RE: a hard time(not a joke)
Sorry to hear that, mate. I was the opposite. My dad was full of life and very vigorous for his age and then just dropped dead one day from a massive heart attack. I felt I'd been robbed because it was so sudden, but on reflection he would have hated going downhill slowly, losing his independence and becoming reliant on others. There's just no right answer, I guess. I hope everything works out for you.
Winners are just dreamers who didn't quit