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2004/02/11 22:03:25 (permalink)
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What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding?

Well ladies, time to show your an independant woman and make that all important vote.
(P.S its okay to choose number 6, no one will think any worse of you)
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    levi
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/12 05:05:36 (permalink)
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    thats a really hard question to answer, as there are loads of issues i find mens and womens attitudes about the same though.

    the biggest problem seems to be why would i want to be bigger as women should be as small and unthreatening and not take up too much room in the world. while men the bigger the better its as if they are entitled to have more space than us.

    i find a lot and people dont understand my attitude to most things
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/12 10:14:17 (permalink)
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    i dont know many girls but of those that I do come into contact with...

    Snotty b!tch at work thinks it's WRONG and unfeminine and that i have far too much testosterone, and when I talk about how i'm going to go on stage in a thong she can barely hide her disgust!!!!! So I do it on purpose when I get bored. HA.

    I have a couple of female friends and they sigh and say they wish they could be fitter blah blah, they support me and say they want to come to the show and stuff. But they don't really know what it's all about, worry slightly when i say i'm dieting, and when they think I have got a little too muscley. But i prefer to take a break from the whole fitness thing when I spend time with them anyway, so it doesnt really come up.

    Random women at the gym sometimes say they want to look like me ;) ..but that's gym type women I guess, i cant imagine that the average girl on the street would want to look like I do, they want the stomach but not the arms and chest.

    As Levi says, same as men - those that are into the gym think its good, those who love you will support you no matter what, those who dont know you and arent into it, will criticise.
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/12 11:37:19 (permalink)
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    Most friends have seen my photos and seen me in the fleash at my biggest so they are quite encouraging. Other women don;t really comment as I do not bring it up and I dress so that you can't really tell!
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/12 13:35:49 (permalink)
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    well, athough I come on here for training hits etc, I don't really think of what I do as body building more fitness. I do try to go heavy with the weights though as I seem to get good results this way and like the really toned ( I know everyone hates that term!!) feeling. My aim is to look lean and I won't ever take anything to get bigger, I'm not against it it's just not my personal goal.

    That said I get fed up with people commenting if I say I'm going to the gym on a Friday night as if it's sad and I should go to the pub instead (one person even called me obsessively mental as I went to gym Fri, Sat and Sunday last weekend but Sunday was just for a swim, sauna etc, what better way to relax!!) and I don't mention to people if I'm pleased with going up on my weights for chest etc as I get the usual "Do you want to get all big and bulky then?" or "won't you get like an amazon woman"(????!!!!!) Even if I explain that it takes a lot more than a few heavy sets a week to build serious muscle you know they're not listening and don't really want to know. I think generally women are really uneducated on weight training and this makes them a little scared of it. Any one agree?
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/12 14:41:35 (permalink)
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    Some of the best responses I've ever seen on the board there.

    I know what you mean about people thinking you're obsessive Cat-Defender. Its true that some people are obsessive, but then if you go to the pub every weekend, thats obsessive too don't you think?

    Granted some people do spend too much time at the gym, hell though if that makes them happy, more power to them. Why should you criticze someone for trying to improve?
    Lazy and undermotivated people are usually the people doing the criticizing, people struggling that little bit for improvement are usually the ones who are criticised.

    I think it takes a lot more for a woman to participate in a weight related sport because like levi and gymbabeliz said, its considered good for a man to build himself, but not for a woman.
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/12 15:05:37 (permalink)
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    i have to say the gender thing doesnt really enter into my head, i have always been one of the boys so i have never felt out of place, the only difference for me is the divivion between people who train and people who don't. Very very occasionally I might have an awareness that other girls don't do this, but then i have never been, or cared to be, that much like other girls, plus I've always done an individual sport and pushed my body hard.
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/12 15:17:01 (permalink)
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    Well, I think thats acually a really good point that I've not heard too often. It frequently is that black and white.

    There are people who train & people who don't. Each side thinks the other is crazy for doing what they do(or don't).
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/12 16:52:24 (permalink)
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    generally they don't really understand why i weight train, as levi pointed out women are supposed to aim to get smaller, not bigger. sometimes i notice women staring at me when i'm doing cardio or stretching, not sure if its in disgust or admiration. my sister calls me 'manbeast' .

    like liz, the gender thing doesn't really enter my head. sometimes i notice that i'm the only woman in the weights room -went through a phase of trying to entice other women to join me but no luck- but it doesn't bother me at all.
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/12 18:54:51 (permalink)
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    i am very determined and single minded about most things, i think that scares men. they like you pretty and dumb, or clever and ugly, pretty, clever and strong women scare the hell out of them (not all men before i get flamed)

    from what i know of the other regular female posters here i think that applies to us all.

