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2007/06/16 17:11:21 (permalink)
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at what point should you stick to one

How far down the line should you commit to one girl and tell all your other rides that your in a relationship and cant shag anymore. is it when you have officially become a couple or when you first start dating? this has always confused me. i pride myself on never cheating on girl friends like all my mates but my recent girl friend we ve been seeing each other for few months but for first month of dating i shagged few my exs and others is this acceptable?
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    Welshy
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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 17:14:43 (permalink)
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    Oh dear god... call me old fashioned but I would never, ever even entertain doing ANYTHING with anyone whilst I was dating someone else.

    You can't be very interested in this girl if you've been bumping uglies with others, even in the early stages of the relationship.
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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 17:20:09 (permalink)
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    I think its exceptable, it not like you was official or anything. Anyway a lot of the time the 1st months is like the transitional stage from breaking up with an ex start seeing someone else. Just for the love god don't tell her, she kick your arse even though should prob did the same thing as you. lol

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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 17:24:14 (permalink)
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    I feel old now :/

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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 17:27:13 (permalink)
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    It's a hard one and depends a lot on circumstances

    If you percieve that maybe it's going nowhere then it's not an issue but a lot of it based on morals and your view of women in general

    If all you want is a standard timeline I'd say anything over a month and you're pushing it a bit too far
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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 17:38:21 (permalink)
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    If I'm with someone I like, and she and I both expect to have a mongamous relationship (ie a normal relationship) then I don't sleep with anyone else at any time, ever.

    Sleeping with others for the first month... god no. If I have found someone I like, then I need AND WANT only that one girl.

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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 17:45:23 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: Puzzle

    If I'm with someone I like, and she and I both expect to have a mongamous relationship (ie a normal relationship) then I don't sleep with anyone else at any time, ever.

    Sleeping with others for the first month... god no. If I have found someone I like, then I need AND WANT only that one girl.


    Mr Puzzle, you have just restored my faith in humanity !

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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 17:47:19 (permalink)
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    No i dont cheat and never do whilst in a relationship. but as soon as you start dating you should cut all other ties. this is a bit exteme dont you think. i have to say i did feel guilty goin wiv other girls but ill always assume they do the same until you become an offical couple.
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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 17:48:48 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: odog

    No i dont cheat and never do whilst in a relationship. but as soon as you start dating you should cut all other ties. this is a bit exteme dont you think. i have to say i did feel guilty goin wiv other girls but ill always assume they do the same until you become an offical couple.


    Why? ? ?

    Do you think it is fine to play the field when you are with something that you supposedly like? ? ?
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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 17:54:49 (permalink)
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    no i already said when im in a relationship i dont cheat. but if after a few dates your not sure where its headed why would you jump the gun and pressume you ll be together and abstain. what happens if it takes like 3mths to have sex thats hell of a long time to wait.
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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 17:57:00 (permalink)
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    To be perfectly honest if I have just started seeing someone, even just going out on a few dates, and found out he'd be doing someone else I'd be bloody furious !

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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 17:57:32 (permalink)
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    How does the female feel? ? ?

    If you want to gain respect from the female then you are going to have to make sure she doesnt feel that you want to just jump into bed, unless she is of the same thinking too, i.e. having sex after a few days or so.

    It is purely down to the individuals in the relationship.

    Dont go by time, go by how you feel, how you both feel and how happy you both are in the relationship.

    Sex is good in a relationship but you wont gain respect from the female in my opinion (unless she wants it as much as you do), if you try and bed her after a few days.
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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 18:01:38 (permalink)
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    From a female perspective, when I first met my partner I wanted to rip the pants off him !

    I was living in Swansea and him in Essex, we met at an internet forum meet of all places lol - in Swansea.

    We got chatting that night and really clicked, he came back to mine and spent the night but all we did was cuddle, we didn't even kiss.

    We then chatted on MSN/Email for a couple of months until we met up again and then I jumped on him

    It just felt so nice waiting for a little bit, getting to know eachother a bit more before jumping into bed together - the fantastic thing about this was that he knew what I wanted him to do to me beforehand because we'd be winding eachother up for weeks beforehand

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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 18:15:14 (permalink)
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    You can't have liked that girl much to be sleeping with ex's IMO.
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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 18:19:31 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: Big_Ad

    You can't have liked that girl much to be sleeping with ex's IMO.


    Exactly !!!

    I can't imagine starting something with a new person and having the slightest interest in anyone else. I'd be way too engrosed in the new one, otherwise what would be the point of getting into something new unless it completely pre-occupied you.

    IMHO of course
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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 18:24:11 (permalink)
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    As soon as things turn sexual in a relationship then I would stop dating other girls.
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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 18:26:44 (permalink)
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    ORIGINAL: Welshy

    Oh dear god... call me old fashioned but I would never, ever even entertain doing ANYTHING with anyone whilst I was dating someone else.

    You can't be very interested in this girl if you've been bumping uglies with others, even in the early stages of the relationship.

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    It's not a relationship if you're shagging about.

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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 19:22:32 (permalink)
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    fcuking hell how many more times shall i say i dont shag around when im with them. imwith her now so dont shag round there we go shall i say it once more. that wasnt the question. it was when do you cut all ties at what stage. never mentoned cheatin
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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 19:32:04 (permalink)
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    'other rides'


    hahaha
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    RE: at what point should you stick to one 2007/06/16 19:37:01 (permalink)
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    We know. The point being that most people consider it odd to be sleeping with other people when you're dating someone.

    You now say you're adamant it wasn't cheating, but the whole purpose of the thread you started was that you weren't sure. Which is it?

    Does your girl know you slept with other people in that first month or so? If not then it's probably because you know you've been cheaty cheater.

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