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2007/06/13 16:42:41 (permalink)

Move to Spain?

Hey people

I am currently in Spain visiting my best mate, who has her own business over here.

I am here as I need to sort my head out, have split with bf and I lived with him, i gave up everything to be with him, I gave up my job last year as it was stressing me out, so i depended on him for a bit. Anyway Im wondering whether to move to Spain, i could prob get a job out here ion a bar, and my mate said I could stay at her place, I would do this at the drop of a hat exept I have a 10 year old son, Do you think it would effect him in a bad way if we moved here, also its very quiet and a bit boring as its a little village.

Would appreciate any advice

MEC XX
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    BROKEN
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    RE: Move to Spain? 2007/06/13 16:53:00 (permalink)
    The little boy would become bi-ligual not a bad thing.
    He might find it hard to adjust initially and made need a lot of extra support from you.
    Doing bar work would mean you were out at nights and tired more during the day, also you would work weekends a lot, how do you plan on looking after your son while at work or resting?
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    muscleman20
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    RE: Move to Spain? 2007/06/13 16:58:48 (permalink)
    i remember moving up north 300 miles away when i was 8 and even that was hard enough having to leave behind all my friends and start a new school, i imagine moving country would be a lot tougher
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    RE: Move to Spain? 2007/06/13 17:15:21 (permalink)
    It is bound to be tough, but as with all things it's a case of pro's and cons. I have moved to Spain and am loving it, definitely the right move for me. Obviously my situation is totally different though.

    Thinking (way) back to when I was 10, I probably would have hated the idea of moving, mainly cos I guess at that age, your concept of the world is largly just family and your mates, however looking back on it I think I would have appreciated the experience now.

    Where abouts in Spain would you be thinking about going? I know you say its a small town so initially work might be limited to bar stuff etc, but you'd be surprised what you can do if you want to, even with little spanish.

    Have you any skills you could use to work freelance? I'm a web-designer so luckily can do that from anywhere, but maybe you could look in to giving some english classes to boost your income (which I also do €10 p/h) and maybe look for local sport centres that might want an english speaker to help with classes or something if there are ex-pats around... all I am saying is that with a bit of imagination you'd be surprised how easy it is to get by.

    Also there definitely seems to be a shift in priorities here. Seems to be less about work work work, career etc, and more about living, so having a large income isn't necessary for a good standard of living.

    I think in the long run your lad could gain a lot from the experience, though there is no doubt it will be difficult. That said at his age he'd soak up the language like a sponge.
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    RE: Move to Spain? 2007/06/13 17:19:19 (permalink)
    id travel a bit before you decide to move to another country, spain wouldnt be top of my list, if you want to move abroad at least check out the competition first.

    Be careful you arent just running away from problems in your life in the UK, this isnt a good reason to leave a country, you should just sort those issues out IF this is the case.
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    RE: Move to Spain? 2007/06/14 00:21:51 (permalink)
    I moved to Spain last year and have children however I work in the UK. Dont believe what people say about the Spanish school as bi-lingual. The spanish dont talk to the english and the english stick together in schools and the spanish education system is based around if you wont to be taught you will be if you dont forget it and the english all fall behind as they cant understand the teachers. The only alternative are international schools that cost. Apart from the schooling it is a much better life! Email me direct if you wont some advice.
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    RE: Move to Spain? 2007/06/14 01:21:25 (permalink)
    From what I'm told, its difficult to survive in spain being a couple, not to mention a single parent.

    what if you mate moves/ye fall out?
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    RE: Move to Spain? 2007/06/14 05:37:01 (permalink)
    only you as a parent know how easily your child could adapt..my son can adapt very quickly, but as a child I couldnt....

    TBH, I think if you had something more to move for...yeah, go for it....but moving to another country to live with a mate and work in a bar sounds like something a single person does before they have kids....it doesnt sound too solid otherwise.

    i would suggest spending the summer there with your family...see how it goes before you make a decision...a better idea to get a feel for the place I reckon.

    good luck whatever you do!
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    RE: Move to Spain? 2007/06/14 07:30:44 (permalink)
    Obviously a very tough decision MEC and some good comments to consider by others above, personally I`d give it a go but I`d talk to my family first and make sure I had a back up plan to return to this country if things went wrong.
    For me I`d look at it that it was better to regret going than the regret of not going but maybe that`s just me.
    Good luck with whatever you choose.

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    RE: Move to Spain? 2007/06/14 07:48:08 (permalink)
    As a child I would have hated it tbh, I didnt make friends easily and to be taken from the ones I had would have destroyed me.

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    RE: Move to Spain? 2007/06/14 11:24:40 (permalink)
    We relocated with in the UK when I was 12 and my bro was 10.

    Didnt do me any harm and it was for the best.

    Just out of interest how expensive is it to live in Spain - could a single person earn enough to live from bar work? i.e. food and one bedroom flat?

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    RE: Move to Spain? 2007/06/14 14:16:51 (permalink)
    I pay €400 (£280ish) a month rent, thats me and the girlfriend, renting a 3 bed top floor flat (so has a big terrace) in central valencia, so I am sure you could get something 1 bed and more rural for much less.

    Food, is much cheaper I'd say too, not to mention beer petrol and fags obv (four 500ml cans of decent 5% beer < £1).

    Yeah earnings are less, but not proportionate to the cheaper cost of living imo, so you are still better off, even earning less money.

    As for the schools not teaching bi-lingually... I wouldn't have thought that any of them do unless they are specifically set up for that. I certainly wouldn't expect for one minute that they would cater for my english only speaking child unless, like I say it was a special school. If however you are looking at somewhere with a large ex-pat community then of course it might be different.
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    RE: Move to Spain? 2007/06/14 17:00:56 (permalink)
    I pay €400 (£280ish) a month rent, thats me and the girlfriend, renting a 3 bed top floor flat (so has a big terrace) in central valencia, so I am sure you could get something 1 bed and more rural for much less.

    Food, is much cheaper I'd say too, not to mention beer petrol and fags obv (four 500ml cans of decent 5% beer < £1).

    Yeah earnings are less, but not proportionate to the cheaper cost of living imo, so you are still better off, even earning less money.


    That sounds good.

    I'd like somewhere near the coast. Not sure what work I could do without any Spanish.
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    RE: Move to Spain? 2007/06/14 17:22:24 (permalink)
    picture you and your son in 5 years, then picture yourselves in 10 years, where do you want to be?

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    RE: Move to Spain? 2007/06/14 17:45:06 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: [Joe]


    That sounds good.

    I'd like somewhere near the coast. Not sure what work I could do without any Spanish.


    Valencia has a good beach, and loads of others along the coast

    You'd be surprised what you can do to earn money without speaking da lingo, my spanish isn't yet sufficient to work in an all spanish environment for example.

    All a bit off topic, but I spose tis still relevant.
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    RE: Move to Spain? 2007/06/14 18:42:32 (permalink)
    My family moved from the UK to Italy when I was 7 and my brother was 5, we stayed there for 3 and a half years

    It was fairly easy for both of us, but then the schools over there were decent, and the Italians quite liked the English back then. We were pretty much taken under the Italians wings, maybe because we were young. So it was easy enough to pick up the language and fit in

    No idea what it's like in Spain with regards schools and so on though. Probably totally different from Italy in the 80s! That's what you'll have to find out I guess. Does your mate who you're staying with have kids, or know kids there?

    Make sure it's something you really want to do long term, rather than just a reaction to your break-up


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