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2009/07/29 15:10:13 (permalink)
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Workplace advice -how to get them done?

Right seems all i do on here is ask for advice! anyway.
 
Basically, my boss has been spreading rumours about me, and whilst im the first for a laugh and a joke, hes carrying on!
 
I found out a few days ago he said to another member of staff
 
"scott slept with xxxx but he has never admitted it."
 
Now I work in a center where rumours are on a par with AIDS and just run amok, but I was willing to let that pass.
 
Then today, anothermember of staff comes in to me and says
 
"Ive just heard a rumour about you, apparenly you were caught kissing xxxx"
 
Whn i pushed for who said it, it was the sae person, my boss. Now, this rumour has spread like wildfire and EVERYBODY where I work is having a laugh and a giggle at it. Again, i can laugh it off and they soon lose interest when they know the person isnt bothered about rumours.
 
But the fact he has done it twice in a couple of days actually wound me up so bad that I was on the brink of going into his office and threatening him. Luckily I was with a couple of people, and we laughed it off, and they went on to tell how he had started rumours about them too.
 
Now im constantly reading stuff in the press where people are suing for libel ect, and I have decided I want to look into taking the prick down for targetting me. Just have no idea where to start orwho to go to.
 
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    paulthebuilder
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 15:21:11 (permalink)
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    Libel action costs a fortune and if you lose, will likely bankrupt you.

    Do you have an HR department?
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 15:23:00 (permalink)
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    i do yes, iim council!
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 15:23:36 (permalink)
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    If anything it would be slander rather than libel. As always with these things the advice must be to start documenting things.

    You did gain far too much fat though,I mean,you're not muscular at all,you're just a fat mess.
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 15:24:14 (permalink)
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    Eek, meant to write "defamation".
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 15:25:39 (permalink)
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    ok whatever the term, do i have a case? ive just read of a muslim sueing tesco for making him handle alcohol! surely spreading rumours like this must be!!?

    Statements off witnesses wont be an issue i dont think
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 15:27:21 (permalink)
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    Just spit in his tea lol
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 15:29:19 (permalink)
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    Yes I think you do if you can prove and its not true. Look at it this way. If you were a woman and you boss was telling people you had slept with X, Y, and Z, then do you think she woudl have a case? Of course she would. The fact that you work in the public sector makes it even better for you as you have union representation which few private sector workers have these days.

    You did gain far too much fat though,I mean,you're not muscular at all,you're just a fat mess.
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 15:30:48 (permalink)
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    thats what i thought.

    I can get proof he is spreading this about no problem, but who do i turn to? im not a member of our union, but ther emust be other representatives i can turn to?
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 15:32:22 (permalink)
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    Can't help much there I'm afraid. Could you join the union? if not how about HR dept.

    You did gain far too much fat though,I mean,you're not muscular at all,you're just a fat mess.
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 15:33:10 (permalink)
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    You won't win a case with only hearsay as evidence mate.

    I got severley bullied by an entire team of 10 people for 4 months when I agreed to help my boss out. It started when I put in a complaint about their general behaviours and they all turned on me increasing the pressure week after week. I finally snapped after 4 months and spent a month on the sick, seeing a councillor and chugging pack 3 fluoxetine tabs a day.

    Despite all this, with credible witnesses who were prepared to speak up for me, and the team being well known as troublemakers the case got thrown out because all the evidence was word of mouth or what people had heard.

    As mentioned before, spit in his tea and leave it there.
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 15:41:29 (permalink)
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    not before i have explored the legal option
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 15:51:02 (permalink)
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    why dont you have it out with him? i would go talk to him see what he says! all else fails make some wild claims up about him! like he loves to be spanked by midgets in dragg!
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 15:53:05 (permalink)
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    Start spreading rumours about him, that he plays with himself under his desk or something.  Haha see how he likes it !
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 15:57:14 (permalink)
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    Have you sat him down and told him to stop?

    My username has nothing to do with my religious beliefs.....
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 16:06:24 (permalink)
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    I would seriously advise against any legal action in this case.

    Legal action on the whole is very expensive, time consuming and unpredictable: even more so with something like slander.

    You have no evidence. You have not suffered a quantifiable loss. In fact, the rumours about you don't even seem that harmful: saying you kissed someone sounds like a bit of banter to me tbh.

    Don't get carried away with the idea of litigation, it should be the last resort after trying other negotiatios first. In this case, it doesn't seem suitable at all, think that even a junior solicitor in a regional firm will be charging £120-£150 per hour, slander is something quite specialised anyway, don't expect your high street solicitor in Leicester to have much experience or expertise.

    My advice is to go and speak to him in a polite way, say that you don't mind a bit of banter, but feel that spreading unfounded rumours is not appropriate and damaging to your career prospects.

    Keep it light and informal, don't even dream about threatening legal action or even formal complaints, you don't want to be classed as a troublemaker by someone who is responsible for your career progression at the momen.

    If he isn't receptive, inform him that you want the matter resolved, and may have to go to HR if it isn't.

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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 17:14:20 (permalink)
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    Why not join the union and take their advice? You can join to claim retrospectively. Most also have free legal advice lines which can say you a few £££££.
     
    Realistically you would be looking at a bullying in the workplace claim. Some evidence to collect would be recording some of the things they are saying on a dictaphone/mobile and then make sure anything else such as defamatory emails are recorded too. Get to the union first - they won't stop you joining and you'll be able to take up your greivance immediately.

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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 17:51:11 (permalink)
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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 17:55:08 (permalink)
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    Get to the union, and for anyone else out there you can join unions even if there isn't one in the workplace. You pay by direct debit instead of pay packet and usually get the same support as other members.
     
    Might cost you £10 a month but it might save you a lot of hassle and solicitors fees.

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    Re:Workplace advice -how to get them done? 2009/07/29 19:19:11 (permalink)
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    Confront the boss, the behaviour is unacceptable.

    If this is not fruitful then set the hounds of hell on him aka HR.  Find out if your boss has slighted other people and go as a group.

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