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2009/07/23 14:40:50 (permalink)

Are you a jealous/insecure person?

Had a good convo today with a guy from work... his missus is going out tonight with the girls and like the lunar cycles, we all know he is going to go bonkers as he does every month when this crops up again
 
He hates her going out as he is jealous of other guys looking at her, the mere thought of them trying to chat her up boils his blood.
 
Poor lass, he does give her some stick for it.
 
I on the other hand i once had a long distance relationship with a club 18-30's rep for some time before and not once felt a niggle of insecurity or jealousy even when the facebook pics of her with other guys rat faced appeared...
I know that would of blown my friends noggin within 5 minutes
 
Now... are you a jealous/insecure person in a relationship?
Do you deal well with apparent challenges (real or imaginary) for your partner's attention/affection?
 
I'm sat here literally watching beads of sweat roll off my colleagues forhead the closer it gets to friday night
 

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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 14:47:35 (permalink)
    Nah, I was when I was younger (though never to the extent that I got funny with the other half for going out), but age has mellowed me enormously.

    You did gain far too much fat though,I mean,you're not muscular at all,you're just a fat mess.
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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 14:51:45 (permalink)
    My husband works regularly takes him to Rio among other places, many of his married/taken colleagues regularly go with local prostitutes ....... so I've had my moments of insecurity and jealousy as you can imagine!
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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 14:56:45 (permalink)
    No, maybe a bit when I was younger but not now.  I really don't get very jealous at all.  If I'm with someone then I'll be with them because I trust them.  If something happens I obviously shouldn't have been with them, and so thats that, nothing I can do about it if I'm wrong about the trust.  I find jealousy very destructive and it eats away at you, and is pointless.

    However, not saying this about your mate, but often the most jealous men/people (more men) are the ones who are the most prone or DO actually cheat or ARE cheating / have cheated.  Its a bit of guilt transferance - they know what they are like when the partner isn't around but attractive women are, so they assume their partner will be the same as them, or along those lines.  Many a time have I found this to be true.  More true of jealous men who are veery controlling of their partners and object to them going out/tell them they can't go out without them.

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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:02:01 (permalink)
    Sometimes but it depends on the girl that I was with.

    Some I have been concerned about what they got up to but others it didnt bother me.
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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:02:06 (permalink)
    I'm not very jealous at all

    Partly I think it's a trust issue, and partly just down to the nature of the person. I don't think I'd be that jealous even if I didn't trust my partner lol


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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:02:44 (permalink)
    i think im pretty jealous.  i m alot less than when i was younger.  i just try to keep my feelings to myself tho.  my misus sometimes says few things to test me out im sure but i never react.

    i think most people are just hide it, or wont admit it
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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:16:25 (permalink)
    Yes, I can be very jealous and somewhat insecure.
    It depends on the day of the week to be honest.
    I'm nowhere near as bad as I used to be.
    (I also try to avoid these threads on MT as they mess with my head, I think these threads do more harm than anything else)

    If I'm in love with the girl, I'll probably always be insecure to some extent.
    If I don't love her, I wouldn't be insecure in the least.
    The longer I'm in a relationship, the less insecure I become about the girl and the more insecure the girl becomes about me, always the same pattern.

    I had some big rows with my GF about this in the past, some of it was me blatantly over-reacting/being a girlie man, other stuff was justified.

    I'm rather 'old fashioned' in a lot of ways, but I am learning.
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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:17:19 (permalink)
    Actually this is one thing I dont suffer from, and its just as well.
     
    As you know, because of my addiction history most social events are out of bounds for me, my wife being a lot younger still wants to go out to pubs and clubs with her pals, although not as much these days.
     
    This being the case, and the fact that she is far from unattractive, mean that if I was then my head would explode.
     
    Ive always been of the opinion, why worry about something you have no control over, and sounds like your colleague could do with a big dose of that !

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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:20:46 (permalink)
    Nope...I have no reason to be. Anyone who is should either not be in a relationship, or look att the reason they are. More often than not it's nothing to do with the insecure persons partner, rather their own issues.
     
    I also find that the guys who regulary cheat on their partners are the most insecure about it being done to them!!

