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2007/06/20 19:48:47 (permalink)
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My ex is struggling already.

My ex called me today as the other day when i left i was using her spare phone as my battery was dead on my phone.So she was like i need my phone because i have to sell it as i have no money so i took it to her and she was in the park with my little girl.

So i took my little girl on the swing and played with her for a bit.When i used to be with her she would always ask me everytime i see her have u got a fiver or a tenner.So as we are finished she said have u got a pound so i said no and she looked all miserable and sad obviously as she has no money.

Then she was like will u have the baby on friday night cause im going out so i said i thought i had to go to court to see her,then she said its up to you i said im not goona go to court,then as i was going she said do u want to take her now i said no because i have a days work tomorow so i said ill come and get her friday then bring her back saturday as im going out sat night.

Then i said im startin a job next week full time and she was like oh now u get a job and i was like ive been trying its jjust come round as u have done this not my fault u did the dirty.

So within just a few days shes changed her tune,i thought to myself it seems your regretting this a bit already so in a few weeks u will be thinkin **** ah well her loss
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    dave252
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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 19:52:15 (permalink)
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    Serves her right mate.

    Bet that cheered you up a bit. And a new job aswell
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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 19:53:10 (permalink)
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    said no because i have a days work tomorow so i said ill come and get her friday then bring her back saturday as im going out sat night.


    what are you doing saturday night, nothing you can't put on hold to spend more time with your girl?

    If she has no money where is she off to also?

    And I would say, all well and good standing your ground and not giving her a thing but remember, she's the mother of your child and there could be greater ramifications when you dismiss things that ultimately have no impact on you.

    Not suprised her tune has changed, she would have been acting out of anger and embarassment before and has now had time to reflect

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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 19:55:42 (permalink)
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    Dont even think about taking her back mate! I bet for sure its crossed your mind.

    She has pis*ed on her chips bro and thats unforgiveable IMO.

    If you got back with her, deep down she would have no respect for you doing so and would know that if she got caught out again there would be areal chance she could get away with it.

    Look after your kid bro as I know you will, but sod her!
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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 20:07:19 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: dirtyvest

    said no because i have a days work tomorow so i said ill come and get her friday then bring her back saturday as im going out sat night.


    what are you doing saturday night, nothing you can't put on hold to spend more time with your girl?

    If she has no money where is she off to also?

    And I would say, all well and good standing your ground and not giving her a thing but remember, she's the mother of your child and there could be greater ramifications when you dismiss things that ultimately have no impact on you.

    Not suprised her tune has changed, she would have been acting out of anger and embarassment before and has now had time to reflect



    Good points u point out DV but i havent been out in months i just had to watch her go out every weekend while im in with the kids.

    She will get £20 from her first childs father on friday so thats how she will go out (selfish again) the reason i didnt give her nothing is because i gave her £40 in the week last week and she has all the food nappies and wipes she needs for my child from me, and she still owes my friend some money so i thought no way i did feel bad deep down not giving her it but shes in the park with her sister and cousin im sure they can give her something.

    The last bit must be correct as well.
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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 20:08:57 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: Trident

    Dont even think about taking her back mate! I bet for sure its crossed your mind.

    She has pis*ed on her chips bro and thats unforgiveable IMO.

    If you got back with her, deep down she would have no respect for you doing so and would know that if she got caught out again there would be areal chance she could get away with it.

    Look after your kid bro as I know you will, but sod her!



    No i wont obviously she still dont love me she just probly wants me to get some money out of me but even if she did love me again i wouldnt get bk with her not now its too late but i must admit i felt for her a bit having no money but its no my problem now.
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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 20:14:08 (permalink)
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    Mate, The tide will turn and she will be begging for you to take her back in no time at all, The same will happen with my ex

    Be strong, may not seem the logical thing to do at the time but dont go back there

    She's made her bed now she has to lie in it
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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 20:15:33 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: Baywatch

    Mate, The tide will turn and she will be begging for you to take her back in no time at all, The same will happen with my ex

    Be strong, may not seem the logical thing to do at the time but dont go back there

    She's made her bed now she has to lie in it



    When did you brake with your ex mate?
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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 20:18:31 (permalink)
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    dont give in to her m8

    but spend as much time as ou can with your kid. dare i say if it really does come to court if they see your providing for your kid and looking after her most of the time vs your ex no money etc etc you may win custody- not an easy thing as the male but possible m8

    hopefully it wonm come to that- and of course its best to split mutually and stay on good terms for your kids sake
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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 20:29:07 (permalink)
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    Thats good news James.
    This just goes to show that she's unable to cope on her own without your support.
    Nice to hear she won't be going court as thats the last thing you need...

