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2009/07/28 20:52:39 (permalink)
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Are you dysfunctional?

I loathe socialising.

I am in my early thirties and I've never had a long term relationship with a woman (or a man).

I am a (dry) alcoholic.

I have been diagnosed with two forms of (non-psychotic) mental illness.

I can never stay in a job for more than a year. I either leave or I get the boot as my attitude usually degenerates quite badly after six months.

I have never read a book.

I have been referred to as dysfunctional a number of times in my life. I don't mind, I just wonder what it means.

I'd also be interested to know what a functional person is exactly?


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    Sheeps_Clothing
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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/28 21:02:04 (permalink)
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    Functional is a very vague term and used widely.

    Does it matter?

    You live your life, things happen, good and bad things, you develop certain personality traits and illnesses, some change, some remain. You can live your life not doing anything, never having relationships, aims or hopes. You can live your life full of ambition and determination. Either way, some things work out, some things do not.

    My number one priority is staying healthy, physically but more important (IMO) mentally. If you are mentally healthy then you can change if you want, you can develop in any way you want or none at all.

    Functional doesn't mean much to me, as the more you think about it, the less it makes any sense. Function for what? You can have no/very limited physical ability yet still contribute to society positively and/or lead a fulfilling life.

    The only thing that may cause someone to be dysfunctional (if such a thing exists) IMO is mental health (far less easy to talk about/accept and even treat than physical health).

    You say you have been diagnosed with two forms of mental illness. My understanding is that a mental illness cannot be psychotic in itself, but may lead to psychotic symptoms. Psychosis can be worse than death, but is often short lived and can be treated effectively. A long term mental illness may be more debalitating without any pyschosis IMO.

    Short answer: Don't know what functional is and don't think anyone does!
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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/28 21:22:27 (permalink)
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    Functional is a very vague term and used widely.

    Does it matter?

    You live your life, things happen, good and bad things, you develop certain personality traits and illnesses, some change, some remain. You can live your life not doing anything, never having relationships, aims or hopes. You can live your life full of ambition and determination. Either way, some things work out, some things do not.

    My number one priority is staying healthy, physically but more important (IMO) mentally. If you are mentally healthy then you can change if you want, you can develop in any way you want or none at all.

    Functional doesn't mean much to me, as the more you think about it, the less it makes any sense. Function for what? You can have no/very limited physical ability yet still contribute to society positively and/or lead a fulfilling life.

    The only thing that may cause someone to be dysfunctional (if such a thing exists) IMO is mental health (far less easy to talk about/accept and even treat than physical health).

    You say you have been diagnosed with two forms of mental illness. My understanding is that a mental illness cannot be psychotic in itself, but may lead to psychotic symptoms. Psychosis can be worse than death, but is often short lived and can be treated effectively. A long term mental illness may be more debalitating without any pyschosis IMO.

    Short answer: Don't know what functional is and don't think anyone does!


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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/28 22:06:09 (permalink)
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    'functional' usually implies that you are capable of funtioning in a way that is deemed socially normal - ie able to maintain intimate relationships and friendships; able to hold down regular employment; to maintain adequate standards of self-care regarding cleanliness, hygene and nutrition; able to adhere to normally acceptable standards of behviour and adhere to the law


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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/28 22:11:20 (permalink)
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    I loathe socialising.

    I am in my early thirties and I've never had a long term relationship with a woman (or a man).

    I am a (dry) alcoholic.

    I have been diagnosed with two forms of (non-psychotic) mental illness.

    I can never stay in a job for more than a year. I either leave or I get the boot as my attitude usually degenerates quite badly after six months.

    I have never read a book.

    I have been referred to as dysfunctional a number of times in my life. I don't mind, I just wonder what it means.

    I'd also be interested to know what a functional person is exactly?


    Am I dysfunctional...? I am a high-functioning autistic. I think that qualifies me as 'dysfunctional', yes.
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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/28 22:26:20 (permalink)
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    I think dysfunctional could be an appropriate word to decribe me.

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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/28 22:36:54 (permalink)
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    I'm not dysfunctional, I'm introverted, and its taken me a hell of a long time to realise this is why I am like I am!

    I loathe socialising too.  GF forces it on me and then kicks off when I'm rude or quiet!



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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/28 22:50:04 (permalink)
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    I have never read a book.

    You've never read a book? Why not, out of interest?


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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/28 22:58:26 (permalink)
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    I have never read a book.

    You've never read a book? Why not, out of interest?


    Dreadful concentration levels.

    I've gotten half way through Schindlers list and approximately two thirds through Silence of the Lambs, but my inability to read a page and take in what I've just read without having to re-read it five times frustrates me immensely.

    I haven't even tried to read a book for years as I'm resigned to the fact that I won't be up to it. I think I might give it a try quite soon actually.
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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/28 23:34:07 (permalink)
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    tac

    'functional' usually implies that you are capable of funtioning in a way that is deemed socially normal - ie able to maintain intimate relationships and friendships; able to hold down regular employment; to maintain adequate standards of self-care regarding cleanliness, hygene and nutrition; able to adhere to normally acceptable standards of behviour and adhere to the law


    Would agree with that.I am okay except for the last part about adhering to the law.Mainly driving while drunk.

