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2007/06/19 01:22:23 (permalink)
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Just found out GF has been cheating

Ive been with my girl 3 yrs we have an 18 month old girl who was born on christmas day of 2005 and she has her own 5 yr old that calls me dad.Im 21 and my girls 27 i met her when i was 18 and she was 24 but she looks 18 still now shes absolutely beautiful.

But i was suspecting something was goin on a few weeks ago so i went through her phone to see messages from this bloke for the last 3-4 weeks saying come over to mine and ill give u a good seein to and alsorts like it was good waking up to you this morning and cant wait to see u my sexy girl and he must have been off on holiday last week and was like i wont cheat on you.

I just couldnt believe it i thought the cheeky bstard.So i didnt say anything as she was sleepin.So i go back to my mums in the week and came back on the weekend then this morning she said i dont wanna be with you anymore i was like why she was like i just dont and i said cause u have been cheating on me she denied it i told her i know so she said yeah just the once.

So i said comeon your liein u have been with him quite a few times so she admitted to twice but wouldnt admit any more than that she just said i fell out of love with you.So i said that night which was a bank holiday u done yourself all up and told me you were going to your sisters and u went with him didnt you she was like yeah.So while im in lookin after her kid and mine shes out doing that. I was like how could you saying that i could never do that.

At first she said i fill well bad but i dont love u anymore but still for the last few eeeks shes taken money from me and strung me along to support her.So i was there for a few hrs just crying to myself then she was like are u gonna go,i said yeah then she was like when are u gonna have the baby i said i dunno i will have to talk about that later as i was proper pissed off so i went and then thought no i will go and tell her when i can have her (the baby).

So as im there her phone rings and its his name so i grabbed the phone she was trying to stop me it got cut off then he called bk i couldnt hear him where she was trying to get the phone so i was just going mad sayin im gonna batter you come here now and ill beat the **** out of you,so then she said she was calling police so i went then she txt me just a bit ago sayin im sorry for this didnt want it to end like this dont worry u will meet someone else and your gonna have to go to court to see your kid as she said that she (mygirl) donesnt wanna see me again.

Ive never had this happen to me i love her soo much and just cant believe it i do so much for her aswel and this is how she repays me im just heart broken.
post edited by makaveli1971 1996 - 2007/06/19 01:39:51
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    Powerlifter88
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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 01:26:03 (permalink)
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    Man I'm really really gutted for you
    Just after reading Colins thread thought my faith in ppl was restored
    Get rid now and don't look back mate IMO.

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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 01:45:15 (permalink)
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    I know you love her mate, but she is bad news! You have a young kid and shes out doing that! IMO you have to split but still be there for your kid! Shes a selfish woman who has put you in a real tough postion if there wasn't a kid involved you could easily brake it off, but it must be really hard!. This would be my worst nightmare, I can only imagine the pain your in! Try and think rationally,
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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 01:47:41 (permalink)
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    Thats awful to hear, im sorry to hear that. And im not gonna offer advice cos thats never happened me before so i wont talk ****e.
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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 02:02:06 (permalink)
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    i sympathize with you mate. good on you for speaking up - you'll no doubt feel better about it getting it off your chest.

    IMO try to be civilized towards each other for the sake of your child even tho it may not be easy as there's only a thin line between love and hate which can easily be broken.

    Keep yourself busy - work, gym, with mates. anything to keep your mind off her. IME if you stay in bed all day and brood and wonder wat she's up to and **** like that you'll end up 50yrs on single, lonely, and old. joking apart - feeling sorry for yourself and moping wont do you any good. i'm atm goin thru an although 'different' but 'similar in some things' situation my ex is 6yrs older than me and she lives in malta and me in uk. she wants to get back with me but her ex is going on holiday next week to malta. so i know they'll meet up and go out together even tho she says she wont. i dont trust her and she doesnt trust me. to cut a long story short i'll be planning my schedule daily so i spent minimum time alone - coz that's when you start brooding.

    even tho - u'll find yourself alone b4 u sleep. again do anythin - tv, xbox, on MT until u fall asleep with your laptop in your hands(not first time lol)

    my last words would be to chin up, have courage and think positive. be a good dad to your kid and i'm sure your ex will regret leaving in the long run. (i used to think of a plus when we broke up - at least when im forty i wont have a granny as a wife )

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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 02:12:41 (permalink)
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    Totally gutted for you mate, thats really put a downer on me tonight reading that.

    Ive never been in that position mate so I will give you the best advice I Can.

    1. Don't batter the guy. Violence will not solve anything here at all. Period. As satisfying as it would be to beat the living daylights out of the guy, it will only end up getting you a criminal record and worse, it will go against you when your wanting visiting rights to see your little girl.

    2. IMO a woman who deceives you and abuses your trust so badly is not worth owt in my book. Although you have a bit of history with her Im sure you now realise that your worth alot more than her. As someone above said, just try to be civil throughout and try to move on with it.

