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2015/02/27 10:06:51 (permalink)
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Sick of being told I have an eating disorder

Do you guys ever get told you have an eating disorder?
Do your friends or family think you're wierd or have to be 'cured'?
 
I'm sick of it. It came to a breaking point last night in a restaurant.  I was happy eating my food, and had no idea how many calories I was eating, even had a couple of glasses of wine.  But, because I didn't choose pasta or pizza (an italian restaurant) I was told I need to sort out my eating because it's ridiculous, "not good for me"  and makes others feel bad about themselves.
 
The same thing happened in a buffet last week.  The only food on offer was processed carbs (sandwiches, pies and lots of cake) no meat, fish, vegetables, fruit not even a salad leaf. I got quite anxious as I knew people were observing me (especially my partner who kept glaring at me). I had a small slice of pie and a glass of wine to be sociable, but I was called out when people noticed and made me feel like I'm ill or something.
 
I eat from every food group every single day (except grains on rest days).  Why is it being vegetarian, or vegan or koshir is fine, but not eating processed carbs is an eating disorder???  A vegan would have been screwed at the buffet as everything contained meat or dairy, but at least I ate something.
 
I'm fed up of trying to hide it and being forced to eat stuff I don't want to avoid embarisment.

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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 10:24:59 (permalink)
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Who told you you had to sort it out mate?

Why would your partner glare at you? Have you never discussed your reasons for eating 'properly' with them?

I'm recovering from an eating disorder and my family have been really good and understanding.. It's the cvnts at work that I have my issues with. I started getting real blunt with them and now I'm showing results, they all have nothing to say anymore..

Sorry to hear your at that point mate.. Don't hold it in anymore. Let fvcking rip.. It's your life!

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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 10:39:23 (permalink)
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It's tiresome isn't it.
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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 10:40:42 (permalink)
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It's my partner and family mainly.  I've described it to them many times, they understand it.  I've eaten like this for about 20 years now, so it's nothing new.
 
I admit, I used to have a disorder.  I would not eat anything without weighing it, would panic if presented with food which did not have a nutritional breakdown, and would sometimes chew and spit out food (it's disgusting and I've never told anybody).  I hardly ever weigh anything now unless making something from a recipe, eat much more relaxed and I don't own a weighing scales let alone a BF measuring device.
 
But, other people make jokes about it when they see me eating.  I try to avoid being seen with shakers or pro bars in the office.
 
It's just the last couple of weeks I've been told I need to sort it out.  It made me realise I can't and don't want to stop, and why should it be considered a 'disorder' instead of a lifestyle choice like veganism or whatever.

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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 10:50:05 (permalink)
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I experienced something similar with the question "why are you not having a drink", I drink very rarely but whenever we go out with work, or friends I get that question. It's fking annoying to keep hearing it, but I just realize that within the space of a few hours it will be over.
 
With the food habits if i'm cutting that becomes annoying to, its almost like I want to say just because I dont want to be a fat c*nt with a beer belly and no muscles im the one whos clearly mad !?! 
 
I think alot of people are jealous and that it comes out in this way of questioning. 
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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 10:53:24 (permalink)
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Yes, drinking is an issue also. If people see I'm not drinking they try to force me, especially my family.
 
I've also considered it a jealousy thing, in that maybe they would like to, but cannot give up processed food... I don't know...

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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 10:59:25 (permalink)☄ Helpfulby stinking_dylan 2015/02/27 11:02:07
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I get this alot, and in the end I just tell people that I have a gluten allergy that causes me severe pain and issues. That usually stops most people from pissing me off too much with questions. 

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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 11:03:19 (permalink)
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That's a great idea lone!  My partner wouldn't believe it and I wouldn't lie to her anyway, but it will work a treat on others!

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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 11:12:37 (permalink)
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This sounds like you're not really telling us the whole story, if you were at some social event and had some pie and wine it seems pretty normal to me.
 
That said, a little pastry or a few slices of pizza won't kill you. You don't have to eat it if you don't like it, and it's nobody's business, but I think it's unlikely that if you actually eat that food you will find it unpleasant, sounds more like you've mentally blocked yourself from eating that food because you see it as bad for you. Which kinda is an eating disorder, just not the kind that's actually bad for your health so there's no reason you have to change if you don't want to.
post edited by Uriel - 2015/02/27 11:14:53
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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 11:15:48 (permalink)
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But you do have an eating disorder?

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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 11:16:31 (permalink)
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Do you guys ever get told you have an eating disorder?
Do your friends or family think you're wierd or have to be 'cured'?


It is a bit weird though, to be fair. It's normal to us on a bodybuilding forum but, objectively speaking, eating a restrictive diet (and I mean restrictive in the qualitative rather than quantitative sense) in order to induce dramatic physical changes to your body, isn't normal. So if you do it, you just have to expect the inevitable raised eyebrows.

