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2009/07/23 09:39:00 (permalink)

Off work with stress and anxiety

This is what I am as of this morning.

Something I never thought I would be off with as I am strong character but have woken up this morning getting ready to go to work, heart racing, didn't really sleep well and basically worrying about going to work and worrying about what I will do when I get there.

To cut a long story short I volunteered to take a certain job on in work (expecting back up fro managers etc). It is a very demanding job and 4 people used to do it. I took it all on myself with the proviso that more people would be brought in.

Basically they weren't, I have been struggling along for months (even during my split with my wife which meant I sat at my desk and in meetings with my bosses in tears) and still nothing. There has been false dawn after false dawn and basically this morning I had enough and really couldn't face going to work.

The last couple of weeks I have been getting panic attacks in work and really angry outbursts which have been laughed off as (oh Simon is highly strung again today, stay away from him). I actually felt that isf I had gone into work this morning I would have either got the sack or ended up seriously ill and I am not risking my health for anyone.

My question or I suppose statement is, "Why the hell do I feel so guilty" I feel guilty because maybe one of my colleagues will have to step into the breach and I feel guilty because I hate not being in work. There are spongers in that place who take sick at the drop of a hat and don't care, I wish I could be like one of them.

The main thing that is bugging me is the thought of going to my doctor and asking for a sicknote for stress/anxiety/wanting to rip peoples heads off. As it is not a tangible problem I feel like I am cheating people...ah I don't know.

Thankyou for reading this long and tedious post but it did me a whole lot of good getting it down on (internet) paper ha ha.

I hope that people can share similar experiences which may help me through.
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    RedHotF
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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 09:49:20 (permalink)
    I was off work for a week with stress, this was a few years ago.  If I hadn't have had time off I probably would have killed someone or harmed myself.  Don't feel bad about looking after number one - your health and wellbeing is the most important thing here.


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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 09:50:54 (permalink)
    It sounds to me like you should simply go to see your GP and reiterate what you have put in your post.

    Unfortunately for me have always been very dismissive of anything that affects me and that lets things build up to breaking point. Your GP will be able to make a fair assessment of what you are saying, and maybe sign you off temporarily. If you don't get the answer you are looking for then you can always seek a second opinion.

    It does sound like you have a genuine problem and people like your gp are there to help. Your work should also shoulder some responsibility especially if they are piling more and more work and stress on.

    I don't want to sound like the adverts - but there should be no stigma to admitting that you need help. Of course i can't help but think that's ok for everyone else but not for me

    I am only at the start of what you could call a recovery - i am not at least having mood swings - so feeling good some of the time is better than feeling sh1te all the time

    If i can help at all don't hesitate to ask. Best of luck mate.

    Awesome pic, but Tony you're not doing yourself many favours posting up tips on preventing the gag reflex and then a picture of a guy touching his toes - Ak
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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 09:54:29 (permalink)
    Sorry to hear this CL, anxiety is horrible IME of it, much more unpleasant even than depression.
     
    No need to feel guilty, you should be off.
     
    When you feel better, now might be a good time to take stock, it has seemed to me for a long time that you have been sticking plasters over a serious wound.
     
    All the best.
     

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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 09:56:47 (permalink)
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    Sorry to hear this CL, anxiety is horrible IME of it, much more unpleasant even than depression.
     
    No need to feel guilty, you should be off.

     
    When you feel better, now might be a good time to take stock, it has seemed to me for a long time that you have been sticking plasters over a serious wound.
     
    All the best.
     


    Absolutely.

    Anxiety and stress are serious conditions. People kill themselves as a result, or have heart attacks or strokes etc through elevated stress, so in that sense stress is a potentially fatal condition

    Sounds like work have let you down quite badly.

    Feck 'em.



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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 10:00:48 (permalink)
    I think there is a lot of truth when you hear that "stress is a silent killer".
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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 10:05:09 (permalink)
    RedHotF

    I think there is a lot of truth when you hear that "stress is a silent killer".


    Indeed all manner of ailments can be laid at its door, including, in some alcoholism.
     

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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 10:28:21 (permalink)
    Makes a change for a thread on here to be a hippie love in

    If Welshy & Desmo aren't careful the Essex BBQ could be like the final days of Sodom & Gomorrah haha.

    Awesome pic, but Tony you're not doing yourself many favours posting up tips on preventing the gag reflex and then a picture of a guy touching his toes - Ak
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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 10:30:29 (permalink)
    Group hug!


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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 10:32:59 (permalink)
    It's like the site is splitting into two factions. The luvvies and the dark side.