    Wish you the best of luck dude. Keep us updated.
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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 02:26:06 (permalink)
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    Wow that's pretty cold after 3 years together, hope she's proud. March on mate, she's worthless.

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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 02:26:38 (permalink)
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    Thats well gutting mate

    Did this just come out of the blue ?

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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 02:27:48 (permalink)
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    Thanks for all the replys its true pilitu i gotta keep my mind occupied the only problem is im currently out of work so need to find a job fast.

    It will be hard to trust again after that and it seems most people i know dont last with there first love.Thanks for the replys they have helped.
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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 02:28:41 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: dbam

    Thats well gutting mate

    Did this just come out of the blue ?



    Yeah unfortuantly.
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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 02:36:53 (permalink)
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    F*ck her mate, I know it's sh*t and it hurts like hell but you don't deserve that. Fight like hell for your baby girl which I know you will anyway. Your obviously a good man and a good role model and you supported her when she took advantage - these will all be points raised in court. Best of luck.
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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 02:40:17 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: makaveli1971 1996


    ORIGINAL: dbam

    Thats well gutting mate

    Did this just come out of the blue ?



    Yeah unfortuantly.


    This is awful mate she just drops this on you.The only advice I would give is to be a excellent dad to your daughter and keep things civil when she's around.

    Trust is earned mate so you will trust people in the future

    I hope everything works out for you mate

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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 02:47:44 (permalink)
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    cheating on someone is the lowest thing you can do, get rid of her, break off all contact and go straight for custody of your kid. with her cheating on you blatantly you should have a good case

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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 03:00:03 (permalink)
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    I've just gone through the exact same thing with my ex, except there wasnt a baby involved in our case.

    I know your hurting like hell now mate, I was, Had so many things going around in my head, trying to pin point where it all went wrong, things i could do to try and get back with her etc etc

    As for the other guy, I've seen the other guy my ex cheated on me with and i didnt do anything, he was expecting it, i confronted him in a bar, his bottom lip was going like mad, but i just said to him, if she done it to me mate, whats to say she wont do it to you, laughed and left it at that. A leopard never changes its spots! As much as i wanted to attack him it just wasnt worth it, Think of what you have to lose and also that wont look good at all when trying to sort things out with you kid.

    I know for a fact in the long term my ex will regret doing what she did and i have no doubt your's will as well, Once the little honeymoon period is over with that guy she will start to realise that the grass isnt always greener on the otherside, whereas is your case it will be, do you really want to be with someone like that longterm? I know i dont! Keep your chin up mate, focus on the things you have going for you, honestly girls like that are just not worth it.

    I know exactly how you feel right now and it is the worst feeling you can have but trust me, it will get easier
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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 03:07:29 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: makaveli1971 1996

    and your gonna have to go to court to see your kid as she said that she (mygirl) donesnt wanna see me again.

    She said that you're going to have to go to court to see your kid? And that your kid doesn't want to see you?

    If that's what she said, then she's a worthless bitch

    As for the rest of the stuff.... Well TBH mate people do fall out of love sometimes.... And people do get hurt.... But years later those people do get over it.... You'll get over it too bud

    Hope you're ok

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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 03:54:31 (permalink)
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    One of my biggest fears is having a kid with someone just to have them up sticks with said kid and fcuk off, drab is spot on though mate... she does sound rather shallow and worthless and though I know it's going to anger you to read things like this it is the truth and something you realise in time

    Fight like fcuking hell for your child mate, which goes without saying

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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 05:38:12 (permalink)
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    Kick her to the curb.............Thats what these young 'uns say nowadays isn't?

    I'll cross that bridge after i've burned it.
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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 06:09:46 (permalink)
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    Well that fully sucks.

    You'll come out of this wiser and stronger.

    She'll probably never really be happy with anyone, if she can do that to the father of her child she'll do it to anyone.

    There are good ones out there, so don't go becoming all bitter and twisted.

    Keep your head held high, we've all fallen fo the wrong person at least once.

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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 07:39:19 (permalink)
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    ouch, thats not nice to hear mate. gutting infact. expecially with yous havin a kid etc.
    i couldn't imagine what thats like.
    i've not long split up with my "first love" just really getting over it tbh theres been a few times i've suspected her of doing the dirty and those thoughts make it easier to decide i dont want her as much as she dosn't want me.
    post edited by fiesta_bhoy - 2007/06/19 07:43:16
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    RE: Just found out GF has been cheating 2007/06/19 07:50:52 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: fiesta_bhoy

    ouch, thats not nice to hear mate. gutting infact. expecially with yous havin a kid etc.
    i couldn't imagine what thats like.
    i've not long split up with my "first love" just really getting over it tbh theres been a few times i've suspected her of doing the dirty and those thoughts make it easier to decide i dont want her as much as she dosn't want me.



    mmm mate, my first real relationship went pretty pear shaped about 6 months ago, suspected her of cheating but convicned myself she wouldnt do that to me... nothings guts ya more than finding out they were doing it... makes you pretty goddamn paranoid afterwards... 6 months later and im still struggling with paranoia in relationships

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