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My life 6 months ahead

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2008/05/16 11:47:38 (permalink)

My life 6 months ahead

Hi guys, I made a thread few mnths ago, Ill go over it again, basically my gf split up with me after 2 years together, basically I made the mistake of getting with someone else though I stopped it going any further because I realised I shouldnt be doing this, this brought about guilt so I told her, and she was upset but we stayed together really. Few months after we move to somewhere together, and she splits up with me, made her new friends, so I was left alone.

She claims to be my friend, but doesnt bother calling me, picking up my phone calls or answering back my texts, but when I call her, she acts like she wants to speak to me, its wierd, I noticed her smoking with her mates, drinking alcohol which she never did before.

I still love her but its fading away, slowly trying to move on, I hate her how shes treating me right now, but I sort of understand why, but still, I dont deserve to get this treatment. We came to this new place together as a couple and she said she loved me still, and after having few arguments, she ended it, and doesnt even bother to keep in contact with me.

I just thought Id leave this here, incase guys or girls are going through any problems.

I still find life tough and I think about her everyday, even though shes literally 10 minutes from me, I havent seen her really in 6 months.

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    dawniesb
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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/16 11:52:05 (permalink)
    Mate,

    Sorry to be harsh, but it was you who did the bad deed and now it just sounds to me like she is getting on with her life. Maybe you should do the same instead of worrying what she is doing.
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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/16 11:52:32 (permalink)
    sorry to hear that mate, we all make mistakes, best to learn from them and move on. I wouldnt phone her or text her, give her some time, it sounds to me she is still hurting if she has started smoking and drinking. If you still want to speak to her and remain friends call her after a few months and talk if she hasnt contacted you by then, other then that just take your mind off her by going out on the pull .
    post edited by popeye_wannabe - 2008/05/16 11:53:27


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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/16 11:52:34 (permalink)
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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/16 12:15:43 (permalink)

    ORIGINAL: bodybuilder2007
    I hate her how shes treating me right now, but I sort of understand why, but still, I dont deserve to get this treatment.



    She doesn't owe you anything, mate.

    I'm afraid that in this case, you reap what you sow.

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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/16 12:16:30 (permalink)
    Try to forget her and move on mate

    Sounds like she's already done that

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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/16 12:18:13 (permalink)
    I know guys, she said shes moved on, thing is I was jealous because this one guy use to chat to her all the time and he said something dirty to her like, oh come to me for sex if you need it, as a joke, when I heard it, she said she wouldnt speak to him again, which she never, then nx thing I saw right in front of me, he spoke to her and she was chatting to him, hurt me bad, months later, I had a right go at him, and I felt like crap from that time, thats partly why I did what I did, but I stopped it, I didnt have sex with the person, but I went too far still.

    I kept thinking oh this is revenge for her talkin to him, I was insecure. We took a break for 2 months, and we kept seeing each other, she said she still loved me and she wanted to get past it. So few months after we got back together, but I felt guilty because I felt like I should have told her every single detail. so in the end after months I kept telling her every single detail which was like giving a description of what I did. I just wanted to get rid of my guilt.

    It upset her more, but we came to this place together, we both young only 20 years old. I thought we'd be forever. After few arguments because I was depressed about leaving family behind and making new friends, she decided I was pulling her down, and she left me, I was further more depressed, how would I make new friends. After few months I decided to make friends which I have, but I feel sad still. Moving here was meant to be fun for both of us.

    I still think maybe I can get together with her, but I wont force it, guys if you saw me, you wouldnt expect me to do a thing wrong in life, its the biggest mistake I did, which is why I feel so bad still. I made a mistake and ive learnt from it, ive gotten over my insecurity I think.

    If I got a new gf, I wouldnt be as protective,and if she wanted to talk to guys or even get with them, thats her problem, and she would have to have that on her conscience. I just cared for my ex gf too much, and every little thing hurt me.

    I know there are guys on here with problems in relationships, so please read, and take what you want from it.

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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/16 12:20:07 (permalink)


    She doesn't owe you anything, mate.

    I'm afraid that in this case, you reap what you sow.


