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2008/05/10 18:50:10 (permalink)

Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !!

Firstly, a simple question , is it appropriate to wear a dress / dinner suit to a funeral ?

My Fathers funeral is monday and I am furious with myself that I am running around trying to sort this out like a headless chicken this afternoon

The problem is , I thought I had a choice of two plain black suits - I have now gone to try them on and I have no hope at all of getting into them - the only suit I have that fits now is the aforemetioned dress suit , now this looks OK in shape , colour and style (it is not overly "tux-ey" ) but it does have the silky lapels , and sort of bobbly buttons ( the wife says she can switch the buttons ! but I likened this to rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic ! ) , The lapels are not overly silky , but they are noetheless , silky ) - As Dress suits go , it is not an overly dressy one , it is not overly long, no tails or anything -- and at a glance it looks like a normal single breasted suit

My wife thinks it would be perfectly respectable , but I just don't feel comfortable about the idea

OF course , buying a suit of the peg is not an option as I'd need a 58" chest , and despite the whole country being (apparantly ) obese , "off the peg" suits only seem to go up to 48 inch chests !!! (even the ones that claim to do larger sizes seem to stop at 52"

I cannont imagine anyone making me one tomorrow (got to leave at 7am monday morning

I can't believe I am running around like this before such an important occasion

I am even considering looking in a charity shop (at least I would if there were any open on a sunday !


Any suggestions ?


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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 18:55:44 (permalink)


    The suit I have is similar to this , but blacker (less grey)
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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 18:56:10 (permalink)
    I guess we would need to see the suit to make an informed decision but sounds ok on the description

    edit: too slow at typing, the pic in the suit looks fine IMO

    btw 58'' chest
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    Festar: You can't plead poverty with 2 cars. That's like a little Kenyan chap pleading poverty with 2 packets of uncle bens rice hidden under his bed.
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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 18:58:55 (permalink)
    i think it would be fine mate

    in honesty i think your worrying about little things, noone is going to care what your wearing down to the little details i wouldnt think.
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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 18:59:31 (permalink)
    is there a slaters menswear anywhere near you?

    I wish I was more attractive like Dagless.
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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 19:01:43 (permalink)
    is there a slaters menswear anywhere near you?


    i was going to sugggest that too as they are great but he is going on monday morning and would be pushed for time

    Festar: You can't plead poverty with 2 cars. That's like a little Kenyan chap pleading poverty with 2 packets of uncle bens rice hidden under his bed.
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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 19:06:16 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: tuc biscuit

    is there a slaters menswear anywhere near you?



    Cheers - A google search says YES ! (I didn't realise it though !)

    Do they tailor fast or do big stuff off the peg then Tuc ?
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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 19:06:44 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: Red Bull

    is there a slaters menswear anywhere near you?


    i was going to sugggest that too as they are great but he is going on monday morning and would be pushed for time



    may be open tommorow, here's the contact details for their head office to ask

    Contact Slater Menswear head office:

    165 Howard Street
    Glasgow
    G1 4HF
    t:+(44)141 552 7171
    f:+(44)141 553 1720



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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 19:07:36 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: Dr Zoidberg


    ORIGINAL: tuc biscuit

    is there a slaters menswear anywhere near you?



    Cheers - A google search says YES ! (I didn't realise it though !)

    Do they tailor fast or do big stuff off the peg then Tuc ?



    big stuff off the peg, you'll probably just be alright and they do in-store adjustments so if it's a bit roomy on the stomach etc. they can help

    I wish I was more attractive like Dagless.
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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 19:17:37 (permalink)
    They are open 11am - 4pm tomorrow

    Cheers Tuc , I'll give them a look tomorrow - sounds just what I need

    Very much appreciated ! thanks
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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 19:23:22 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: Dr Zoidberg

    They are open 11am - 4pm tomorrow

    Cheers Tuc , I'll give them a look tomorrow - sounds just what I need

    Very much appreciated ! thanks




    no probs, hope you manage to get something and monday is ok, cheers

    I wish I was more attractive like Dagless.
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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 19:48:05 (permalink)
    if they cant help try

    http://www.highandmighty.co.uk/invt/2719b

    i got a suit jacket from there a bit ago, get the numbers for local people that do alterations in your area and phone them up too, i'm sure if you stress how important it is they would help out.

    also moss bros and suits you do suit hire, it would be a long shot with the size you need but could be worth a try.

    http://www.suitsyou.co.uk/

    http://www.mossbros.co.uk/

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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 20:21:33 (permalink)
    Didn't realise he's passed away mate, I know he was poorly. Sincere condolences.

