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2008/05/11 14:54:36 (permalink)

Longest relationship you have ended?

Hi guys,

Dont usually ask about real life situations and serious stuff BUT whats the longest relationship you have ended that YOU have ended, what made you realise it had to go, and how did you come to terms with the void?

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    AlasTTTair
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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 15:07:41 (permalink)
    This may sound odd, but I ended a 21 year relationship.


















    Odd because I'm only 20 .
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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 15:11:21 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: AlasTTTair

    This may sound odd, but I ended a 21 year relationship.


















    Odd because I'm only 20 .


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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 15:22:53 (permalink)
    just under 4 years, ex-fiancee

    Had to stop because we were degenerating into bickering kids and seeing who could deal the most damage and as such the love disappeared and we had nothing to recover from

    I came to terms with it by going out and meeting other girls, worked to a point but i didnt have a proper relationship till 12 months after i split from her
    post edited by theiopener - 2008/05/11 15:23:31
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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 15:28:02 (permalink)
    5 and half years, ended it because she bored me we were different people and grew apart. she became weak and i in turn became a ba5tard.

    then after that was 4 and a half years, we were never really right for each other, different ideas on how people should act in relationships, i got involved and it was just a universoty relationship, soon as real world beckoned kind of realised it had no lonegevity.

    both relationships i should have ended long before i did, thats the only real regret i have from them, dragging it on and staying in my comfort zone.

    came to terms with the first one long before i ended it, as for the second one, still not fully got over it at as such but enjoying my freedom and realising a lot of things about myself. never easy but i think a total clean break is best.
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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 15:32:39 (permalink)
    8 Years
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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 15:48:50 (permalink)
    3.5 years.

    She wanted me to make every possible compromise whilst she made none & I got continually told how useless I was, how I did everything wrong, how I should not even LOOK at another woman or talk to them etc (kinda difficult when you work with dozens of women). I didn't make much money back then (still don't, really) and she constantly wanted expensive gifts, eat-outs and holidays I couldn't afford to "prove" I loved her. I had to explain where i'd been if I went down the pub whilst she was out-of-town.

    I have to say it was nice to get my independance back when I finally gave her the elbow. But I do still miss the good times we had together and I know i'll never forget them. saying that, she's married now and I hope they make each other happy. Maybe they're better suited than we were?

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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 15:53:23 (permalink)
    a month, erm not really in the same league
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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 16:30:16 (permalink)
    4 years... my dad died and she was so thick she couldnt understand why I was acting differently..

    .. so she went with my cousin for another 3 years... I'd happily punch her in the face.

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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 16:50:02 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: plug1

    4 years... my dad died and she was so thick she couldnt understand why I was acting differently..

    .. so she went with my cousin for another 3 years... I'd happily punch her in the face.


    I hope you really did...

    For me, 7months.
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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 16:58:33 (permalink)
    In June, it would have been 9 years.
    I say would have been as we split up 2 weeks ago.
    Feel gutted to be honest and am doing that "I'll forever be on that shelf" self pity routine.

    She's now doing that "See how we feel after a month apart" routine.


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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 17:28:09 (permalink)
    ORIGINAL: Noddie

    3.5 years.

    She wanted me to make every possible compromise whilst she made none & I got continually told how useless I was, how I did everything wrong, how I should not even LOOK at another woman or talk to them etc (kinda difficult when you work with dozens of women). I didn't make much money back then (still don't, really) and she constantly wanted expensive gifts, eat-outs and holidays I couldn't afford to "prove" I loved her. I had to explain where i'd been if I went down the pub whilst she was out-of-town.

    I have to say it was nice to get my independance back when I finally gave her the elbow. But I do still miss the good times we had together and I know i'll never forget them. saying that, she's married now and I hope they make each other happy. Maybe they're better suited than we were?


    Bitch should have been paying you for that mate.

    The longest one i ended was like 2 months. Lassie just wasn't right for me. Apart from that the chicks always beat me to it Although its easier to get them to do it sometimes I wish i never gave them the satisfaction.
    post edited by daveshow - 2008/05/11 17:30:40

     


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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 17:38:15 (permalink)


    ...stay tuned for more insecurities from Power Junkie's turd-world next week.



    At least you've still got a sense of humour.

    FWIW, though, I find that once something is broken it can't be put back together.