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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 20:50:07 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: makaveli1971 1996


    ORIGINAL: Baywatch

    Mate, The tide will turn and she will be begging for you to take her back in no time at all, The same will happen with my ex

    Be strong, may not seem the logical thing to do at the time but dont go back there

    She's made her bed now she has to lie in it



    When did you brake with your ex mate?


    About 5 weeks ago mate, very similar situation to yours except there was no kid involved.

    I done and give everything to that girl and she **** on me with sum guy she works with! The first 2 weeks were the worst of my life, the lowest I have ever felt, Even tho she cheated i still wanted to be with her so much and was trying to think of things i could do and how i could change to make it work..

    After a while tho it just sunk in and i realised that it was her loss and not mine and that i didnt want to be with a girl like that. I still miss her badly but i know i am better off without her and i will meet someone better whereas in time she will regret it, she told me that at the time and her sister told me when i seen her that she was already starting to feel sorry for herself

    Chin up mate

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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 20:54:02 (permalink)
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    I had similar also guys BTW, after a 10 year relationship (again no kids involved). However, that was about 3 years ago and I do not wish my life to be any different now I can tell you that for nothing.

    What I would say right now, not that it needs saying but anyway - your girl is your immediate priority above all else

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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 21:06:45 (permalink)
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    the sad thing is althou she has no money it may be good to see her suffer, but your child also suffers too, just bear that in mind......the easiest way around feeling bad is instead of giving her any money go and buy what she needs for your child, regret and hindsight is always easier later, her losss really,,,,but also yours for your child...
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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 21:20:09 (permalink)
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    On the basis of potential money being spent going out buy items with any cash you'd give her so the baby gets stuff. For example take her food shopping or buy stuff the baby needs.

     
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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 21:35:01 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: scruffy

    the sad thing is althou she has no money it may be good to see her suffer, but your child also suffers too, just bear that in mind......the easiest way around feeling bad is instead of giving her any money go and buy what she needs for your child, regret and hindsight is always easier later, her losss really,,,,but also yours for your child...


    Yep i know what your saying scruffy it is my loss as i did always want to be there for my child full time but shes ruined that so ill just have to do the best i can but i will make sure shes always got what my baby needs.
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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 22:05:46 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: Baywatch


    ORIGINAL: makaveli1971 1996


    ORIGINAL: Baywatch

    Mate, The tide will turn and she will be begging for you to take her back in no time at all, The same will happen with my ex

    Be strong, may not seem the logical thing to do at the time but dont go back there

    She's made her bed now she has to lie in it



    When did you brake with your ex mate?


    About 5 weeks ago mate, very similar situation to yours except there was no kid involved.

    I done and give everything to that girl and she **** on me with sum guy she works with! The first 2 weeks were the worst of my life, the lowest I have ever felt, Even tho she cheated i still wanted to be with her so much and was trying to think of things i could do and how i could change to make it work..

    After a while tho it just sunk in and i realised that it was her loss and not mine and that i didnt want to be with a girl like that. I still miss her badly but i know i am better off without her and i will meet someone better whereas in time she will regret it, she told me that at the time and her sister told me when i seen her that she was already starting to feel sorry for herself

    Chin up mate





    How long was u with her mate?
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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 22:07:59 (permalink)
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    Thats what you keep focused on, you child and as the guys say if you want take her shopping in fact take the wee one shopping on saturday if think its a good idea and its fun.

    "A man can be anything he wants as long as he,s willing to pay the price"
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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 22:21:46 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: dirtyvest

    I had similar also guys BTW, after a 10 year relationship (again no kids involved). However, that was about 3 years ago and I do not wish my life to be any different now I can tell you that for nothing.

    What I would say right now, not that it needs saying but anyway - your girl is your immediate priority above all else



    10 yrs u must have been absolutely gutted its a shame when these things happen,i mean we all live once and its just a waste especially when it ends in these circumstances the women cheating.When i tend to read things u usually here its the guy doing the dirty.

    But from what i know and heard from friends and family its more women that have done it.But its the way she (my exgirl) has done it with me.Maybe if i was taken the piss hardly suporting always out etc etc id understand a but more.But the way shes done it to me is very cruel.

    Good to here your going strong these days.After all that.
    post edited by makaveli1971 1996 - 2007/06/20 22:24:12
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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 22:31:16 (permalink)
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    man just reading this shows that life just aint easy. i split with my g/f yesterday although it was pretty drawn out, i dont know how i would have coped if she had left me for someone else.

    its a good job the iron loves us

    chin up to everyone going through the sh!t.
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    RE: My ex is struggling already. 2007/06/20 22:37:48 (permalink)
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    just leave her be mate keep her out of your head and go enjoy yourself for a change.
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