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2014/11/11 23:56:52 (permalink)

Are you a jealous person?

When it comes to the relationships?

I am extremely, and I can't really help it. Certain things in life don't help either, especially social media and ultimately something worse: snapchat and its use of "top 3" best friends. Worst invention in the world.

As of yesterday I was seeing a girl, nothing serious but enough for me to respect her not to get with anyone else. Thought that was a mutual understanding but she admitted to me that she took someone else home on Saturday (after we agreed I would stay in hers that night, so after her ignoring my calls and texts I finally found somewhere to crash at 4am). I'm too proud to ask who because i know it's none of my business but I'm constantly checking up on her Snapchat/FB to see if I can find out who.

I need to get a grip. Anyone similar to me? Easiest way to control it? I don't want to delete her off Facebook etc as some friends have suggested as I don't want her to feel as though I am struggling..
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    BROKEN
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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 08:13:03 (permalink)
    Nope, no reason to be jealous, my wife is not allowed to leave the house or have any form of contact with the outside world, I see jealousy as a waste of time now.
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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 09:16:41 (permalink)
    To be fair, I'd have the hump too if I was on a promise and she took someone else home.

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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 09:20:40 (permalink)
    I never thought I was but my ex wife turned me that way.  She was a flirt and loved male attention.  She was a bit of an ugly duckling who grew into her looks/style as she got older and I've no doubt relished the attention she got.  Social media was a killer.
     
    I'm now using online dating and that has it's own share of problems.  I had a date with a girl who I really liked and thought it was going somewhere.  She put the second date off for a week or so, wasn't really responding to texts and always showed "online" on the dating site.  Clearly she had some better offers.
     
    From that point onwards..... having been jealous of my ex and already getting those jealous feelings after 1 date with a girl...... I've swore to stop myself being like this.  Easier said than done, especially if you're into someone.
     
    I'm currently dating someone else and I'd like to think she's more into it than me, which is a nice place to be for me right now.
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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 09:22:33 (permalink)
    I'm not jealous but your scenario would piss me off, I don't think that's anything to do with jealousy but a lack of respect.
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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 09:29:51 (permalink)
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    Nope, no reason to be jealous, my wife is not allowed to leave the house or have any form of contact with the outside world, I see jealousy as a waste of time now.




     
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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 11:01:11 (permalink)
    so you kind of got in to an agreement with a lass that knew you both liked each other and would soon be dating but she ****ed another guy anyway?  - avoid like the plague, you will be constantly jealous mate.

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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 11:20:56 (permalink)
    I used to be in my early 20's, but then I mellowed out a lot and believe that there's no use in getting jealous. If they're a pr1ck about things, and it makes you jealous, then it's time to move on. That's providing you've got some perspective and aren't being a nutter of course.
     
    In the OP's situation I'd say you've got every right to be jealous as she let another man put his willy in her, which is pretty low really. Move on fella.
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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 12:27:24 (permalink)
    I have been and had times where I haven't been, and when you are it can drive you mad, but when you learn to just not give a f*ck about things that are out of your control you tend to be better off, what happens, happens and if it does just see it as a postitive that they wasn't the person for you, the more you give a f*ck the more hurt you'll get, I know that's easier said than done but not worrying about such crap will most likely never lead your partner to never want to do anything that might make you jealous, when you be too clingy and come across jealous will usually be when your partner will probably want to go f*ck someone else, never make a woman your world, make sure you and your career are your number 1 focus, women should always come second to that.

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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 12:29:22 (permalink)
    But your situation would have annoyed me a little, but just show her the don't give a f*ck attitude and that you got bigger and better things to worry about, which you should have, and she'll soon be all over you, and even if she isn't, not like you've lost much.

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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 12:55:57 (permalink)
    I used to be in my late teens and early twenties. Was probably an insecurity thing as a fair few of my ex's slept around behind my back.
     
    These days I've realized there is no point in jealously and its destructive, I have very clear self morals and ethics and a standard I expect in my relationship from both myself and my wife.
     
    If she decides to go and sleep with someone else then so be it, its something out of my control and not worth getting worked up about. I'd simply walk out and go live on my own. That said I'd like to think that if either of us are having thoughts of doing something destructive to out relationship then its time to walk away and get divorced.
     
    OP my advise would be to let things go. This lady you are talking about is out of order in my opinion. If she has crossed a clear boundary you talked about then its time to f*ck her off and find somebody else thats on the same wave length as you. Got to be brutal with things and move on imho. Why waste time getting jealous and wound up over it, get rid and find someone on the same wave length as you.
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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 14:04:17 (permalink)
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    I'm not jealous but your scenario would piss me off, I don't think that's anything to do with jealousy but a lack of respect.


