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2015/02/03 11:21:28 (permalink)
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Valentines gift to spice up sex life

Okay is it a good idea? Married for a few years now with not much of a sex life

I've bought her a vibrator something she has never used before or owned, it's one of those rabbit things.

I've also bought a beginners bondage kit, nothing extreme just restraints tie her up and use her - this is really more a present for me.

I've told her our sex life is crap and it needs to improve, I suggested tying her up she said that would feel like rape to which I replied well so be it.

I dont think she will be offended by what I bought, maybe embarrassed.

I've read some of the reviews and it seems common place for men to buy their partners toys.


Anyone had experience with this, any bad reactions? I personally want to buy more stuff to try, I'm still young and don't want married life to mean no sex life
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Re: Valentines gift to spice up sex life 2015/02/03 11:25:19 (permalink)
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From the sounds of it id say it may not go down as well as you hoped. Off course it may,go down as planned with you spending,valentines day,tied down with your misses wielding her new toytoy :)
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Re: 2015/02/03 11:28:00 (permalink)
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Haha don't say that, when I suggested doing that to her she jokingly said strap on and that was it I didn't mention another word about it.

I've been dropping hints about it, saying how good a vibrator would be.

She's quiet and shy where as I'm not, so two different ends of the scale when if comes to anything sexual. Some might say im a kinky pervert
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Re: 2015/02/03 11:37:36 (permalink)☄ Helpfulby On The Flop 2015/02/04 11:55:36
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Re: Valentines gift to spice up sex life 2015/02/03 11:39:33 (permalink)
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Re: 2015/02/03 11:40:20 (permalink)
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It's a weird looking thing, but 700 reviews saying the women came in minutes
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Re: 2015/02/03 12:04:42 (permalink)
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If I'm honest mate, by what you have said, I can only see this going down like a bomb. I would try to find out and work on the cause of the lack of action in the first place. Lobbing a load of toys at her will probably just make her feel like you just want to use her (this is fine if you are single and sleeping around a bit), you need to work on that connection between each other to really get things moving again.

 



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Re: 2015/02/03 12:20:08 (permalink)
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Lack of sex life was from childbirth and stress, before this it was great lots of sex.

Watched a kinky film the other night and came over her tits, then two nights ago lots of sex. Think this is after I mentioned we need to do something about our sex life.

It's almost like the longer we left it the more difficult it was for one of us to make the first move, it sounds stupid not wanting to make the first move to start something but thats what it's like.

I read that it's good to try new things, she's that shy and easily embarrassed she's likely to deny she would love to try something even though she would secretly love it.

I do think this is something she will secretly love, just too embarrassed to admit it
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Re: 2015/02/03 12:24:47 (permalink)
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Sound like this is a job for Denbec !!
Give her my number 07795487403
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Re: 2015/02/03 12:43:08 (permalink)
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Denbec
Sound like this is a job for Denbec !!
Give her my number 07795487403



Not from what I've heard haha
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Re: 2015/02/03 13:09:02 (permalink)
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Denbec
Sound like this is a job for Denbec !!
Give her my number 07795487403



Not from what I've heard haha
ha ha ha it's all just vicious rumours lol
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Re: 2015/02/03 13:17:58 (permalink)
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Take her to a sex shop with you.
 
If she doesn't want to be tied up, tell her to tie you up and let her do all the work.
 
Spike her breakfast cereal with some proviron, it might put her in the mood lol
post edited by Uriel - 2015/02/03 13:20:07
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Re: 2015/02/03 13:23:07 (permalink)
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Haha, yeah then I'll get raped.

I've randomly been sending her reviews of that vibrator, I know that'll turn her on. So might be nice surprise when she realises I've went ahead and bought it.
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Re: 2015/02/03 13:36:29 (permalink)
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I'd say go for it! No harm in trying new things.
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Re: 2015/02/03 13:42:19 (permalink)
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I find the best use for a vibrator is providing vaginal stimulation while you're going down on her. Drives the missues crazy. Then you go in bareback to finish her off.
 
Those over the top vibrators/dildos are just a pointless waste of money for use during sex. They're really more for masturbation.
post edited by Uriel - 2015/02/03 13:43:28
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Re: 2015/02/03 13:49:14 (permalink)
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She's never used or owned a vibrator, she had a dildo I bought her once but she didn't like it.

Different with a vibrator though, I think she will love it even if she doesn't admit it - difficult to admit she likes it if it sorts her out in minutes.

I dont want to leave things any longer to the point that neither of us want to make the first move during sex.

Only reason we had sex the other night was because we both got a little drunk and exchanged messages while she was upstairs and I was downstairs and it worked.

I know people who are married and haven't had sex in years, I don't want to end up like that
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Re: 2015/02/03 14:04:32 (permalink)
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Sex toys can be useful but they're not a solution.
 
Some people get caught up in always trying something new, and then they have thousands in all sorts of crap stashed away that they don't use any more (since it's old news) and aren't having sex anyway because they can't find anything new to try out.
 
A healthy sex life starts with your mindset. If it's good, sex can happen anywhere, any time, and props are always optional, the only thing you need is each other.
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Re: 2015/02/03 14:24:35 (permalink)
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I know people who are married and haven't had sex in years, I don't want to end up like that

 
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Re: Valentines gift to spice up sex life 2015/02/03 14:31:55 (permalink)
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I've told her our sex life is crap and it needs to improve, I suggested tying her up she said that would feel like rape to which I replied well so be it.



I'm a big fan of sex toys but this sentence is really disturbing. If you tell her your sex life is crap then it's not going to make her feel very good and therefore even less likely to want to have sex with you. It would be much better if you said how sexy you think she is and how you want to try new things that will be a lot of fun and pleasure for you both.
 
Also, bit worrying that you're saying to her if she doesn't like something it's tough and you're going to do it to her anyway. Sex should be fun and a mutual experience not something you do purely for your own selfish pleasure without caring at all how your partner feels about it, that's seriously out of order.
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Re: 2015/02/03 15:25:13 (permalink)
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Would need to have been there when I said it to her, was said playfully and also because i think she would like it she's just too shy to admit it.

Also when I said crap I did say non existant, she knows herself it's crap we never have sex.

I'm up for anything, difference with her is she won't admit to anything. After I came over her tits I could tell by the look on her face she enjoyed it but she denied it - pushed her on it saying I knew fine well she enjoyed it and eventually she caved in and said okay I enjoy it.
Was thinking about getting the fifty Shades of grey books so she feels less shy and embarrassed about these things


So nothing is out of order, thanks for the input though haha :) your not married then or in a very long term relationship? When you are you know each other well enough when you speak to each other in a certain way...

She even suggested tying me down and getting a strap on, I'll tell her how disturbing and out of order she is for wanting to do something I'd hate - but that's life you can have a laugh and joke when your married



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