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2006/07/18 20:27:02 (permalink)
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GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED

thought i'd ask u guys and gals for some advice.
my girlfriend works in a local petrol station, there is this old bloke there that keeps touching her arse "by mistake"and when she is behind the conter he keeps thinking of reasons to go behind there so he has to brush past her. she and another member of staff have been to the manager twice about him, but nothing has been done.
just got a phone call off her now and he's doing it again, we can't afford for her to quit her job, and she is looking for a new one.
but for now she is stuck there with him on her own until 10.30.

my first thought was "i'm going to go there now and shove a petrol pump so far down his throat that he'll be pissing petrol", but that'd get me arrested and charlotte sacked.

what would u guys do? would u go and beat the sh*t outta him, or do nothing and see if her lazy arse of a manager actualy does something?
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    MT2006
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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:30:00 (permalink)
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    now hitting people isnt the right answer, however, I would go see this man if it was me and make sure he wouldnt do it again
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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:34:11 (permalink)
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    She also needs to make an official complaint to her boss
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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:37:34 (permalink)
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    sort of similar situation with my sister just lately...My sis works in a chemist in town and she told me about this guy talking dirty to her...i think he was about 45...I know what i would do mate but not gonna say...I just scared this guy mentally rather than lay into him cause people say me quite a scary looking guy with my muscles skinhead and tattoos lollll he absolutely shat himself and never came bk into store again i honestly thought he was gonna pee in his pants...told him i would crack his head open hehehehe my sister loves me now thats for sure now that pervert will never bother her again
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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:37:59 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: dirtyvest

    She also needs to make an official complaint to her boss

    spot on her manager has an obligation to amend the problem or report it to somebody that can
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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:38:38 (permalink)
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    Yes go down and 'ask' him not to do it again. Tell him you've had a phonecall of you r grilfriend and she was a little upset by his actions and thats why you are there, to 'ask' him to stop doing what he's doing. Tell him however that if carries on and you get another call off your girlfriend you'll be coming back to make sure he doesn't do it again.

    In terms with the way your girlfriend should deal with it with her manager, tell her to tell him that either he does something about it on the grounds of sexual harrasment ro the next time the old perv touches her she will phone the police as it is actually assault him laying his hands on her like that and she will subsequently be suing the garage owners for failing to act to put a stop to this harrasment.

    Oh and if it were me, I'd also pay him a visit one night when he gets off work (making sure your not picked up by the forecourt cameras), maybe a couple of weeks (or months) off work due to 'sickness' will give your girlfreind a welcome break from his unwanted attentions whilst she continues to look for another job.

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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:39:45 (permalink)
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    she has been to her manager twice, so has another member of staff, but nothing has been done.
    i think i'm going to go see the manager tomorrow morning, and tell him to sort it, or i will
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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:41:03 (permalink)
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    Id follow cc advice go and see him let him know its your girl and its time for this to stop.Im sure it will stop if u go and see him cause i know i would.I mean the perverts about these days who knows wat it will lead to.Go and see him and let us know wat happened.Good luck
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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:41:59 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: Osagi

    Oh and if it were me, I'd also pay him a visit one night when he gets off work (making sure your not picked up by the forecourt cameras), maybe a couple of weeks (or months) off work due to 'sickness' will give your girlfreind a welcome break from his unwanted attentions whilst she continues to look for another job.


    i like the sound of that, was thinking of getting a few of my very large TA mates to pop in one night
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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:43:06 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: ninjauk

    she has been to her manager twice, so has another member of staff, but nothing has been done.
    i think i'm going to go see the manager tomorrow morning, and tell him to sort it, or i will

    if the manager doesnt do anything then the citizens advice/area manager/police or the good old round house kick as a last resort maybe(on a dark night)
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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:43:14 (permalink)
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    Damn mate i know the feeling.

    My ex gf was a lap dancer and there used to be at least 4-5 seedy guys waiting outside the club and follow the girls looking at them as they get into their taxis...i used to pick her up most nights and was on a night out with a mate prior to picking her up and when i got there we went into a kebab shop (me and my girl). I saw this guy looking at us (her) through the window, he had followed us from the strip club to the shop, even though i had my arm around her, even though i was kissing her. We went back to the front of the club and he came over to her (shes holding my hand) and asked her for a chip (in this seedy sly voice), i said to her just give him a few chips and we will get in the taxi, so she put her hand out and he stroked her arm (wtf???) this dirty f*kin man touched my gf's arm and then grabbed the chips and stood there eating them right infront of her and staring into her eyes...obviously i told him at that point to get the hell away right now, he did.

