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MrsHiggins
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2015/07/13 12:46:09 (permalink)
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Constructive critism or men being men

Hi i have just started training, i really enjoy lifting heavy im 5ft and around about 190lbs, i train with my parter as often as possible as he does push me alot and people tend to watch or leave us to it but as soon as i walk into the gym alone, an approach the weights men look at me like why are you here, some feel the need to come over and say you need to adjust this and do this or the best one... Women shouldnt be lifting heavy weights, i understand sometimes they are trying to help but when its a cocky lad who i can lift more and press more weight than he can annoys me! Do other females have this issue ??? So im clear not all men just some
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Re: Constructive critism or men being men 2015/07/13 15:18:19 (permalink)☄ Helpfulby hififi 2015/07/15 13:06:18
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I think men tend to look at women when they walk in a gym as there aren't that many that do LOL!! It's an unusual sight for most gyms. The next time you're told not to lift heavy....ask them what "heavy" is.....as heavy is different to everyone.....you could always reply "yes, I'm aware I shouldn't be lifting heavy weights and that's why I stick with the lighter ones I'm using now!" 
 
The ones coming over to "help" are perhaps in their own way, trying to make you feel welcome as again some women who do train in the gym will feel a little intimidated to ask about adjusting seats or levers etc.
 
I'm fine in my gym, the regular guys know who I am and often ask my opinion on stuff but when new guys join it starts over again!! Just crack on, stick your earphones in show them how it's done!
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Re: Constructive critism or men being men 2015/07/13 15:31:24 (permalink)
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You must be using the wrong gym, the gym that i use has women of all ages doing weights as well as cardio and they are never bothered if they are training with a partner or alone.
 
If they are a bit of a totty, blokes will try and have sly glance now and then (myself included!!) but i have never seen a bloke bother them in any way.
 
Search around there are probably gyms like that in your area as well.
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Re: Constructive critism or men being men 2015/07/13 19:39:21 (permalink)
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Thank you just gets my back up really and makes me loose confidence in myself, feel like im doing something wrong when i can clearly see the results i still second guess myself but thank you its not just me x
post edited by MrsHiggins - 2015/07/13 19:40:34
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Re: Constructive critism or men being men 2015/07/13 21:04:02 (permalink)
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Sometimes men are looking to see if you are lifting as much as they are, or training harder which I am told may make them feel uncomfortable.
 
I just get on with it and if they look, I use it to push me harder!

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Re: Constructive critism or men being men 2015/07/15 13:08:39 (permalink)☄ Helpfulby DaveRL1980 2015/08/03 23:04:43
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I'm a terrible testosterone basher in the gym!
When a cocky young thing has just maxed out on a set of 16DBs I love asking if they're done with them and then just bosh, knocking out my set no problems, popping em back on rack and grabbing 18s!
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Re: Constructive critism or men being men 2015/07/21 21:31:06 (permalink)
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It is possible that some of them are being genuine, and are trying to help you improve your form, but yes, it is also possible a lot of them are trying to get your attention in the hope you will like them.
 
I take my wife to the spit and sawdust gym I train in whenever our work schedules allow, and she will do the same workout as me, and will push herself to lift heavy (and as said before, this means heavy for her, what anyone else does doesnt matter).  But she has said she would never go to that gym by herself, so she also has a membership at one of those 24 hour gyms in the city centre, although she always complains she cant get on the squat rack as there is always some fool doing bicep curls or whatever in it :)
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Re: Constructive critism or men being men 2015/08/03 00:21:10 (permalink)
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One time in the gym I told a young lady that she was doing a exercise with improper form.  She raise the roof off the gym and everything everybody came to a halt!!!    Her voice and rant was so loud, it echoed throughout the gym. Any louder, it would have shattered the mirrors. From that day, I say nothing to women in the gym.  
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Re: Constructive critism or men being men 2015/08/03 01:01:04 (permalink)
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Are they giving you a quick look or shaking their heads and tutting as you head toward the weights? I'm guessing the majority are the only glancing briefly, as someone walks into their peripheral vision! In reality the guys probably aren't thinking of anything except their next set. 
 
There are always guys that go over to women offering "advice" usually middle aged know it alls, or the occasional sleaze bag.
Personally, I'm usually impressed at how much harder the ladies train compared to most of the guys. If a guy comes over, tell them in the nicest possible terms to bugger off. As for glances, your assuming they are negative looks, most guys couldn't give a monkeys. 
post edited by indie - 2015/08/03 01:04:05
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Re: Constructive critism or men being men 2015/08/13 11:13:52 (permalink)
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I never get anything but support in a "proper" gym.  for much of time Im the only girl and no one is particularly interested anyway cos everyone training hard which is the way I like it its more motivating.
 
when I go to a fitness gym however, its ME being the disapprover.    I cant help tutting a bit seeing guys spend longer on their hair than there training :D :D  so I don't go in them gyms much if I can help it
 
 

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Re: Constructive critism or men being men 2015/08/13 14:11:40 (permalink)
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Oh BTW, that female hasn't been seen since that time! Over 10 years ago!
post edited by TangSooDo - 2015/08/13 14:14:14
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Re: Constructive critism or men being men 2015/08/15 15:30:25 (permalink)
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I find it very hard to believe that a man would come up to you and say a woman shouldn't be lifting heavy weights.

There's always one or two, know it all's in a gym, who take it oppon themselves to impart there knowledge, to anyone who looks like a beginner as for being starred at your probably just hot or paranoid.
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Re: Constructive critism or men being men 2016/04/24 15:11:51 (permalink)
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In every gym there are armchair critics. They will give their advice to the men as well so please don't take it personally.
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Re: Constructive critism or men being men 2016/04/24 15:50:19 (permalink)
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Just sounds like Assholes being Assholes
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Re: Constructive critism or men being men 2016/05/10 14:33:45 (permalink)
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Man has to show their primacy over women. Always. I hope you will show them that not every women has to be in kitchen and doing dinner for her man!
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