    I don't think suits are essential these days. Have you not got a jacket, trousers and shirt with black tie?
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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 21:02:54 (permalink)
    Hope it goes well mate. My condolences to you and your family.

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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 21:07:20 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: Dr Zoidberg



    The suit I have is similar to this , but blacker (less grey)

    That looks OK mate, black tie and it's sorted.
    Not that I know the differant types of suit.
    I used the same one weddings and job interveiws, for funerals including my dads. I worn a black shirt and black tie... put the 2 boys the same in small suits we got from next (not expensive). Friends of the family that had not seen me and our kids since we were kids commented on how smart we looks so I suppose it worked.

    PS...
    got mine from slaters too, I got it off the shelf and they adjusted the trousers there and then.

    Hope it goes as well as funerals can go Dr Zoidberg

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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 21:11:19 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: kitty

    Didn't realise he's passed away mate, I know he was poorly. Sincere condolences.

    I don't think suits are essential these days. Have you not got a jacket, trousers and shirt with black tie?



    Thanks to all for the condolences

    TBH Kitty I would probably wear a shirt and tie to anyones funeral except my Dads , he was very much a "suit" type of man , and I know he would not even have considered wearing anything other that a black suit to anyone else funeral (unless they specified against it ) -it just seems appropriate to me.



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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 21:15:08 (permalink)
    Yes, in that case you're absolutely right.
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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/10 22:10:17 (permalink)
    Haven't got any advice but so sorry to hear of your loss.

    Hope everything goes as well as it can on Monday

    And though she be but little, she is fierce..
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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/11 08:49:26 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: Dr Zoidberg

    Firstly, a simple question , is it appropriate to wear a dress / dinner suit to a funeral ?

    My Fathers funeral is monday and I am furious with myself that I am running around trying to sort this out like a headless chicken this afternoon

    The problem is , I thought I had a choice of two plain black suits - I have now gone to try them on and I have no hope at all of getting into them - the only suit I have that fits now is the aforemetioned dress suit , now this looks OK in shape , colour and style (it is not overly "tux-ey" ) but it does have the silky lapels , and sort of bobbly buttons ( the wife says she can switch the buttons ! but I likened this to rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic ! ) , The lapels are not overly silky , but they are noetheless , silky ) - As Dress suits go , it is not an overly dressy one , it is not overly long, no tails or anything -- and at a glance it looks like a normal single breasted suit

    My wife thinks it would be perfectly respectable , but I just don't feel comfortable about the idea

    OF course , buying a suit of the peg is not an option as I'd need a 58" chest , and despite the whole country being (apparantly ) obese , "off the peg" suits only seem to go up to 48 inch chests !!! (even the ones that claim to do larger sizes seem to stop at 52"

    I cannont imagine anyone making me one tomorrow (got to leave at 7am monday morning

    I can't believe I am running around like this before such an important occasion

    I am even considering looking in a charity shop (at least I would if there were any open on a sunday !


    Any suggestions ?





    Black and grey are the norm at funerals, when my dad passed away a few years ago I hired a suit, the chap in the shop said that grey was better than black at a funeral. When the day of the funeral came I was amazed at the amount of people who were wearing grey.
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    RE: Funeral dress - Urgent help needed !! 2008/05/11 09:19:53 (permalink)
    Thanks to all

    I am off to Slaters this morning (thanks Tuc)

    My frustration is my lack of preperation for this , the last thing I want to do was be "making do" for such an important occasion - Hopefully Slaters will be able to sort me out and all will be fine

    You could say I am 'fortunate' in that I have never lost anyone close in my adult life , but this also means a lack of preparation for such events too

    Thanks for the messages of condolence , I am coping (so far) better than I thought I would in most ways , finding it harder in others , but generally I am OK , My Dad was a very logical man and this seems to have passed down to me , Obviously there is an emotional side to which is slightly harder to deal with - but the truth is the logical side to me is simply relieved that he is no longer suffering , and that he won't have to endure the worse sufferiing which was innevitably going to follow - this is getting me through
    When I read the above I realise it make me look like and emotionless robot (not the case) - But what can I do ? I AM mourning and I really am going to miss my dad.


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