    Another time i pick her up and we are talking together, we had an argument and i see this other man waiting outside and he starts following us up the street, now i even told her that i was going home (whilst she was fing and blinding at me) and all the time i see this guy behind her staring at her arse...i almost lost it with him, i asked him if he was following her and told him to carry on walking past us, i said if he touches her i'll smack his face in, fortunately i didnt have to and he walked on.

    You can tell when some eary fella is being a stalker just by the expression on their face...but to do it right infront of the girls man, thats something i wouldnt of thought so...i think something is a bit wrong in their heads tbh. Any normal man would just approach the girl and ask her if she has a bf and if not then would she want to go on a date with him...but following and endlessly staring, must be quite scary for some women to have to put up with that.

    It sounds like the guy fancies her, dont know if its stalking behaviour or just being a tw*t. Id tell him that she has a bf and that you dont want to have to get angry with him, your just telling him incase he didnt know.
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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:43:50 (permalink)
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    other thing im worried about is he is about 60 and has recently come out of hospital, he has to wear one of them piss bag things. anyway, i don't wanna scare him so much he has a heart attack, his age is the only reason i didn't break a few bones the first time it happend
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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:44:30 (permalink)
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    Thats the absolute best thing you can do, satnd firm and make sure you ask him what EXACT action he is taking to make sure this does not happin again, and be sure to state the seriousness of sexual harassment in the work place.

    DO NOT ADD ANYTHING LIKE " or i will", this would land you in ka ka should anything happin.
    ORIGINAL: ninjauk

    she has been to her manager twice, so has another member of staff, but nothing has been done.
    i think i'm going to go see the manager tomorrow morning, and tell him to sort it, or i will

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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:44:52 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: ninjauk

    she has been to her manager twice, so has another member of staff, but nothing has been done.
    i think i'm going to go see the manager tomorrow morning, and tell him to sort it, or i will


    Tell her and her workmate to put their complaints in writing, stating that they have been to see the manager twice before but despite that he has failed to resolve the situation and the harrasment continues. Send a copy of this letter to the manager, another copy to the garage's owner or head office (if a chain) and a copy to a solicitor (who she should go along and see about this situation for some more advice). Make sure that the managers copy has the other recipients CC'd in on the bottom so he knows that the complaint has been taken further. See if he bothers to act then.

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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:46:33 (permalink)
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    She should make a formal complaint ASAP.

    What you shouldn't do is slap him about or anything.

    However, me personally (this obviously not being right) - would go down and scare the f*ck out of him / possibly give him a dig. But thats me.
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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:53:10 (permalink)
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    i have to go to the garage in morning anyway to fill my works van up, so i'll pop in and see manager while im there, going to tell him that if it's not sorted by end of week im going to go to the police about the bloke, and to head office about him not doing his managers job properly
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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 20:56:38 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: ninjauk

    i have to go to the garage in morning anyway to fill my works van up, so i'll pop in and see manager while im there, going to tell him that if it's not sorted by end of week im going to go to the police about the bloke, and to head office about him not doing his managers job properly



    Thing is mate, you do that and theres nothing to stop him from 'finding' some reason to sack her. Theres no record of any formal complaint having been made so she'd be knackered in terms of taking this to a tribunal. Theres every chance too that if he give you some back chat you'll lose it with him and bang goes her job. So how about following my last response, get the formal complaint in in writing, cc in head office and possibly a solictor then if anything happens in terms of them suddenly finding a reason for sacking her at least she has a formal record of having lodged a complaint.

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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 21:00:14 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: Big_Ad

    She should make a formal complaint ASAP.

    What you shouldn't do is slap him about or anything.

    However, me personally (this obviously not being right) - would go down and scare the f*ck out of him / possibly give him a dig. But thats me.

    Ditto all this
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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 21:00:23 (permalink)
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    will be doing the formal complaint thing, i just wanna know why nothing has been done.
    both time charlotte and the other girl have complained they have put it in writting, and other girl has a copy of the letter they sent
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    RE: GIRLFRIEND IS BEING HARRASED 2006/07/18 21:05:26 (permalink)
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    Exactly what I would do too tbh ! Not right, but my head would take over !

    Franko
    ORIGINAL: Big_Ad

    She should make a formal complaint ASAP.

    What you shouldn't do is slap him about or anything.

    However, me personally (this obviously not being right) - would go down and scare the f*ck out of him / possibly give him a dig. But thats me.

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