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2009/07/22 09:08:21 (permalink)

Thoughts on sharing domestic duties

Thoughts on sharing domestic duties
 
My wife emailed me earlier saying she was drawing up a cleaning rota, and subsequently we have exchanged some banter filled emails, about me not being on it. But there is a serious point, I work and average of 70 hrs a week, my wife 35, therefore I dont expect no will I accept being expected to do household chores.
 
I cook my own food (most the time), iron my own shirts, am not overly messy and we have a cleaner who comes in once a week for 2 hrs, so its not as if she's put upon too much.
 
Anyway, Im quite confident Im in the right and even if Im not Im unlikely to change my point of view, unless you good people can persuade me!?
 
 

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    mick_the_brick
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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 09:14:02 (permalink)

    I agree with you mate TBH.

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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 09:16:32 (permalink)
    Sounds like an issue that needs to be worked through with sensitivity and diplomacy IME.

    Thin ice ahead fella

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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 09:30:17 (permalink)
    lol


    you now in the danger zone. 
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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 09:36:45 (permalink)
    If I try cleaning the Mrs will only do it again anyway. I cook and do the garden, thats the extent of my duties. 
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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 09:38:21 (permalink)
    i agree with you, you shouldnt even be ironing your own shirts - put your feet up and watch tv

    How much does it cost to have a cleaner? I wouldnt mind someone cleaning my sh1t up for me
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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 09:46:18 (permalink)
    When you are given something to do involving clothes.........burn it, ruin it or destroy it. I guarantee you will never be asked to do clothes related stuff again. (This wasn't a cunning plan by me, I'm just grossly incompetent when it comes to clothes/Washing machines/irons)

    When you are asked to cook dinner, you will prepare the driest, most tastleless bodybuilding dish known to mankind. No more dinner duties.

    Hoovering/tidying up, I can't really destroy anything here and I don't mind doing it, only takes 15mins or 60mins at the weekend.
    I make sure to do it loudly tho, so she knows I'm doing it :)


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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 09:56:25 (permalink)
    70 hours per work..   yeah, 20 of those on here!!!!!!!!   10 playing solitaire!  Plus emails to the wife...  

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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 09:58:55 (permalink)
    70 hours a week... new job too.... my 2 choice words with one ending in 'off' comes to mind

    nuts to that!

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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 10:03:59 (permalink)
    Dan Nukem

    When you are given something to do involving clothes.........burn it, ruin it or destroy it. I guarantee you will never be asked to do clothes related stuff again. (This wasn't a cunning plan by me, I'm just grossly incompetent when it comes to clothes/Washing machines/irons)

    When you are asked to cook dinner, you will prepare the driest, most tastleless bodybuilding dish known to mankind. No more dinner duties.

    Hoovering/tidying up, I can't really destroy anything here and I don't mind doing it, only takes 15mins or 60mins at the weekend.
    I make sure to do it loudly tho, so she knows I'm doing it :)


    I did all that for years, until she found an ingenious way of retalliation.  She withheld sex.  I don't do silly buggers anymore.  I also do more housework than she.
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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 10:11:02 (permalink)
    id say your doing plenty by ironing and own food etc,its a joke to expect the women to do it all,mine does it all and i try but she is like a little whirlwind
    While in uni i get home first so get to sort it all out but for the most its her

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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 10:11:05 (permalink)
    Yohimbe

    Dan Nukem

    When you are given something to do involving clothes.........burn it, ruin it or destroy it. I guarantee you will never be asked to do clothes related stuff again. (This wasn't a cunning plan by me, I'm just grossly incompetent when it comes to clothes/Washing machines/irons)

    When you are asked to cook dinner, you will prepare the driest, most tastleless bodybuilding dish known to mankind. No more dinner duties.

    Hoovering/tidying up, I can't really destroy anything here and I don't mind doing it, only takes 15mins or 60mins at the weekend.
    I make sure to do it loudly tho, so she knows I'm doing it :)


    I did all that for years, until she found an ingenious way of retalliation.  She withheld sex.  I don't do silly buggers anymore.  I also do more housework than she.


    If she had a job, I honestly wouldn't mind doing more.
    In fact, I would do all the bloody housework if she was bringing money home...............for a while anyway.
    Not her fault tho, simply no jobs out there at the moment.


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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 10:13:15 (permalink)
    Yohimbe

    70 hours per work..   yeah, 20 of those on here!!!!!!!!   10 playing solitaire!  Plus emails to the wife...  

    BUSTED!!!!!


    I took out a conservative 1hr a day for posting.....(I also work weekends!)

    My username has nothing to do with my religious beliefs.....
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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 10:16:19 (permalink)
    Incredible Bulk

    70 hours a week... new job too.... my 2 choice words with one ending in 'off' comes to mind

    nuts to that!


    Yes that is pretty much my response, actually this rota business has been prompted by me giving her a flea in her ear about spending £10 a day on coffee and ****, and then the flat being a mess even though she gets up two hrs later than me and gets in 2 1/2 hrs earlier.

    My username has nothing to do with my religious beliefs.....
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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 10:31:45 (permalink)
    I agree with Dan, do everything badly and she'll end up doing it anyway!


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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 10:43:39 (permalink)
    None of you lot have learnt much about women!-just do it you'll never win.
     
    18mnths down the track when you sat all alone in your flat crying into your beer thinking "I wish I would have done that bit  of cleaning''.

    Theres more than one way to skin a cat!.
     
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    I'll cross that bridge after i've burned it.
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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 10:45:16 (permalink)
    It's a touchy subject. If you have a cleaner in for 2hours a week i'm going to assume that the toilet and shower get cleaned, general hoovering/washing floors, cleaning cooker tops and cupboard doors etc as that's roughly what we have done in a 5bedroom house with 2 bathrooms/utility room/kitchen/dining room

    How much is there to actually do? As you say you do your own ironing, most of your cooking.

    When i cook i clean up as i go or soon afterwards. We have a dishwasher, and recently our kitchen is a bit of a mess as i have stopped being the dogsbody that ends up loading it, putting it on, and then emptying 3-4 times a week.

    I have plenty of time on my hands as i am home a lot and not working that much - but i am adamant that i will not be picking up the slack that has appeared since we decided to get in a cleaner - as trying to get all anally retentive and drawing up a rota and hoping that 5 guys ageed 25-30 would stick to it.

    If the flat is generally a mess - what's the mess. Is it your missus leaving stuff around and not picking up after herself?

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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 10:46:37 (permalink)


    I do a lot of push ups and sit ups. And I drink plenty of milk.

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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 11:24:14 (permalink)
    Stick to your guns mate. Once you loose ground to a women you will never get the f*cker back.

    While were on -

    Why do women have smaller feet than men ?

    So they can get closer to the kitchen sink ...

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    Re:Thoughts on sharing domestic duties 2009/07/22 12:06:36 (permalink)
    My husband works much more than me, I don't even have a job at the moment because I am a flake. He makes the money, I sort everything else, cleaning, gardening, most DIY that I can manage, that's the deal in our house. When I have worked full time he's still always done far more hours than me (workaholic) so I've still done the cleaning. There's only 2 of us and some dogs, how much mess can we make?! If you tidy as you go and blitz once a week for an hour or 2, job done. As long as everything has a place to get tidied away to, it's fine. Storage boxes and labels are the answer!
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