I don't post on here too much but use the forum a lot and would really appreciate some advice as I'm in a full pretty dark place at the moment.
So I am married to my wife of 2 years and we have my gorgeous daughter who's is soon to be 2.
I am in the forces and work full time to provide for my family. (House etc etc)
I also volunteer for the ambulance service once a week as I am medically trained so go out with paramedics assisting on jobs.
Last year me and the Mrs were in a bad point in our relationship and almost split, I found her talking to one of my old mates flirting via text. I caught her and she promised to block him etc.
Last week I noticed her hiding her phone from me, so I took the opportunity to go on her phone. (A bit slimy I know)
Anyway, I found that she has been having a full affair with this guy for around 4months. Sending each other nude photos, generally talking, sexting, calling, face timing, sending pictures of my daughter to him and telling each other how much they love each other deeply.
I also found out that they have been meeting up whilst he has been on leave in the U.K. (He's based in Germany). She met up with him twice when she was 'walking the dog' and then again invited him round our home with my daughter upstairs whilst I was on my volunteer work I do.
She insisted that it was all online and in person they didn't do anything apart from a quick goodbye hug every time. After calling her bluff and pretending I knew what had happened I finally got truth after truth. And I told her if we want to staart fresh she is to tell me everything. Basically she says she's hey have only kissed, hugged and cuddled.
However I saw texts saying 'can't wait for tonight I'm going to be doing XXX to you' etc.
If I'm honest I really believe they have done stuff and I will never know.
What would you do? I love her to bits and have known her since I was 16. (I'm only 22 now)
I feel betrayed and I believe she is generally sorry however I believe it's just because she had been caught.
I'm getting him kicked out of the forces for it as it's massively frowned upon and he find it hilarious what he's done to me and my family. I've restrained from bartering him as I'd lose my job.
Basically I'm just in a really **** place at a young age and don't know what to do as my head is playing games with me as I don't know if she has told me everything and I'll never know a way to find out.
Sorry if this is really long or soppy, just haven't got too many mates that I can vent this off to as they are abroad on operations at the moment so just typing this out has let me release some steam.
Any help or advice would be appreciated.
Sorry guys but thanks.