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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:20:49 (permalink)
    footdee

    My husband works regularly takes him to Rio among other places, many of his married/taken colleagues regularly go with local prostitutes ....... so I've had my moments of insecurity and jealousy as you can imagine!


    I remember a good friend of my ex, constantly moaning about how her long term boyfriend was causing rows over her going away on business trips which were totally innocent.
    I sided with her boyfriend first, but she kept this going for so long and was so furious that even I believed her.
    In the end, she was cheating on him with her boss for about 12 months and got pregnant by him.

    I have to admit, after years doing doorwork and reading these threads on MT, I find it a lot harder to trust people than I used to.
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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:20:55 (permalink)
    Jealousy is a really rotten emotion.

    I really couldn't stand to be with someone who was possessive or controlling or prone to jealousy. It's possible to love someone without feeling that you own them or have the right to control them. Without trust the relationship is screwed.

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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:23:13 (permalink)
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    footdee

    My husband works regularly takes him to Rio among other places, many of his married/taken colleagues regularly go with local prostitutes ....... so I've had my moments of insecurity and jealousy as you can imagine!


    I remember a good friend of my ex, constantly moaning about how her long term boyfriend was causing rows over her going away on business trips which were totally innocent.
    I sided with her boyfriend first, but she kept this going for so long and was so furious that even I believed her.
    In the end, she was cheating on him with her boss for about 12 months and got pregnant by him.

    I have to admit, after years doing doorwork and reading these threads on MT, I find it a lot harder to trust people than I used to.

    Yeah nothing like being on the door at 1am on a Sat night to see the other side of people!! I have to admit years in the door & security game in general have somewhat numbed my feelings towards things like this.

    Lets start buildin' some hurtin' bombs 
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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:26:15 (permalink)
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    Jealousy is a really rotten emotion.

    I really couldn't stand to be with someone who was possessive or controlling or prone to jealousy. It's possible to love someone without feeling that you own them or have the right to control them. Without trust the relationship is screwed.


    Agreed, it is a pointless and poisonous emotion.
     

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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:28:14 (permalink)
    Used to be when younger very laid back now,men stare at my wife non stop,i just think im not the only one with good taste

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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:29:35 (permalink)
    JohnKerr2

    Jealousy is a really rotten emotion.

    I really couldn't stand to be with someone who was possessive or controlling or prone to jealousy. It's possible to love someone without feeling that you own them or have the right to control them. Without trust the relationship is screwed.


    Agreed.
    This 'possessiveness' I have is definitely a big character flaw and something I try to work on changing.
    But I find it quite normal about Irish people, especially Irish men.
    If you've ever seen the way Eastern Europeans carry on, there is a massive gap between their behaviour and our behaviour.
    As I said, I'm old fashioned & I've never cheated on anyone myself, tho I have been tempted.

    BTW, I'm not implying anything about you, just an observation, but having done doorwork at a gay nightclub before, I think gay men have it the worst.
    The gay men I saw cheated on each other like it was their profession.
    Every night was a sexual buffet.

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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:30:07 (permalink)
    why what goes on when your doing your door work dan ?
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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:33:07 (permalink)
    mrx eire

    why what goes on when your doing your door work dan ?


    I'm not doing it anymore mate, thank fcuk.

    Just really sick and appalling things, like people who've been together for years & then have a random one nighter when their partner isn't around, then next week back to normal and their partner being none the wiser.
    This is kinda expected among 18-22 year olds, but when its 28-32 yos, its quite sickening/disheartening, but its none of my business.

    Its not the cheating that gets me, its the deceit.
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    post edited by Dan Nukem - 2009/07/23 15:34:26
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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:38:50 (permalink)
    Dan when i was on the doors we had a gay night once a week and it was a night mare,just chidish drama from silly young queens,sad as the most were really nice people and wanted to enjoy their night

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    Re:Are you a jealous/insecure person? 2009/07/23 15:43:31 (permalink)
    Jealous? No, not at all.

    Insecure? Hugely. Although i swing from being incredibly insecure when the situation matches my insecurities, to being as solid as a rock if none of my flaws are relevant.

    I'm sure i'm a psychologists wet dream

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