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2006/07/06 17:26:23 (permalink)

Girlfriends Dad is a bully!!

My girlfriends father is a funny chap. One minute he is the joker and having a crack then he turns into the most vile specimen of human life going. He is 46 about 6'0 ish and 21 stone but very fat. He is diabetic and blames his ballistic anger on this. He would never want to upset her older brother as he is golden boy who can do no wrong(he is also national level BB competior NABBA). But anyway he treats my girl like sh!t. He has never hit her in the 3 years we have been together and better not however he does batter her mother about quite a bit. My point is, today he through her out(she still lives at home for her mums sake) and called her a whore. Now i am farking livid and want to go round there with my police batton and cave his skull in.This totaly not my nature and he knows it. Maybe he thinks nobody can touch him so behaves like this. My missus also never holds a grudge and forgives him. i need advice guys
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/06 17:32:30 (permalink)
    Not much you can do..... TBH this is about them, so you need to support your GF IMHO and ride it out. You don't have to like the guy but their relationship issues are just that, theirs. Not easy tho and he sounds like a thoroughly unpleasant fellow on the face of it.

    But then, I've never been faced with such an issue
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/06 17:32:49 (permalink)
    Getting involved in other people's domestic disputes is asking for trouble. You'll come out the bad guy no matter what.

    My Mrs was having some hassle with some of her siblings about inherited property. Despite having nothing got to do with it, guess who got called the biggest MoFo in the world by the whole lot of them....me!!!!!!

    Don't get involved and make your visits to their family home a particular rarety. He sounds like a pathetic individual and not someone you would want anything other than the minimum amount of dealings with anyhow.
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/06 17:32:52 (permalink)
    Have you told her brother?

    Maybe he could say something to his dad

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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/06 17:37:16 (permalink)
    My GF's dad is just like that. He used to beat the whole family up as they are all girls but since i turned up on the scene he hasnt done ****

    All i did mate was get my GF far away as possible so now they dont see them much and they hate it. It is not the best thing to do but i dont care
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/06 17:39:52 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: Stone

    Have you told her brother?

    Maybe he could say something to his dad


    ha. no mate he knows about it but doesent want to get invold. Ever seen pumping iron and the reletionship between lou ferrigno and his dad?? well its exactly the same. they a rock solid friends.
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/06 18:15:30 (permalink)
    Men hitting women need vanishing of the face of the earth.

    It's hard to be humble when I'm so great...

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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/06 18:21:16 (permalink)
    sounds like a mysogynist (woman hater) as well as a bully. Domestic violence is totally abhorrent and if physical abuse is involved then perhaps best to call the police. As for the dynamic between father and daughter... as said this is their relationship and as such you cannot interfere at this stage but just give her the support she will need.
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/06 18:22:26 (permalink)
    hard to deal with, i had a girlfriend who,s dad had hit her in the past and she still thought the sun shone out of his arse i couldnt say anything about him let alone have given him a smack as she would have sided with him. one of the final straws in our relationship was me telling her exactly what i thought of him. not much help mate but imo you have no choice but to just be there for her, her brother is the one who should be protecting his mum if anyone should.
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/07 01:10:55 (permalink)
    live would be easier if u stayed out of it m8

    having said that, morally i just wouldn;t be able to do that, wouldn;t be violent etc, but would try and sort it out, talk to your girl, talk to the brother, talk to the mum. talk to your girl first, test the water, sew the seed and see how she feels.

    not the sort of thing u wanna dive in and sort out, best to get your girl thinking a bit so u can put up a united front IMO
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/07 01:45:03 (permalink)
    I had an ex-gf a few years ago who's new boyfriend started smacking her around and she kept coming to me for help. Everytime he got violent I'd go pick her up and take her back to her folks. I always resisted the urge to get more involved because I knew it wouldn't help. It all came to a head one night though when I had cocaine muscles and gave him a smack in a night club (which was funny tbh because I'm a scrawny mofo and he was a big tae kwon do buff). She ended up going home with him and not speaking to me.

    My point is, that if you turn into the agressor she will probably side with her father. You need to let her break the cycle of abuse and deal with it in her own way. Be there for her as much as possible but ake a back seat unless she asks for your direct involvement. He is still her father and the last thing she needs is to get stuck in the middle of a feud between you and him.

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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/07 10:38:14 (permalink)
    If I were you I'd go round now and punch his lights out, then run back home and post all about it on MT
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/07 10:51:15 (permalink)
    And take a mate to get some pics!

    On a more serious note, all I can say is as the guys above. There's not much room for manover here so just be there for your gf.
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/07 11:45:23 (permalink)
    ORIGINAL: James

    If I were you I'd go round now and punch his lights out, then run back home and post all about it on MT


    James !! im suprised at you
    post edited by powerl1fter - 2006/07/07 11:48:26
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/07 12:04:30 (permalink)
    The best thing you can do is get her to talk to another female about it.

    Any physical violence will just make you look like the bad guy.

    Also, you could call around to her father, cool/calm & collected, for a chat to let him know that its unacceptable and your contacting the police for assault and battery, but if your the type of person who can't manage your temper then its not recommended to even see the guy.
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/07 12:51:40 (permalink)
    best to leave the dad well alone mate

    you hit him the brother might come n kick ur ass
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/07 12:55:38 (permalink)
    Remain calm. You doing something violent to him he will probably go straight to the police.
    Maybe have a word with him.
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/07 13:37:05 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: Ruff_D

    best to leave the dad well alone mate

    you hit him the brother might come n kick ur ass


    Mate. ill brutalize the kid. dont go there.
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/07 13:48:15 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: powerl1fter


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    Have you told her brother?

    Maybe he could say something to his dad


    ha. no mate he knows about it but doesent want to get invold. Ever seen pumping iron and the reletionship between lou ferrigno and his dad?? well its exactly the same. they a rock solid friends.


    His dad is beating his mother and hes not doing anything about it wow he sounds just as bad really
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    RE: Girlfriends Dad is a bully!! 2006/07/07 13:49:41 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: powerl1fter

    ORIGINAL: James

    If I were you I'd go round now and punch his lights out, then run back home and post all about it on MT


    James !! im suprised at you

    Really? Remember the important bit is to post about it on MT so we all know
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