    I see a war on the horizon

    Awesome pic, but Tony you're not doing yourself many favours posting up tips on preventing the gag reflex and then a picture of a guy touching his toes - Ak
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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 10:34:44 (permalink)
    I know exactly where you are coming from, two years ago my parents split up out of the blue, my dad turned in to a raging alcoholic and lost everything including our house, cars , business forcing me to move into a flat with my misses in a rough area, plus my companies owner went bust and we were all facing redundancy, very stress full times, I always considered myself very mentally strong and tried to just deal with everything on my own, one day I walking down street with the misses (worrying about the most random s***) and then BANG, chest pains, heart racing, dizziness, felt really quiet frightening, I though i was having a bloody heart attack, but it turns out it was a bad anxiety attack, I had bottled everything up and it wore me down.

    I was off work for a couple of days and felt better (watching plenty of comedy films to cheer me up) i felt pretty good after a rest and went back to work but whilst at work i had another attack ( basically sat at my desk feeling like the world was on my shoulders with adrenaline pumping and heart racing and feeling dizzy), after 3 months of this and not telling anyone I finally spoke to misses and it really seemed to help, i now try to look at things logically rather than worrying, and just chill more, i took up fishing and darts (which i absolutely love) so if ever im stressed i do one of those things and Im it chills me out.

    My work made massive redundancies but kept 2 of my department me and my manager so we have a LOT more work to do these days (there was 6 of us !) but i basically come in to the office and plan my day out, If people start hassling me, i show them my plan and say this is 8 hours worth of work here so i can't physically do any more jobs, normally they accept this and ask for it to be done when possible.

    If you boss takes no notice of you when you say you need help, then you have done your job, and he clearly isn't doing his.

    I really try to actually 'enjoy' my day at work these days, have a laugh with the office staff and do a good job and don't let things get you down.

    I haven't had a panic attack in probably 14 months now (which is good because they are seriously not a nice experience).

    Hopefully you can take some positives out of that, I was actually shocked at just how many people these days suffer from panic attacks and stress, your not alone fella.

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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 10:37:04 (permalink)
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    It's like the site is splitting into two factions. The luvvies and the dark side.

    I see a war on the horizon


    Im conflicted, I straddle the two.
     

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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 10:37:41 (permalink)
    All the above is true. All I will add is that although it may seem that the hardest part is going to your GP, it really does help getting it all off yourt chest to a professional. 

    I had anxiety attacks a few years ago (after losing my house/fiance and grandparents in the same month). I assumed that the doctor would be looking for a reason to say my stress is exaggerated or made up but he was really helpful. 

    It's such a male trait to try and keep things bottled up but it's not good for you mate. 

    All the best.
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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 10:42:56 (permalink)
    Thanks for all the posts everyone. They have been really helpful and have made me stop feeling like such a pussy.

    The silent killer things is very true, I normally have a very low heart rate, approx 57 ish. This morning it was way over this and it is what made me think that something needed to be done.

    Thanks again for all the honest and open posts
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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 10:49:10 (permalink)
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    essex_chris

    It's like the site is splitting into two factions. The luvvies and the dark side.

    I see a war on the horizon


    Im conflicted, I straddle the two.
     


    You're a sweet guy, but Im not sure if I want you straddling me just yet....



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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 10:49:57 (permalink)
    967Stuart

    If you boss takes no notice of you when you say you need help, then you have done your job, and he clearly isn't doing his.



    Good advice, and bloody good way of summing it up


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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 10:50:56 (permalink)
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    essex_chris

    It's like the site is splitting into two factions. The luvvies and the dark side.

    I see a war on the horizon


    Im conflicted, I straddle the two.
     


    You're a sweet guy, but Im not sure if I want you straddling me just yet....


    Thats ok, more fun for me if you dont want me to....sister....

    My username has nothing to do with my religious beliefs.....
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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 11:37:58 (permalink)
    Cardifflad

    This is what I am as of this morning.



    It sounds like you're stressed and anxious because you're working in stressful and anxiety-provoking circumstances.

    Time off may be a good thing (to give you a bit of a breather) but in the longer term you probably need to look at ways of changing your working conditions.

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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 11:41:52 (permalink)
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    Cardifflad

    This is what I am as of this morning.



    It sounds like you're stressed and anxious because you're working in stressful and anxiety-provoking circumstances.

    Time off may be a good thing (to give you a bit of a breather) but in the longer term you probably need to look at ways of changing your working conditions.


    Cheers John

    Yes I am working with the councellor in my workplace to get me a move. The managers where I am now won't listen so I thought it was about time I took it upon myself to make something happen

    Thanks again
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    Re:Off work with stress and anxiety 2009/07/23 12:02:09 (permalink)
    That's good you have a counsellor at work to help
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