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2006/07/12 12:11:46 (permalink)

Frustrated and Angry (long post)

I’ve always admired and tried to emulate my parents and I think it shows in who I am today. Doubtless I’m not what they expected and I’m definitely not a carbon copy, but there are aspects of me that are taken from them. One of the things I picked up on fairly early on in life and have always taken great pride in was my parent’s decision to stand by their principles. They could both be higher up their chosen career path right now if they had chosen to be ‘yes men’. Whenever I’d sit in the back of the car as a kid and listen to them talk about work it always seemed like a battle between the members of staff who had a conscience & principles and those who were just looking to advance their careers.

I’m certainly oversimplifying the situation, but basically, their willingness to speak out and stand by what they believe to be right has caught up with them. The management that they have locked horns with over many issues are using a restructuring process to effectively demote both of them all the way back down to basic classroom teaching. I cannot tell you how unspeakably angry this makes me. Putting aside the financial implications of this, there is the emotional impact to consider. My dad has recently spent 2 weeks off with stress, and my mum who in my opinion has been stressed and depressed for about a year now is beginning to falter under the strain.

Between them they have provided almost sixty years service to that school. I have seen them work themselves to exhaustion through, reports, year group sweeps, parent’s evenings, ofsted inspections and lately interviews for the restructured posts. They have given their working lives to the school and now, a few petty, pathetic, vindictive people are manipulating the situation and victimising my parents. I honestly want to swing for someone. For the first time in my life I feel like I have to protect mum & dad, but I’m utterly powerless to do anything that would help solve the issue. If I ever have occasion to meet the senior management I’m going to tell them exactly what I think of them, and I’m going to be exceedingly threatening in how I go about it. That’s how I feel about this whole thing. Frustrated, angry and guilty for being nothing more than something else to stress about.

We do not forgive. We do not forget. 
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    Cashman
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    RE: Frustrated and Angry (long post) 2006/07/12 13:56:57 (permalink)
    as frustrating as it is, it's their fight mate. Unfortunately in the world of public service you'll find that nearly the majority of people in power are little hitlers or jobsworths. This is one of the key problems with the system. If you're not in their little club then they'll do what they can to out you. Makes me sick.
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    RE: Frustrated and Angry (long post) 2006/07/12 13:59:24 (permalink)
    Tell them to sue like my mother is. She too is a lecturer.
    Sad state of education, more like beaurocracy these days.
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    Blasphemousfish
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    RE: Frustrated and Angry (long post) 2006/07/12 14:02:23 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: Pip

    Tell them to sue like my mother is. She too is a lecturer.
    Sad state of education, more like beaurocracy these days.


    Who is your mother taking action against (university/education authority...?)? & What for (stress/victimisation...?)?

    We do not forgive. We do not forget. 
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    RE: Frustrated and Angry (long post) 2006/07/12 14:02:48 (permalink)
    Unfortunately this is a sign of times changing – gone are the days where good, hard work achieved you the status in a work place that is deserved….

    People have turned working into a dog eat dog world and it is down to survival of the fittest! I have learnt and been taught very quickly in my career to bite before you are bitten – I don’t particularly enjoy being like that and I have done some pretty shameful things along the way, but if it is the difference between me being able to afford food on my plate or protecting a complete strangers feelings…..I will opt for me every time! You think how businesses used to be so loyal to each other and now loyalty doesn’t pay, and education has turned into a business….money truly does talk!

    My mum was in a similar situation as your parents and I empathise with your feelings of frustration, unfortunately there is nothing you can do other than support them at home.

    Blasphemousfish – In all honesty if I was your mum or dad and I read the post you just put…..I’d be mighty proud and it would have all seemed worth while…maybe you need to tell them what you have told us eh?

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    RE: Frustrated and Angry (long post) 2006/07/12 14:09:31 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: Blasphemousfish


    ORIGINAL: Pip

    Tell them to sue like my mother is. She too is a lecturer.
    Sad state of education, more like beaurocracy these days.


    Who is your mother taking action against (university/education authority...?)? & What for (stress/victimisation...?)?


    She is taking action against the college themselves with backing from the union. Yes, stress and victimisation. She has had health implications which have been diagnosed and been for counselling.
    They are in sh!t after 20yrs of her loyalty to them.
    I suggest your parents do the same.
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    RE: Frustrated and Angry (long post) 2006/07/12 14:13:37 (permalink)
    Taa Pip, I will suggest this... though I doubt they'll go for it. Always complaining about compensation culture!

    Claire - thankyou, you're right, I'll just try and support them and let them know how I feel about it all. I guess that part of what I'm feeling is dismay of seeing two of the strongest people I've ever known go through something that is breaking them down so brutally that they need support.

    We do not forgive. We do not forget. 
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    RE: Frustrated and Angry (long post) 2006/07/12 14:19:53 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: Blasphemousfish

    Taa Pip, I will suggest this... though I doubt they'll go for it. Always complaining about compensation culture!

    Claire - thankyou, you're right, I'll just try and support them and let them know how I feel about it all. I guess that part of what I'm feeling is dismay of seeing two of the strongest people I've ever known go through something that is breaking them down so brutally that they need support.


    Tell them Pip from down the road said, "stop being hero's and put aside their 'we are the world' attitudes for a while because they will be left out to dry without a pot to p!ss in or a hole to bury it"
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    RE: Frustrated and Angry (long post) 2006/07/12 14:27:22 (permalink)
    Yep sounds typical of many jobs these days

    Best way to advance in teaching is to have a degree from a posh university, be able to kiss arse at will, learn to love ridiculous guidelines, and always agree with the boss

    Ability to teach well is not required for advancement, and nor is common sense
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    RE: Frustrated and Angry (long post) 2006/07/12 14:48:45 (permalink)
    As much as i hate to admit it, your dead right Drab.

    My fiancee is soon to be a primary school teacher and my sister currently is one. They both always mention how it is such a corrupt system even when it comes to teaching children as young as 10! The talented teachers who the kids adore, and who pull potential from the children are seemingly overlooked for the people who are simply there to forward and advance their careers and pay. These types generally stay close to the senior members of staff and just so happen to become best friends with them. Basically guaranteeing the next promotion when the job becomes available.

    The amount of this that happens in every job is sickening. All i keep telling my fiancee, is do your best and go for promotions when they arise, it is a fact that there are some good people in positions of power out there, and you may get lucky!

    In your case mate, id seek legal action, or at least try to do something, i couldnt sit there and take that.

    " Do not tell me to play the hand i've been dealt. To hell with the cards and damn the dealer! Any man can achieve anything if he works hard enough, and thats the truth of it. Go at it with all that you are, and it is within your reach"
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