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2008/05/22 12:51:31 (permalink)
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Your fit - your partners fat!!

OK, so a friend of mine is at her wits end, she is a gym bunny and as she has turned her body back to an amazing physique her partner has done the opposite, he has ballooned!!

I was asked to try and get some ideas for him to start exercising again, as I might be able to help - all he did was make excuses to me about not having time etc, I'd like to help but I'm a bit stumped - what should I suggest, he's just not interested in the gym.

Anything would be better even just to get him up and out, I guess.

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    cu3ed
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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 12:53:25 (permalink)
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    Sit him down and make him watch this...
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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 12:56:03 (permalink)
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    You cant make him do anything. If he doesn't want to lose weight then there is nothing you can do!
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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 12:57:57 (permalink)
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    i have got control of my physique and my missus has lost control of hers...

    already had a sit down chat about it all, very sensitive issue so i walked round the houses twice before being as blunt as a chainsaw.

    she has every excuse under the sun though...

    i'm sticking by my guns though, i dont find fat attractive nor appealing and when someone has no drive or ambition to stay healthy.

    beauty is in the inside but without attraction the former falls on death ears

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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 12:58:13 (permalink)
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    Like when men as for their women folk, unless he wants it, nowt can be done.
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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 12:59:38 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: MMA Guy


    i'm sticking by my guns though, i dont find fat attractive nor appealing and when someone has no drive or ambition to stay healthy.


    Do you find the fact she has no ambition to do "better" un-attractive?.
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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 13:04:15 (permalink)
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    yes cued... the lack to better ones self or at least have an ambition is very unattractive to me.
    She was on this fitness/health food kick with slimming world and lost a fair amount of weight.

    when i met her she was size 10-12...perfect

    now we are going the way of 14-16

    she takes any excuse to binge and creates everyone not to get back on the diet or go to the gym.

    meh, her body but nobody can force me to find it attractive the same way no one can force her to go back to healthy living.

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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 13:13:14 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: cu3ed


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    i'm sticking by my guns though, i dont find fat attractive nor appealing and when someone has no drive or ambition to stay healthy.


    Do you find the fact she has no ambition to do "better" un-attractive?.

    This would be the unattractive part for me in a partner.

    It's the mindset that goes with sports/hobbies/training etc.

    But as said, its up to him and he has to choose what he wants to do.
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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 14:18:17 (permalink)
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    Find it quite an un-attractive trait myself, I can understand outside problems, its just when poeple make a choies to do nothing, when they so eaily could.

    Should say im not talking just fitness/ looks or anything.
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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 14:23:13 (permalink)
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    Im lucky my missus trains and diets with me.


    I would not be impressed if she let herself go.



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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 14:27:27 (permalink)
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    My other half spends more time in the gym than i do. Never used to be that way, i think its because of the transformation i made, and the fact that she knows i find women who look after themselves attractive.

    P.S. Ive always said bollocks to people who say you shouldnt say anything if your partner has put on weight. Of course you should, if you are no longer finding your partner attractive because of it, and it is damaging your relationship, you must say something.
    post edited by Furyan - 2008/05/22 14:32:42

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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 14:31:22 (permalink)
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    Contentious subject. Though for me, it boils down to self respect. If you cannot respect your self, how can you respect other people?
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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 14:34:37 (permalink)
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    I would get her to step up and tell him straight "either do something about your lifestyle or im leaving you"

    We all make choices in this life and no one is forced to do anything, so if someone wants to let themselves go, then accept the consequences of those actions

    My current GF trains and this to me is synonymous with a healthy active lifestyle, i am not attracted to couch potatoes
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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 14:39:16 (permalink)
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    get her to drop a few comments about how fit the guys at the gym are, there is nothing more focused than a jealous guy...
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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 14:40:45 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: theiopener

    I would get her to step up and tell him straight "either do something about your lifestyle or im leaving you"

    We all make choices in this life and no one is forced to do anything, so if someone wants to let themselves go, then accept the consequences of those actions

    My current GF trains and this to me is synonymous with a healthy active lifestyle, i am not attracted to couch potatoes


    No pics no proof
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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 14:47:06 (permalink)
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    my mrs is 8 months pregnant and has gained around 3st. her incentive to get back to her size 10 former glory is that im giving her £500 to be spent on size 10 (only!) clothes, when she fits back into them
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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 14:49:08 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: Ak_88
    No pics no proof

    I see no need to post up pics of my current romantic interest because a few people have nothing better to do then to pry into others personal lives for entertainment purposes
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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 14:50:48 (permalink)
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    It not about going to the gym or being ultra strict its about self pride and confidence.

    If my wife was fat but was happy with herself and had confidence then I wouldnt have an issue.

    However if she let herself go and wasnt confident about the way she looked then I would say something.

    Im kept happy when she is happy.

    You cannot however make someone do something just because you do it otherwise he could turn round and say sit on your arse like me and eat the cakes otherwise Im leaving you.

    Ultamatums very rarely go hand in hand with a happy relationship.
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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 14:52:08 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: seanius

    You cant make him do anything. If he doesn't want to lose weight then there is nothing you can do!


    Agree with this.
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    RE: Your fit - your partners fat!! 2008/05/22 15:00:56 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: theiopener

    My current GF trains and this to me is synonymous with a healthy active lifestyle,


    I hope that's not how you introduce her to people.

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