    I think we all have our 'funny little ways' which seem odd to some others.But if you can achieve the things in Tac's post then you are pretty 'normal'.
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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/29 08:21:57 (permalink)
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    I am also a dry alcoholic.
     
    Now, yes I am functional, when drinking I most certainly wasnt.
     

    My username has nothing to do with my religious beliefs.....
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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/29 09:06:29 (permalink)
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    everyones is on one level or another ,its how you deal with it
    None can function at best ability in every situation and always say and do the right thing,its being Human

    Everyone has been in shape,but not everyone is IN shape,its about where your going not where you have been.
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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/29 09:08:54 (permalink)
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    I have never read a book.

    You've never read a book? Why not, out of interest?


    Dreadful concentration levels.

    I've gotten half way through Schindlers list and approximately two thirds through Silence of the Lambs, but my inability to read a page and take in what I've just read without having to re-read it five times frustrates me immensely.

    I haven't even tried to read a book for years as I'm resigned to the fact that I won't be up to it. I think I might give it a try quite soon actually.
     

    My concentration is pathetic as well, i haven't read a book since i was about 9. I do read internet stuff a fair bit like wikipedia. I can't read normally either, i have to skim read and at a stupidly fast rate.


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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/29 10:59:48 (permalink)
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    I have never read a book.

    You've never read a book? Why not, out of interest?


    Dreadful concentration levels.

    I've gotten half way through Schindlers list and approximately two thirds through Silence of the Lambs, but my inability to read a page and take in what I've just read without having to re-read it five times frustrates me immensely.

    I haven't even tried to read a book for years as I'm resigned to the fact that I won't be up to it. I think I might give it a try quite soon actually.


    LOL, thats because you're reading crap books mate.
    I've been trying to read the Eamon De Valera biography for about 6 months, its really hard work.

    I got a new Hitler book last week and read it in two days.
    A Bruce Lee or Arnold Schwarzenegger biography, I'll have that finished in a day.
    The Rise and Fall of Death Row records, I had that finished in a few hours - couldn't put it down.


    I don't find fiction appealing in the least anyway. Seems pointless to be honest.
    How can anything in fiction compare to what happened in WW2?  It can't , lol.
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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/29 11:01:32 (permalink)
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    I have never read a book.

    You've never read a book? Why not, out of interest?


    Dreadful concentration levels.

    I've gotten half way through Schindlers list and approximately two thirds through Silence of the Lambs, but my inability to read a page and take in what I've just read without having to re-read it five times frustrates me immensely.

    I haven't even tried to read a book for years as I'm resigned to the fact that I won't be up to it. I think I might give it a try quite soon actually.
     

    My concentration is pathetic as well, i haven't read a book since i was about 9. I do read internet stuff a fair bit like wikipedia. I can't read normally either, i have to skim read and at a stupidly fast rate.


    What topics interest you?
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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/29 11:13:33 (permalink)
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    Suspirio

    I loathe socialising.
    I loathe sociailsing in pubs and nightclubs, i loathe being around drunk people, they're annoying.
    I don't loathe socialising tho.

    I am in my early thirties and I've never had a long term relationship with a woman (or a man).
    Normal as a direct result of point 1, how else is it gonna happen?

    I am a (dry) alcoholic.
    probably as a result of point 1 & 2

    I have been diagnosed with two forms of (non-psychotic) mental illness.
    Theres a mental illness for everyone. There is no such thing as a balanced, neutral person.
    All the previous points you've mentioned contribute toward you being introverted anyway.


    I can never stay in a job for more than a year. I either leave or I get the boot as my attitude usually degenerates quite badly after six months.
    depends on the type of job, if it was a crappy one, my attitude would degenerate too, lol
     
    I have never read a book.
    see my ealier post

    I have been referred to as dysfunctional a number of times in my life. I don't mind, I just wonder what it means.
    would you call someone who goes to the gym 3 times per day and never goes to the pub to drink or socialise a dysfunctional member of society. dysfunction is based largely on perspective. obviously it differs in extent.

    I'd also be interested to know what a functional person is exactly?
    An independent person, who can live within the law.


    I'm not trying to write off your concerns, or belittle people who suffer my mental illness, that is just my perspective on it.
    You seem to be more like a victim, like you accept being called dysfunctional.
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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/29 11:16:20 (permalink)
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    I should add that IMO its whether your life seems functional to YOU thats more important than whether it seems functional to other people.

    Are you functioning (ie getting through each day) to a level that YOU find acceptable?

    Or do YOU feel that you're really not coping with your life as it is?




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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/29 11:19:36 (permalink)
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    Dan - You go to the gym 3 times per day????
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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/29 11:26:20 (permalink)
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    Dan - You go to the gym 3 times per day????


    yeah, its very dysfunctional...  


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    Re:Are you dysfunctional? 2009/07/29 11:33:44 (permalink)
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    I have been referred to as dysfunctional a number of times in my life. I don't mind, I just wonder what it means.



    Just cause someone calls you something, doesn't mean you are.

    I certainly don't think it's particularly useful to label yourself 'dysfunctional' though I can see how some people might get off on it.

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