    I know, but we stuck at it together, so we moved location together thinking things will be ok, and then she left me. We were together for around 8 months or so still, though it was rocky. I feel like if she had a problem with me before she should had said. But I didnt expect a really logn break up, i only expected a short break to get our head around things, then we get back together
    post edited by Lord Monkcheese - 2008/05/17 11:31:45
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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/16 13:45:34 (permalink)

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    I dont deserve to get this treatment.


    You fcuked up, end of mate. If she meant that much to you, you wouldn't of thought twice about cheating on her.
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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/16 14:01:26 (permalink)
    you keep saying you moved here together, where did you move from and to? it sound like you have moved a long way from where you were?

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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/16 14:16:18 (permalink)
    You sound a bit like my ex mate, she cheated on me a few weeks ago and lied to me through her teeth till i got the truth out of her. Now shes constantly pestering me to take her back, when i wouldnt she got aggressive callling me every name under the sun.
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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/16 15:24:30 (permalink)
    Im not denying what I did was wrong, I think I had jealousy problems, I kept thinking she was going behind behind my back, and had all these thoughts, so to combat them, I did what I did, even though it was much, if you want to know what happened, a woman touched me up a little, and I let her, but then I said no its wrong and I felt bad, thing is I didnt tell her what happened for months and guilt came in. It wasnt even much what happened but still it was wrong.

    It was more my guilt affecting the relationship than what happened I think.

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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/16 16:45:51 (permalink)

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    I dont deserve to get this treatment.


    You fcuked up, end of mate. If she meant that much to you, you wouldn't of thought twice about cheating on her.


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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/17 09:21:11 (permalink)
    well how would you feel if your gf was chatting to a guy you hated when she said she wouldnt? she was talking to guys and she knew it made me jealous, so i did what i did.


    then how would you like it if you got married to her after you told her, 8 months later, she divorces you and takes your money, you'll be well angry.
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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/17 09:35:32 (permalink)
    its hard dude but just keep ur chin up and move on, dont contact her as ive found it just makes it harder to move on when you still have contact. You did something wrong so just learn from it and dont worry about it, we all drop the odd bollock from time to time its just part of life. Dont worry dude time is a great healer, you just have to ride it out
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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/17 11:00:49 (permalink)

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    its hard dude but just keep ur chin up and move on, dont contact her as ive found it just makes it harder to move on when you still have contact. You did something wrong so just learn from it and dont worry about it, we all drop the odd bollock from time to time its just part of life. Dont worry dude time is a great healer, you just have to ride it out



    Thanks, I am into another girl now a lot, but I still love my ex gf. I wouldnt make the same mistake with any one else I promise that. I think its due to other guys in my gym telling me their stories, they were always like "Ive had 4 girls this week blah blah my misses dont know," and they said to me youre still young you should be doing that, I got sucked in. Tbh Im not the guy to do anything wrong, thats why I stopped it going any further with the girl, because my conscious came in, and I stopped thinking what other people said.


    I know I am the bad guy, and I dont disagree with you guys, I got sucked in to what I thought was the norm, will never happen again. I promise. I have to make it up to myself which I have been doing for the last months, just so I can get myself on track.
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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/17 13:12:40 (permalink)
    Yes but those guys dont go home and tell their girlfriends about what they do, and you did (rather stupidly) and so this is what happens

    You cheated, and now she has fuked you off. You shouldnt have told her about it. You cant expect her to be all forgiving etc, when your idea of her doing something out of order was talking to a guy 'didnt like'

    So the moral of this story is dont tell your Mrs if you're cheating lol
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    RE: My life 6 months ahead 2008/05/17 13:18:07 (permalink)
    yer, I even rang up the samaritans and asked what I should do, they told me, you made a mistake but you stopped it from going any further, keep it to yourself, whats it going to do if you tell your gf, it will do nothing, you realised what you done wrong. what is why I kept it secret for few months, then I ended up telling her because I was treating her differently.

    Yeah if I was raelly the sort of guy to cheat, I would be happy about it. I wish one thing I was mentally stronger
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