    Same. It's pretty disrespectful to say 'yeah you can stay' then ignore your calls to booty call someone else.
     
    BUT why does it matter to know who it was? How does that help?
     
    I'm a v.jealous person, but luckily it's rarely an issue these days. 
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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 15:10:57 (permalink)
    I'm not jealous at all. My wife can do pretty much what she wants and I'm not worried. Yes, of course there's a line that shouldn't be crossed but mucking around, flirting, nakedness and other such things really don't bother me.

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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 15:33:22 (permalink)
    As others have said it's not really jealousy, she's treated you badly and you are right to be annoyed. Just move on, she sounds like bad news.
     
    I was never jealous until one of my ex's cheated on me, things did change after that. I struggled a bit with jealousy with my ex, yet with my current girlfriend I have no worries at all, strange as I can't put my finger on why.
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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 15:38:02 (permalink)
    Mrs is terribly, I'm not at all and it bugs her immensely 

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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 15:43:18 (permalink)
    You're all completely right and agree with what my friends are telling me to do; get shot. Somehow she managed to turn it around on me, by saying that she's the one whose confused. She said she freaked out at how serious we were getting and made a serious bad judgement call by doing what she did. I've absolutely no right to be annoyed at her for what she did physically, as we were never a couple but I feel like an absolute fool. She swears she never seen my missed calls / texts until the morning and claims she was far too drunk. I'm not making any excuses for her, she said she needed time to think and I said I'd make it easy for her and have not text her since. I think my problem is I'm just too nice of a guy, instead of hating the girl for what she did instead I think of the times we did spend together and how good/nice they were. But then whats ironic is last time we were out together she said something along the lines of "If this continues the way it is you're not allowed to get with anyone else".
     
    I wasn't even seeing her long. 2 months top, but constant texting / snapchatting the whole time so it's hard to see where it went wrong and what urged her to do what she did. As I said though, I'm in no position to question what she did but I do have a right to be fuming at how much of a mug she made me feel that night.
     
     

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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 15:56:54 (permalink)
    Desmo
    I'm not jealous at all. My wife can do pretty much what she wants and I'm not worried. Yes, of course there's a line that shouldn't be crossed but mucking around, flirting, nakedness and other such things really don't bother me.


    If I had known this I would've requested your wife only arrives naked when she comes to stay at our housey...
    You, on the other hand... NEVER! 
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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 16:11:26 (permalink)
    Was never jealous before i got divorced but am a little now. Have been treated similar to you since and tbh i just cut people like that out of my life. Came off Facebook etc, I know this is a little extreme but when i was on there it would always niggle me to have a look for some comments, likes etc then would feel depressed about it so the best solution for me was to come off.
    Great believer in karma so just let her crack on
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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 16:41:10 (permalink)
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    You're all completely right and agree with what my friends are telling me to do; get shot. Somehow she managed to turn it around on me, by saying that she's the one whose confused. She said she freaked out at how serious we were getting and made a serious bad judgement call by doing what she did. I've absolutely no right to be annoyed at her for what she did physically, as we were never a couple but I feel like an absolute fool. She swears she never seen my missed calls / texts until the morning and claims she was far too drunk. I'm not making any excuses for her, she said she needed time to think and I said I'd make it easy for her and have not text her since. I think my problem is I'm just too nice of a guy, instead of hating the girl for what she did instead I think of the times we did spend together and how good/nice they were. But then whats ironic is last time we were out together she said something along the lines of "If this continues the way it is you're not allowed to get with anyone else".
     
    I wasn't even seeing her long. 2 months top, but constant texting / snapchatting the whole time so it's hard to see where it went wrong and what urged her to do what she did. As I said though, I'm in no position to question what she did but I do have a right to be fuming at how much of a mug she made me feel that night.
     
     




    LOL! That says so much more about her. The simple fact is that she is prepared to sleep with another person, spread the blame unfairly (whilst insinuating you're at fault too), and then ask for time to "think" rather than giving you a little respect. She's simply trying to take control of the situation and sounds a spoilt and selfish person in all honesty.
    post edited by Lay - 2014/11/12 16:42:47
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    Re: Are you a jealous person? 2014/11/12 17:22:00 (permalink)
    Cant  believe nobody has said it so I will just come out and talk about it. 
     
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