    Please don't take what I say too literally. I'm a clown, when it's all said and done. Sometimes I say things with my tongue in my cheek to make people laugh, but please rest assured I am not laughing at *you*!
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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 17:48:43 (permalink)
    6 years (only 22) but was never faithful... only wish i cheated more tbh

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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 17:57:00 (permalink)
    6 years.
    I find it hard to 'fall in love'. She described me as an emotionless rock.
    I dont know why im like it. I cried when my dog died and when my family died, but i guess since most of my family are dead things just dont phase me.
    Ive seen people get run over and seen some really sick things but ive never been bothered by them, some things have even made me laugh when other people have been horrified.
    And when it comes to relationships im the same, i dont open up where other mates of mine get sucked into the whole love thing within 6 months.

    I asked my gf what love was and her reply was that for her love is when you would do anything for that person and want to spend your life with them.
    Now my family i would say i love... but relationships... i wouldnt do anything for the person and i wouldnt say i want to spend my life with her.

    So maybe i just havent found the right person yet.
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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 18:45:58 (permalink)
    i've just come out of a 18 year relationship! jeez that's a long time!
    my choice? no. I would and did stand by him whatever but logically it's the right thing - we'd drifted apart, had nothing in common, he had secret txting "friends" etc
    So i know where you're coming from with the "forever on the shelf, going to be a sad, lonely life on my own" kind of thing. But who knows, hopefully my ideal man is out there
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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 18:49:39 (permalink)
    susie, get back in your thread about meeting young boys
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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 19:17:35 (permalink)
    Mine was 13 years or so, got divorced, mutual decision rather than just me though.


    Both of us were just not happy and tbh we weren`t suited at all, they say opposites attract which I think can be so but I think very few stand the test of time.

    To fill the void ? well the relationship had been one big void so there was nothing to fill really lol.

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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 20:20:05 (permalink)
    6 years.... I should have ended it within a year but my ex was very mentally abusive and would constantly tell me how ugly and useless I was. He told me if I left him I would be on my own because nobody else would want me - when someone tells you that all the time you start to believe it.

    I was bullied at school, really badly, I didn't have a single friend really. The boys would ask me out and then tell me they were only joking and they wouldn't touch me with a barge pole. I met him when I was just 16 so I was very vunerable and he took advantage of that.

    I wasn't allowed out of the house on my own after dark, wasn't allowed to the pub without him and wasn't allowed to wear any clothes that showed too much flesh - we went on holiday to greece once but I wasn't allowed to wear a swimming costume let alone a bikini !! .. I had to wear vest and shorts to go swimming and had to cover myself up as soon as I came out of the pool.

    One morning we were arguing and he slapped me across the back of the head and told me to behave .. I then thought I would rather be on my own that be with someone who was abusive. I found out after I left him, when we went out on " boys " nights out he was actually meeting girls off the net and going back to hotels with them

    Grrr, sorry - ranted a bit there :/

    Luckily I now have Desmo who is the complete opposite

    And though she be but little, she is fierce..
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    RE: Longest relationship you have ended? 2008/05/11 20:23:46 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: Welshy

    6 years.... I should have ended it within a year but my ex was very mentally abusive and would constantly tell me how ugly and useless I was. He told me if I left him I would be on my own because nobody else would want me - when someone tells you that all the time you start to believe it.

    I was bullied at school, really badly, I didn't have a single friend really. The boys would ask me out and then tell me they were only joking and they wouldn't touch me with a barge pole. I met him when I was just 16 so I was very vunerable and he took advantage of that.

    I wasn't allowed out of the house on my own after dark, wasn't allowed to the pub without him and wasn't allowed to wear any clothes that showed too much flesh - we went on holiday to greece once but I wasn't allowed to wear a swimming costume let alone a bikini !! .. I had to wear vest and shorts to go swimming and had to cover myself up as soon as I came out of the pool.

    One morning we were arguing and he slapped me across the back of the head and told me to behave .. I then thought I would rather be on my own that be with someone who was abusive. I found out after I left him, when we went out on " boys " nights out he was actually meeting girls off the net and going back to hotels with them

    Grrr, sorry - ranted a bit there :/

    Luckily I now have Desmo who is the complete opposite


    Glad it worked out for you Welshy. F8ck him and concentrate on Desmo who seems like a lovely guy!!
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