yes its natural to be aware of your own mortality but then again knowing you have a finite amount of time on the earth inspires me to do cool stuff and make the most of it.
 
At the end of the day your going to die so don't worry about the inevitable. Just worry about not dying in a slow painful way. 


My sister-in-law died 2 years ago last Monday. A slow and painful process it was for her. Took over a year from when she really started to go downhill. In the end she needed a heart and liver transplant but was too weak for either. Was hard on us all and it has brought home how finite life is. She was full of life and always happy. I just hope a get a nice quick heart attack when it's my time!
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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 21:11:44 (permalink)
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I think we all go through a phase where our mortality dawns on us, Maybe it's part of a natural mechanism for coming to terms with it?  Inevitably we WILL die, and the older we get the more probable it becomes. but we can't live our lives in anticipation of it. Last year I was convinced I had cancer (I didn't), and the thing that surprised  me was, that I felt I had actually come to terms with the idea of dying somewhat. Before that point the though of dying horrified me.
       Of course, with the panic over I am pleased to be alive and dying is the last thing I want to do. but I think the episode taught me that I didn't have to live my later years in constant fear, when the time comes I WILL be able to deal with it. 
      I realise this is a bit different from what you are saying, but I think your mind is simply going through a process of realise your mortality. 
         


My mum always says be ready to go at any time. She's very religious though.
But I don't think there's anything worse than being in a blind panic about something you nor no one else on earth can help you avoid.
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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 21:25:07 (permalink)
Not really, and I suffer from general anxiety.
 
Dad always had said to me that the only absolute certainty in anyone's life, is that one day you will be dead, its just a fact.
 
And so it is, once you realise that their is an end to all life on this planet, you realise its not a strange thing.
 
Of course this could vary massively according to your own beliefs.
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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 21:26:11 (permalink)
I think about it a lot, I couldn't care less if something happened to me tomorrow It just worries me how my family would react.
I have told my missus many times now that if something does happen to me and I'm in hospital for any length of time, I don't want her sat next to my bed 24 hours a day, a half hour visit every couple of days will do, i see my job as a man is to protect her and keep her and our family safe, not to have her looking after me. I would want her to carry on having fun with the kids and enjoying herself not sat feeling sorry for me.
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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 21:29:09 (permalink)
This might cheer someone up!

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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 22:26:55 (permalink)
No I don't worry about dying, strangely. But now that you've planted the seed I'll be up all fckin night fretting lol.
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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 22:34:31 (permalink)
I half do, I am going to freeze myself if I need to, I am hoping that in 40 years when i'm in my 70's that i'll be able to have most things replaced if needed and that we will have fixes for degenerative brain issues. i'd be fine with a body transplant if that was needed or possible. I intend to spend a fair bit of cash on researching this if things continue to go to plan. That and building an iron man suit are 2 of my ambitions. ha
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Re: Anxiety over dying 2014/11/13 23:02:59 (permalink)
I am not so much worried about it. I have seen so many people die I can no longer put a number on it. I would have to say if anything about death bothers me it would be to die alone. I have held many hands and heads of a stranger who were dying. I hope when it is my time it is not a stranger that is holding my hand. Seeing so many people die has taught me to not get caught up in when one is going to die. Most of these people never saw it coming. They had no clue when they walked out the door that day it was their last day. So don't worry about when death comes. Enjoy the moment because it may be the last moment you have to tell someone you love them, share a laugh, or hug and kiss them goodbye.
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