It's certainly nothing to do with jealousy as some are suggesting here. The majority of people just don't give a crap about their physical appearance.

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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 11:35:33 (permalink)
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I do occasionally eat things like pizza, bread and cake, but only when I'm ready for it (either carb loading for a race or a designated cheat).
 
Regarding having a disorder or not, this is the question really.  Why is not eating processed carbs (unless you are ready for a cheat meal) equate to an eating disorder, but being vegan (which is permanent and restricts far more foods) is considered acceptable? I don't get why one is socially acceptable and the other is considered wierd and needs 'help'?
 
About the buffet.  Nobody noticed until my partner pointed it out.  And she noticed because she observes me when I eat and clocked on to the fact that I had a single piece of quiche pie and picked at it.

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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 12:05:37 (permalink)
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Firstly I would stop making such a huge distinction between processed carbs and "clean" carbs. It's all carbs and unless you have diabetes I don't see it making much difference to your body. The problem with eating dirty food is more stuff like HFCS, trans fats, etc (which you can often also find in "diet" foods). But if you make a pizza or cake at home using good quality ingredients there's no reason those "processed foods" will really be worse for you than eating their ingredients separately.
 
Veganism is a fad. It's not frowned upon because it's fashionable.
 
Also it sounds like your significant other needs to get off your back.
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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 12:09:22 (permalink)
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All the food you mentioned sounds disgusting and I wouldn't have ate any of it myself, no one in my family would question me, and your partner shouldn't be, you've been like that for 20 years so surely she understands this now.

I wouldn't mix with people like that myself, you're not questioning there choices so why the feck are they questioning yours because you're not doing the same as them?

F*ck em I'd say!

I enjoy my oats and eggs, and chicken and rice, fruits etc, if there's none of that on offer then I won't be eating any of it.

Wouldn't give a damn what other people think either, let em keep thinking, I won't be losing any sleep, and feel any guilt when I scoff down my oats every morning.

I eat what I want to eat and if that doesn't fit in with others then tough luck.

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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 12:34:11 (permalink)
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My gf isn't into the same lifestyle as me at all but she weighs and cooks my food for me while I'm at work.

Veganism is different only in the sense that its an ethical choice. Not something viewed as extreme dieting or food paranoia by lay people.
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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 13:50:15 (permalink)
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This is the norm really. 14yrs at my job and I still get asked "what's that?" if I add water to protein powder.
I have a friend who's probably 3st over his ideal weight and says I'm doing too much in the gym and might put a strain on my heart.
Thank god for protein bars. No one ever clocks them
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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 16:57:05 (permalink)
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Do you guys ever get told you have an eating disorder?
Do your friends or family think you're wierd or have to be 'cured'?


It is a bit weird though, to be fair. It's normal to us on a bodybuilding forum but, objectively speaking, eating a restrictive diet (and I mean restrictive in the qualitative rather than quantitative sense) in order to induce dramatic physical changes to your body, isn't normal. So if you do it, you just have to expect the inevitable raised eyebrows.

It's certainly nothing to do with jealousy as some are suggesting here. The majority of people just don't give a crap about their physical appearance.



How can you say for certain its not jealousy, if people are aware that dylan trains and eachs a specific diet, they might just want him to follow the accepted way as they probably have tried and failed. If I was a fat, seriously overweight guy and looked at myself in the mirror i'd probably cry and hate on anyone who went to gym and was in shape.
 
 
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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 17:48:00 (permalink)
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At work I take my food in tupperware and most people are quite positive about it and say they wish they had the patience to do the same.
 
My missus sometimes refers to me being on a health kick, when I turn food down at parties or family gatherings and makes light of it with family etc. I'm not too bothered by it as it was much worse when I fell off the wagon in my early 20's and just ate sh1t and was drinking far too much, then everyone was saying you eat too much sh1t and drink too much, which I did but that was a stage in my life where I was in a bit of a not so fantastic place......... If I feel good, am seeing positive changes in my body and mindset then I don't mind what they say. At the end of the day if you aren't "everyday joe" who does as everyone else does - you will generate interest, both good & bad. At least you are getting noticed and not just one of the crowd mate.
 
 
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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 18:14:12 (permalink)
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The usual comment I get is "why are on a diet, you're not fat?"
 
Well it's not a diet in your socially accepted, woman's magazine sense of the word, and I'm not fat because I have a diet and I work hard in the gym. If that makes someone else feel guilty or unhappy about themselves, it ain't my problem.
 
Some people just don't get it. As previously said, its your life. All I'd say is be honest with yourself and know what the limit is so if you do take it to far, you recognise it and know to reign things in a bit.
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Re: Sick of being told I have an eating disorder 2015/02/27 18:36:03 (permalink)
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What fecks me off with this world, is you eat sh*t, drink alcohol every week and you're considered 'normal' but go gym and eat healthy and you're considered a 'freak'

Well in this case I'd rather be the freak although in my mind they're the freaks not me.

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