    in the same way people who are lazy in work also seem to be lazy about excercise, its a personality thing more than gender. but that type of personality is seen as good in men but not in women, luckily we are strong enough to fight back.
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/12 19:21:15 (permalink)
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    When most of the other women see my pics, they really want my legs or body but when then they see me in reality and see how "big/tall" I am then it's another kind of story....
    AND when they realize how much work is needed, they run away in disgust!!!
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/12 20:10:02 (permalink)
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    hmm... levi, haven't had the same experiences re.men as you. i'm pretty, clever, strong... the men at the gym respect and like me. i don't think they feel threatened. they just treat me like one of them (probably tone down their lewd jokes a bit for my benefit lol). non-weight training men have some kind of strange fascination with what i do. i usually get asked about my progress etc, sometimes they ask to see me flex (then i notice them slyly checking their nonexistent muscles :) ). i definitely get more hostile feelings from women.
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/12 22:38:43 (permalink)
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    i have had more negative stuff coming from men, but i come into contact with more men than women, so its not a fair comparison really. Most of the negative stuff has boiled down to them feeling threatened.
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/12 23:20:40 (permalink)
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    Do ye like it that men feel threatened?
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/13 04:57:20 (permalink)
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    no i would never want anyone to feel threatened. because its in a work situation and you dont fit the male idea of a woman it affects your career.

    i come into contact with equal numbers of men and women, and have a male and a female boss. the males definately dont like my mental strength. most women dont have a problem with it, but i work with strong women anyway.

    the only women who seem to have a problem with my attitude are the traditional m+s women, but that more my attitude generally than body building.
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/13 09:25:30 (permalink)
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    I like it if I'm the only girl in the free weights area and I also like it that I have better form than most of the guys (especially the new year crowd that are still hanging around!) Makes me feel good that I can grab a bench, do my sets and know that the true body builders can see that I know what I'm doing - also I've found that most of the people who actually know what they're doing in the free weights are are the nicest guys in the gym - maybe I'm just being biased now!!!

    Shouldn't really comment on any girls who might think I'm "weird" or "butch" to be diong that as I was taking the right mick out of the street dance class last night, I mean, what is that all about, the hair doesn't even move!!!
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/13 09:32:25 (permalink)
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    i dont care if men are intimidated, it weeds out the ones i wouldnt want anyway!

    Like one guy said to me recently, 'you've gone too far , you looked nice before, I would have f**cked you then, I don't think I'd want to f**k you now'....like, how devastating for me ?!! ???!!! Not.

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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/13 10:02:01 (permalink)
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    I hope you told him you'd never have considered it anyway, arogant g*t!!
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/13 10:05:59 (permalink)
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    quote:
    'you've gone too far , you looked nice before, I would have f**cked you then, I don't think I'd want to f**k you now'....like, how devastating for me ?!! ???!!! Not.



    Cheeky sod, you should have added, he wouldn;t have had a chance at anytime!

    I have noticed more recently that men are watching me more and more at the gym. There's one young lad who used to go to the local hard core gym and has admitted to me that he took roids and doesn't now. He asks me questions everytime I'm there. What's that for, Oh they're supposed to be good aren't they (squats?[:0]).... This week was funny he said 'have you tried that stuff?' and pointed to the numerous cv machines...I replied yes and he said he had tried 10 minutes on the treadmill and it killed him. He had been ready to gove up after 2 mins...bless him. He complains he can't grow but sits there reading mags and talking on his mobile[V]

    I have a sadistic enjoyment though of following a guy on a machine and whacking on more weight than him and then seeing his face[}:)].
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    RE: What do other women think of you 4 bodybuilding? 2004/02/13 10:32:54 (permalink)
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    quote:
    Originally posted by Cat-Defender

    I hope you told him you'd never have considered it anyway, arogant g*t!!



    just told him i was *really* gutted. No...*REALLY*

    In my 'softcore' gym, when I go in sometimes it seems like everyone has a comment to make. Overall the general point of view seems to be that I'm a little bit 'out there' but looking good. But often I get things like, 'You're starting to look scarey..you're losing your feminine ness....you're starting to look like a bloke' I take it all as a sign of progression, there's no way I look scarey in bodybuilding terms anyway. That just makes me laugh. This is mainly from the guys that used to enjoy a bit of a flirt with me, now I'm less sociable , more focussed, and I dont think they like it so much.

    There's one guy in particular who looks at me very scathingly saying 'you're getting too strong' , when I squatted more than him. So I said to him, 'I don't think so' He said 'well i do' . So I said Look, I'm sorry, is it frightening you' and he said 'yeah it is actually' . But this type of thing is from the guys that think they're all that , and i think it makes them feel like maybe they're not that macho after all.

    The guys that are there to train and who know what they're doing are much more positive. Some of the newer guys have asked me what they can do to build their traps and shoulders, which is nice to have a little respect.

    I do confess though I will quite often try to be scarey just for fun

    I like that, when I'm looking intimidating, people stay out of my face!

    A guy friend said (semi admiringly, semi intimidated) that now i look like my body is saying 'Don't f*ck with me', well good . I guess I wanted to say that all along.

    In the hardcore gym I have never ONCE been told I look too big/masculine/muscular, in fact when i go there people will advise me on what i can do to build up this or that bodypart etc, and certainly nobody mentions f*cking and whether they would do me or not [}:)]
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